Originally posted by: amritat
Nice post, although I will respectfully disagree. 😊
First point - Why is Bajirao forgiving Balaji equivalant to betraying Radha Bai?
Ok, this might be a little complicated or out of place for a normal person and most would resonate with Baji and Anu Bai's view here. But take it from someone who has seen similar betrayal in her own family, when a woman's husband cheats on her, especially in the Indian society, it is not just painful but also extremely insulting. Although it is the man who cheats, the woman feels more shame.
In such a scenario, that 'shamed' and hurt woman clings on to the very first person who is closest to her - and in most cases, it is her children. When husband betrays, the child is all that is left to stay in the marriage for. In this whole incident, the wronged and isolated wife generally becomes possessive of her children and if not so, then atleast expects her children to stand up against their father, if need be. The last thing she wants is for her own offsprings to be compassionate towards the betrayal, the other woman or the love-child born from this affair.
I am not married myself, but I have seen someone very closely. So I feel Radha Bai's reaction was valid an d realistic, if not righteous. Ofcourse, there are some woman who can show a lot of large-heartedness, and accept the children of the sautan. But such women are rare. In most cases, women behave the way Radha Bai and Kashi did in yesterday's episode. So for that I will say, kudos to the CVs.
Now, one might say, in THAT era, women never opposed to such affairs. But if we judge the emotions of a human, keeping aside the age or era for a moment, then yes, Bajirao forgiving and accepting Balaji's mistress is extremely hurtful and insulting to Radha Bai. 😭I hope I could explain why...😊 I get what ur saying coz I have seen something very closely. A woman will never be able to forgive her husband for this betrayal. Yes the children become her only solace but it takes a great strength of character to raise ur kids in an unbiased manner and I have seen this happen too. I can understand Radhabai getting upset but one cannot ignore the fact that it was a dying man's last wish. No matter the differences between them, Balaji had been a loving father and an idol for his sons. Whether he deserved redemption or not he certainly deserved an opportunity to seek redemption.
Second - Why did Kashi behave like that?
The only issue I found with the scene was the timing. It is not appropriate for a daughter-in-law to argue on such matters when her FIL has just died.
But apart from the timing, her words touched the right chord for me. Yes, Kashi was insecure. But honestly, I found nothing wrong with that. Kashi is far from being butchered yet. The timing was wrong here coz there is no other woman in Baji's life and it was weird that she assumed her husband would follow her father in law's footsteps 😕 And her proclaiming she won't tolerate is a subtle hint for seeing an insecure, jealous wife once Mastani enters the household.
Perhaps Kashi said those words, bcoz somewhere in her subconscious mind, she has understood that if Bajirao can condone his father's adultery and accept his mistress with an open mind, then he himself will not hesitate to do the same thing later on. That is why, she requests him not to betray her ever. Good point 👍🏼
So, I found nothing particularly clingy or villanous about Kashi here. She is a human and has her own insecurities. The only thing that was wrong was the timing. And ofcourse, in those days, I doubt a wife could have spoken so assertively to her husband. But nonetheless, her insecurity was valid.
Ofcourse Bajirao has his own reasons to forgive his father, and he is not wrong from his perspective. But neither are Radha Bai and Kashi, if one steps into their shoes.
Rest, I agree...😊 Thank you and enjoyed reading ur post too 😳
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