Thanks for all the facts.
Polygamy and concubines may have been customary then. So, how much ever our hearts bleed for Kashi, we have to understand that Bajirao was like most other men of his time.
However, my bone of contention is the glorification of this affair as some kind of Amar Prem Gatha and the consequent defiling of the first wife to prove this affair to be some kind of classical love story. And what is even worse is the glorified portrayal of such kind of relationships of men in national television and Bollywood, which is otherwise not even comfortable to handle topics of sexuality when it comes to women. E.g. Lipstick Under My Burkha. In a way, this is very sexist.
The concept of Kings having concubines is accepted very easily but movies such as Kamasutra, Utsav, etc are seen as "dirty". I understand that centuries ago, women had a lot of restrictions and Indians were mentally confined to patriarchy. But today?
In 21st Century, we have evolved much from that orthodox, patriarchal mindset. Yet, sadly, even today, people( including women) oppose the idea of a woman's sexuality but are absolutely fine with stories like Bajirao-Mastani. That is where the hypocrisy lies, which is so intrinsic.
And one more thing...the idea that modern men have extra marital affairs bcoz their wives are busy with jobs and kids...that is a very unfair reasoning even it's true... 😭 What about these busy wives? Do they not have carnal urges? How do THEY control it?
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