Originally posted by: Roohani27
First of all, hails!!!!
good to see you back here and having unbiased take on episodes/scenes lol
@Bold Same. I didn't find any of his questions before CA wrong-except when he accused her on the road-. I don't blame him for that as at his place any spouse would have and what Raavi could've done was simply make him understand or give him assurance that he might be over thinking that is not the case but she acted as if she doesn't care she's the one who let a stranger/boss/dost se badhkar in her relationship knowingly or unknowingly and then acted as if she's trying to save her relationship while creating more mess. In that whole catch-the-hacker drama too she was unreasonable. Even in yesterday's confrontation she blame it all on shweta and Shiva lol
Rooh🤗🤗. Good to see you here as well. So here's my take on everything. Raavi hasn't realized her mistakes. But her yesterday's anger was justified. She was too hurt to realize that. Yes, she needs to be shown mirror too of her mistakes, but it wasn't the time for that. I think this time, her experiencing what Shiva did would have been right.
Originally posted by: nami2811
@bold.. Sorry I totally disagree. Any sane, educated, broad-minded person wouldn't question his wife just coz her colleague enquires about her health or drops her home or helps her and her family in crisis..
I personally felt she was composed and to the point in the confrontation yesterday. Didn't speak too much nor too less. She just said the truth. Whatever she does he will always have this shaq ka keeda..
Hi Nami,
Sorry, I actually agree with Rooh in that one. Here's why. I am an educated, broad-minded person. I travel fairly good but for work. Had my boss for whatever reason took me to a shady place and asked me to just join him wherever he's taking me and to simply "trust him," as an adult woman, you can bet that I'd have my guards up and wouldn't step in that place without knowing why we're going inside. And not to forget that when Shiva was there to console her, out of the blue, Raavi was like I didn't want to tell you cause you'd get mad and "mujhe sirf Arnav ke pass jaana hai.'"
How is that justifying it? If you love someone, anyone, and you know he/she was molested, I bet your first reaction would have been the same as Shiva's. And when that person is your wife and she tells you that no, not you, but I just want to be with another man, yikes. That's below the belt. And then to add it to his views, he sees them hugging for no rhyme or reason and going in that shady lodge's room which typically has a rep of ykw(my memory is a bit blurry, so apologize if it's out of order).
Shiva was wrong in questioning her on streets for that. What he should have done was let the tamasha play out, gathered the info from others in what just happened and questioning her in their bedroom when they were alone.
@Bold, here's the thing though. It wasn't just that. That said collegue crossed boundaries when he turned up. If you're married ask yourself, if you/your spouse normally comes home some other way, is it normal for your you/spouse to be dropped off at home randomly? If it was okay, why wasn't he invited inside a thank you gesture? If somebody goes out of their way to drop me off because it's late, sure I wouldn't think of anything, but you bet it's something I would talk about it to my family abt how because of xyz, abc was nice enough to drop me home. If a car breaks down or whatever, I'd also text my family, esp husband that "hey! Going to be late, xyz happened and since it's late, abc offered a ride and I'll be home asap "
The said collegue also shows up on holidays uninvited. Idk about others, but I'd be livid if my husband's new collegue/boss randomly showed up at my door with gifts for every family member, without being invited. I would have had conversation on how he needs to set boundaries asap. And then this collegue also is at the hospital, holding her hands. Shiva didn't know Rishita told him. What he knows is that his wife "was pregnant" and just had abortion. You can't expect him to know that the hospital reports were manipulated. And then he sees them holding hands and hear's something out of context with double meaning. Of course there would be questions. Again, the questionning of his presence wasn't wrong. And again, it should have been private, he should have given her chance to explain, and validated that info.
If my husband had a surprise surgery that I just learned about, I would definitely question why is this new collegue/boss there? Why was I not informed before this girl? And then to see them holding hands and hearing partial truth, yeah it hurts. I'd be questionning him and there would have been convos on setting boundaries again.
I said this before too when it happened. I think its unfair to say Shiva didn't trust her. Because that's requesting for blind trust. Also, in a relationship, you evolve and do things that work best for your relationship. Raavi knows Shiva is possessive. They've had issues in their relationship due to communication time and again. If trust is an issue for Shiva then communication is an issue from both ends as well. She knows how hurtful it can be from last year's debacle. Yet, she hasn't realized that it contributed to what led to this situation again. Raavi's communication gap and inability to keep professional boundaries w/ colleague led to this mess as well. In this whole thing, imo, the ratio of Raavi and Shiva's share of fault in this mess is 30:70. But yeah, yesterday wasn't the time for that realization. She had to let out her anger for the humiliation she faced. Shiva takes a larger ownership because of the accusations and the words he used, in my pov.
However, seeing the precap, I hope it's a dream. Otherwise, Raavi's going to bridge that gap too.
Edited by Mountains_Lakes - 1 years ago
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