Why is Sartaj so aloof from Harleen?

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Srushti

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Posted: 7 years ago

Why do you think that Sartaj always used to stay aloof from Harleen and appeared rude to her?

Is it really his fear that he might hurt her? Or is it his chauvinistic attitude disguised under his fears?

Anyone having any answer, pls reply.

Edited by Srushti97 - 7 years ago

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msnautanki

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+ 2

Posted: 7 years ago

And he's gotten friendly with Indira so quickly

Poor Harleen

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barbieindia

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Posted: 7 years ago

Sartaaj first showed his anger and frustration on harleen. his anger upon himself was showed on harleen whenever she showed up to bond with him. that was the first distance. with veera's little push he thought of bonding with her

then he started to think he is inferior to harleen because of the way she managed the house for 17 yrs and how he lost 5 lakhs easily. maybe he felt he is not handling his responsibilities that was expected from him. that again caused a little rift.

Sartaj has these both reasons that is stoping him. he always needs a little push either from imaan or veera or anyone to move a step towards harleen. he really cares for his wife but he could not overcome his fear, his insecurities about himself all by himself.

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TheMachine

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Posted: 7 years ago

Well, if we go based off of what Sartaj himself has said, then the answer is that he's afraid of hurting Harleen. But if we go off his actions, he's threatened by Harleen and her strength. It's the part of him that says the man should be the provider. Or at least not just sit at home and do nothing. I think he feels really useless right now. He wants to help and prove himself, but it hasn't been working out, and he takes that out on Harleen. He sees her as successful and capable and the son, and that bothers him a lot.

As for the chauvinism, I don't really sense that. If he was a chauvinist, he would think that he's superior, and I get the exact opposite vibe from Sartaj. He has an inferiority complex because of his idea of gender roles. Until he learns that he doesn't have to prove anything to anyone (including himself), he won't let himself get close to Harleen.

Edited by TheMachine - 7 years ago

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Ram Chai Waala.

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: TheMachine
Well, if we go based off of what Sartaj himself has said, then the answer is that he's afraid of hurting Harleen. But if we go off his actions, he's threatened by Harleen and her strength. It's the part of him that says the man should be the provider. Or at least not just sit at home and do nothing. I think he feels really useless right now. He wants to help and prove himself, but it hasn't been working out, and he takes that out on Harleen. He sees her as successful and capable and the son, and that bothers him a lot.

As for the chauvinism, I don't really sense that. If he was a chauvinist, he would think that he's superior, and I get the exact opposite vibe from Sartaj. He has an inferiority complex because of his idea of gender roles. Until he learns that he doesn't have to prove anything to anyone (including himself), he won't let himself get close to Harleen.

+1. Along similar lines.

I don't think Sartaj is particularly pissed at Harleen. He is more disappointed at himself. Harleen is just the easiest way to vent his frustration. I don't believe he takes her for granted. On the contrary, he sees how much she's done for the family and feels like a failure in front of it. He specifically told that to Imaan, the one person he wouldn't lie to. There is no chauvinism, but actually, a deep sense of burden. He doesn't even recognize how much he takes her to be family by that. You can't get agree at someone you don't care much about, unless they've specifically harmed you. Harleen does everything right, while he can't even put stamps on letters anymore.

He's scarred. Love, and only love, can heal the open wounds back.

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1019702

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Posted: 7 years ago

Reason being ...He feels She is superior to him , how he is Useless and Harleen The Strong Woman somewhere hurting his Male Ego , that she has done Ehsaan on him by giving 17 years of his Life to Family .

About the point Sartaaj giving much attention to Indira , though we see that both Indira and Harleen are motivating Sartaaj ...but the only reason I see Sartaaj being more inclined towards Indira because there is no Guilt between Sartaaj and Her . where with Harleen ...he'll always have a Guilt , a Ehsaan that she has done on him and that is which will stop him from loving her Entirely coz everytime He'll feel that Harleen by loving him is again doing some a Ehsaan on him . Kind of Boj will remain on him , so wont be able to give her that unadulterated Love which she or every other woman wants from her Husband

Harleen need to make him understand that whatever she did in last 17 years for the Family , was for her own Selfish reasons , coz she loved the Family not because it was her Duty .

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