I agree with you . She has NOT set herself free from the burden of being accountable to V's problem . What she has done is attempt to let go factually , but has not succeeded psychologically . Indeed its NOT her place to try and get them back together ...and indeed she should simply state her decision , and walk off . Thats what CP did .
But CP is a sanyasi . She has renounced accountability to ALL ...not just to her former lover IMV .😊 She has renounced accountability to even a little girl ...Devaki , who was left in the clutches of an alcoholic father to fend for herself with her own karma . She renounced accountability to her old father 's grief ...she knew very well he would perhaps die of shock upon hearing of her tragic death in the accident . IMV is door ki baat ...renouncing accountability to little Devaki's burden was far more tougher ...and If she could do that , she REALLY renounced the world ...she took SANYAS .
Sabina is NOT a sanyasi . She is very much in the common human world . Why expect this sanyasi mentality from her ?😊 Her story , in my opinion , shud be viewed like any other common human's story . Its her struggle with HER pain and Her Love .
Just like IMV has HIS story of HIS love and HIS pain . Its His struggle .
Not every one can be like CP and set themselves free this way . Very few people in this world will be able to come to that level where they will be able to let go of their accountability to human relationships .
For CP to come to this point ...this renunciation point , she endured terrible PAIN on every level . It was NOT just her love story with IMV that made her renounce the world . She had a bad marraige and a brutal alcoholic husband ...her life sunk to a zero level . So much so that she welcomed the accident as a release from her first life .
Sabina has NOT led that life . She has not married AT all . she has no children ...she is financially independent unlike CP . CP's financial dependency and traditional outlook of staying put in a marraige arranged by father , however bad it is by giving up protest of ANY kind led to the breaking point and her subsequent renunciation . Sabina , who is a film actress , moves in bohemian circles and HAS the capability to walk out on any situation in llife ...She has the capacity to care a fig about social norms and divorce a husband like Dali and stay like a single mother with her daughter .
CP did NOT . Sabina's financial independence and strength binds her to the world with the false sense [ spiritually speaking } that I am the Doer ...which happens with hundreds of human beings . CP 's utter helplessness freed her from this sense of Doership ...she understood that nothing is in one's hands ...simply accept all that comes ur way and walk with the flow . Paradoxically her helplessness set her free .
But Sabina who is anything but a helpless woman ...retains the sense of Doership . So does IMV , as his financial strength gives him that false ego , that he can indeed effect change .
You urself said that each one's individual experiences shape each one's thinking . When CP's experiences r vastly different from Sabina's ...why expect same attitude to life from them ?😊
The commonality between the 3 women ...CP , Sabina and Rajvi is that they have men passionately in love with them , but they have opted to accept what fate ordained for them . But it ends there , this commonality . HOW they deal with this letting go process is strictly individualistic . CP and Rajvi r the types who listened to their fathers and accepted what came their way ...neither r both financially independent nor non traditional . CP's fate was bad , her husband turned out to be a first class loser ...Rajvi's hubby was good , and bearable . CP chose to run away , Rajvi found sticking on tolerable .
The mental detachment of all 3 women should not be compared in my opinion ...as their lives r vastly different . The pain levels r different ...the circumstances r different .
The only common factor is they all 3 have marvellous control and the ability to endure .
Sabina was going to go back . The card changed things . It induced a sense of guilt in her ...a sense of accountability not to V but to D . He was NOT giving that young girl a proper marraige as he was NOT over HER . A compassionate woman , she was stirred , and she decided to put things right for D .
The sense of guilt was not misplaced nor was it megalomania . It was indeed the truth ...V took zero interest in D coz he loved Sabina . He was simply not getting over her .
The sense of guilt was human . CP did away with all senses of guilt when she renounced the world ...even with the sense of guilt of abandoning Devaki .But thats not an oridinary human reaction at all .😊 Its happens once in a million ...expecting Sabina to have this detachment mentally is unrealistic . Even Rajvi will not have it ...she plodded in her loveless marraige for 8 years only due to her attachment to her child .
If what Sabina is doing is nothing short of sucide , what CP did with her entire life is nothing short of suicide too . Never protesting , suffering alcoholic abuse , giving up her daughter and walking out ...till she found her peace , she too voluntarily suffered .😊
One day Sabina too will find her peace , . But I will not expect CP's level of detachment from her right now .
As far as her speech goes , I do NOT find her lying . She made two references in her speech about LOve as SHE comprehended it ...
MAR MITNA ...which she practically practised herself as she took a bullet literally for Vaibhav
Letting go ...which she practically , if not mentally , practised herself .
As far as Devki goes . its too early to predict that she will have the same level of detachment as her mother and will psychologically let go just like her mother . Firstly , she has nothing yet to let go of . Secondly , the sense of detachment is arrived at due to individualistic experiences , it is not inherited .😆😆 and Devki's life has been VERY different from CP's . She has studied in London , She is financially independent and she is in love with a man who does not return it ...unlike her mom who was a simple stay at home mom and had been in love with a man who returned her love with passionate ferocity ...IMV .
I would not be surprised if D 's way of letting go wud be entirely different than her mom's . She IS different compared to her mom in some ways ...IMV once commented on it . He told her CP did NOT have this ZID in her ...she simply accepted life as it is . You are different . IMV's words .😊
Like Sabina D does have the tendency to 'set things right ' for others . Sid's painting , for instance .😉
So lets wait and see .
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