Originally posted by: IFLove
Anki...you should watch previous 2-3 episodes. I don't think they were as bad as they were portrayed to be here. I was banging my head while reading the comments k itna kya hua hai bhai😆
Most of the times, people judge a character very harshly, itv audience are use to see the lead characters as perfect and when a real life character comes in one of the rare shows, we can't take it, we find it "disgusting", to put it in the words used here. No real character is white or black, it is always grey, it does have faults. I have people in my life who don't like to socialize, who are rude if you try to go close to them because that is their defence mechanism if you don't respect their choice of staying alone, staying isolated is just their nature...that doesn't make them disgusting!
Coming to Amber, come on, he is not a young man who is getting married for the first time. Add to it, he has this weird nature. When we judge his behaviour, we have to consider his point of view wrt his nature as well! Just because he is in love, his nature shouldn't change drastically, yeah that's how they show on ITV that the AYM suddenly turns into ideal lovey dovey man after love realisation, but doesn't it look too fake? I am glad Amber has not changed so drastically. He wants to be the loving guy for guneet but he can't help his nature and that's the most real thing I can see here in the show. It is his nature that he doesn't like to mingle with people, and this was not because of his grief of losing Anjali, he was like this when Anjali was alive too, so let's not tag him as someone immature who couldn't handle the grief. He did it well, and it shows in how beautifully he has done the upbringing of his daughter (yes she's still immature, but she is quite understanding, empathetic, she makes mistakes but knows to admit them, she's talented)
Yes, it is second time for amber and first time for guneet, she definitely has her dreams n amber should try to fulfill them. And he did. He did go through all the taamjhaam of Engagement function, he tried to behave when Pammy was passing remarks on him, he did go along with the photoshoot which was definitely not easy at his age n for his nature. He tried! He was also trying to convey that he was not happy with the circus. When nobody listened to him for once, he was bound to loose it...and we know how someone like Amber reacts when he looses it. Like Nia said, everything he does is extremely, his love is extreme, his anger is extreme. He did say some hurtful things to Guneet which an ideal man shouldn't, but amber was never ideal, what he did was so much in character. He realised his mistake within moments n he apologized n that's how amber is! Guneet understands him perfectly that it is wedding of both of them, not her alone, if they give even a little importance to his wishes and balance out the things, he wouldn't crib. If they talk and discuss first, he will happily put a foot forward for guneet, let go of his court marriage ideas n do all the rituals, all he wants is less taamjhaam, less people, lesser shor-sharaba. Heck in my late twenties, I feel the same...he's 50 for god's sake. He is bound to feel awkward. This is a story of a middle aged couple n they will have to face these issues because no, age is not just a number in real life! In no way I am saying that guneet should make all the compromises for him, he must do too as he should respect the dreams of a first time bride, both of them should come forward a bit and they will... n it will be a happy affair. The only point is for someone like amber who can't express, which is again normal as there are a lot of people in real world who can't express, will not be able to discuss his issues unless the other people understand what exactly he wants. So till that discussion and understanding happens, these frictions will happen and understanding eachother is a gradual process which will happen over a period of time, I am so very glad that it has not happened overnight just because they fell in love!
And lastly, as for his mentions of Anjali, Anjali is a dead person, she is not alive anymore. It was not a divorce on bitter note that amber wouldn't like to talk about her, unlike Dr Anurag. Till this point, Anjali was always a casual topic of discussion between them, before the love realisation as well as after that. Heck, the first thing Nia did after accepting guneet was introducing her to Anjali as her dad ki dulhan, she took her to her photo frame as if she was welcoming new person in Anjali's house or family and Guneet was totally okay with it. So nothing of the sorts has happened that would imply to Amber that guneet doesn't like hearing about Anjali. Once again, this is a story of middle aged couple, not teenagers or youngsters. At this age, you accept the exes of your partner n talk about them openly, especially when the ex is no more n there was no break up on bitter note. Amber nowhere compared guneet with Anjali. He didn't say Anjali looked better than guneet on her wedding day or Anjali's choice was better or something. He was happy with Guneet's choice, he told her to buy whatever she likes. But when she insisted he should help her choose, he just stated his preference that he likes light shades. Guneet was skeptical how it would look on a bride, so he gave example of Anjali that she did look beautiful in pastels. Again, while choosing his clothes for video call, he stated that he looked dashing in his wedding clothes. He is a man of different generation n he would like things of his times n he just casually gave the examples because they were always open about Anjali's topic. Coming to Guneet, yeah, she will feel bad when Anjali is being referred to as bride of her husband to be. That doesn't make her insecure or hurt but feels just a bit off. Amber should have noticed it but he didn't, and that's again amber! Like he said to Hakim about kissing a woman, that he had no woman in his life for so many years, he doesn't understand how to do it now, similarly here, he doesn't realise how to behave with a woman because he had absolutely cut off himself from all the women all these years, he does things even without realising that he shouldn't be doing them. Now when Nia makes him realise, he will understand them n repent. For him, like Nia says to him, Anjali will always be a part of his heart n he has created a space of her own for guneet n he believes that guneet has accepted it this way, which she indeed has. It is about time that he realises that guneet should not be reminded of his relationship with Anjali time n again as guneet is going to be his wife now.
Long story cut short, before we judge amber, let's put ourselves in his shoes, let's not compare him with a benchmarked ideal person, let's look at his actions as per his character, age and nature and understand that every ex is not a bitter memory, the exes who are separated from you as they leave this world always remain a part of your life, their references in your discussion are as casual as a character in any storytelling. Talking out n time is the only solution for every issue that takes place between amber guneet Nia and that's how they will sort it out. Let's not expect overnight changes in characters and everyone turning perfect because if there's no friction, nothing will be left in watching a show. Let their relation grow organically.
Sorry for such a long rant but I was pissed reading time n again that amber is disgusting. Because I know you, I chose to vent out on your post😁 n I urge you to watch the episodes that you have missed n then decide for yourself. Let me tell you, they were beautiful, because you don't get to watch such normal real Shaadi preps on ITV everyday...either some weird forced Shaadi happens or some planning plotting is happening behind the scenes by the villains n vamps. There was such a feel good vibe in these Shaadi preps episodes, I totally loved the realness in these episodes n so I highly recommend you to watch them.
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