You know Farhad's advice
"That being said Bhabhi, I want you to come back to Anna - not because you feel pity for him or you feel that is the right thing to do for whatever be the reasons. I want you to come back to Anna because you want to and because you know that your heart beats only when it is entwined with Annaβs. It is going to take time to get to that part so I am going to stay here till then. "
is probably some of the most supportive advice a friend can give their friend in these kinds of situations.
I gave my friend similar advice before when she was in a situation of betrayal. I asked her if her love for her spouse was greater than the hurt he caused her. If their love was worth preserving or not. Whether she thought life without him would be better than life with him, no matter how much he had hurt her.
Sometimes even the people that hurt us the most are the ones we go back to the most because being without them is worse than just working through the pain they caused.
Yes I agree - you should be with someone because staying without them will be miserable to you. That being said you should give yourself a chance to heal before you go back or otherwise the hurt will start to pile up and then the relationship will break in no time. That is why I want Pallavi to take a step back.
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