Vindu Should be more Humane..... - Page 3

Originally posted by: sweta01

LOL.. comment on what is shown in the show is absolutely fine.. 😳 but when someone writes they should divorce.. it is taking things to far? I meant who are we to tell a person what he or she should do with their marriage, life etc.

Originally posted by: Shizaru

Sweta my like button doesn't work when posting from my phone, if it did I would hit it a million times! At last another voice of reason along with Arjun. I felt as though I was losing the battle against blatant prejudice shown towards a non indian living happily in India...a choice she has made! Living abroad we know how hard it is to keep a balance of the culture we are born into and the country we are born in. I hope its a minority who feel she needs to go back to Russia or worse still stay in India and forget all things Russian! Her daughter is delightful a real credit to her Russian Ma and Desi Pa!!
Zeus is cute too both kids too young for ppl to be judging their behaviours so harshly!

@ Sahana_125.... Dear, not everyone goes to each thread and read each post. I have read some random posts in various topics. It may be that at times we do not have time to respond to those posts too let alone all the posts.. so we just read them. It is not necessary that we agree to a post if we have not quoted and written on it. We just chose not to respond and ignore cos some members don't like personal comments on themselves which some members tend to do. For your kind info I have not even read all the posts in this topic before my first post. I just read the opening post and made my post. This topic itself talks about what a couple should do in the private life and not really about what happen in the show.

Members going personal with each other is a complete no no.. Sadly there is no active DT in this forum, so members are taking matters in their hands.

i know that members dont like personal comments on themselves, but when a member makes a personal comment against another member then is it really wise to just ignore that comment? Well that judgement is upto each member not me, but i am glad you agree that it is not ok to do that.

Originally posted by: Sahana_125

i know that members dont like personal comments on themselves, but when a member makes a personal comment against another member then is it really wise to just ignore that comment? Well that judgement is upto each member not me, but i am glad you agree that it is not ok to do that.

See, it is not always possible to make comments on each post which is bashing another member.. some do and some report which is the best way where there is active DT.. Because by commenting on the rude posts the topic goes out of hand cos the basher continues to comment rudely and war of words beings and what remains are just arguments in that topic and no discussion on the topic matter. That is why report button is there so that if a member founds the comment inappropriate on another member or on a contestant then the DT can have a look into it. If you go to an active forum there will be many cases as such since this is not very active forum there are few instances which come to the notice. :) Like I said since there is no active DT in this forum, ye haal hai otherwise all would have been taken care of.

Now if you see I just gave my views but the topic starter told me that I am giving a lecture... was that appropriate?.. but if I had also given a same reply to him then may be he would have again come back at me and words exchange may be.. but instead of taking it lightly... the matter ended there itself at least I hope so... :)

oh and of course it is not ok to comment rudely on members which each member should take care of.

@Sweta We all live and learn sometimes best to ignore and sometimes necessary to stand up and speak!! Horses for courses :) I hope by tomorrow we all have someone else's exchange to "discuss"...

Everyone should stop getting angry at eachother.....LOL

Personally I dont blame Dina for anything she is doing her best. I am afghan and my cousin married an indian girl who was born and raised in Canada and her parents were also born and raised in Canada. They dated for 5 years before getting married and it has been 3 years since they are married so they have been together for a total of 7 years and she still does not know a word of our language. She never took the initiative to adapt to any of the culture or traditions and their wedding was totally indian style with no hints of afghani culture.

Now i am not blaming her for anything because even though she was born in Canada she remembered all her traditions and didnt miss anything on the wedding. I blame my cousin for forgetting his roots and not including any of his traditions which made the whole family upset at the time.

So even in this case, Dina actually speaks in hindi and lives close to her in laws and is at the same time teaching her kid all about her russian roots. There is only so much a person can do. She doesnt make indian food because she cant cook it and maybe she cant digest it or something, we cant expect her to forget everything about her roots and adapt into a new one completely.

However, it is Vindu's fault for forgetting his culture and traditions. Instead of talking in english with his daughter he can talk in hindi with her so she can pick up a few words. Dina is doing her job as a mother just fine. They have very well mannered kid but Vindu should take responsibility and pass his heritage and culture to his daughter.

Originally posted by: sweta01

Vindu and Diana are married to each other and what they decide to follow for their child, family it is entirely up to them. Who are we to question them why they are following a certain thing. Everyone follows what is known to them and what they are comfortable in it.

When the family is nuclear most the time what the lady of the house knows or follows, she will try and do those things only as she is running the house which is no surprise. Even when both the parents are of Indian origin but from different states, it happens that the state to which the mom belongs would be followed mostly especially in food patterns cos she knows that the best. When both the parents are of different culture it is the responsibility of the father to teach the child his culture because he knows that the best.

Whichever custom is being followed and the partner whose custom is not being followed have no problems then who are we to take objection. It is their family and let them decide what is best for them. At least they are living happily that was ultimately matters and nobody have a right to comment that one should divorce the other. It is their life and from the looks of it they seems very happy together and so much in love. So why should they break their marriage and put the child through pain. So kindly lets not comment on those lines.. Let each one live their life their own way.

A couple may teach whichever custom or habits to the child what ultimately matters is that the child turns out to be a nice human being.

Very true Sweta. Even my parents are from different states and I would agree with you that the food pattern is followed mainly of that part from which mom belongs. And I have never seen anyone in my family objecting on that. Only thing is that both of them should be open to learn and accept the differences between both cultures.

Dina is doing theright thing by giving her culture to the kid. Its upto Vindu to give his side. Remember its always the mother tongue and not father tongue:-)

😛 Very interesting how people try to turn a spoilt brat like Dina in to a saint just so they would be able to live with themselves.........😛 ummm if Dina is such a saint, then why did she force Vindu to cut ties with his parents and extended family? 😛 If Dina is so open minded, why doesn't she allow Vindu to cook Indian food at home, or allow her daugther to watch Indian shows? Why so much pressure to jam Russian "culture" down a child's throat? Is the child not going to learn about Russian culture by eating Indian food once in a while or watching a Hindi show once in a while? 😛 If Dina is such a saint then why was she so abusive with her language in the show? She was bleeped more often then Bakhtiyaar was.....😛 We all know how big of a loser Vindu is, abandoning his first wife and his first child for a Gori mam..........😛 It's good to see that he got what's coming to him for leaving his wife and child like that.......😛 Vindu and Dina are such ideal couple, nahin? Vindu abandoned his first wife (Tabu's sister) and his child from that marriage, and Dina who wants to hoist the flag of Mother Russia on Indian Soil..........😛 It was funny hearing Vindu give advice on successful marriage being that he dumped his first wife and walked out on his first child..........😛 I guess they weren't "white" enough for him............😛