Cousins Relation - Page 2

Originally posted by: RheaSingh

well this discussion is baseless, where cousins have relations or not..i for once do not consider it but it can't be ignored tht many such things happen in high society partiess...where drivers sleep with high rich women...all the crap things happen. and this is a show...we should not take it seriously..rest is up to u how do u take

Originally posted by: taani_20

@ methebest: I completely agree with the way you've explained it. It really does depend on the culture you've been brought up in. I have a Sri Lankan friend and her parents are actually first cousins. From talking with them I realized that they were never really brought up with the idea that a cousin is like a sibling, so it wasn't considered "weird" when they fell in love and married. This is contrary to other cultures, like my own, where a cousin is equivalent to your real brother or sister. Even second cousins are considered brothers and sisters! So if you've grown up tying Rakhi on not only your real brother but also your male cousins, then marrying one of those cousins would be frowned upon.

But even in families or cultures where cousin=sibling, this does happen. My mom actually shared a true story with me. When she was in college (in Punjab, where cousin=sibling), one of her friends was in a relationship with her first cousin. They loved each other and wanted to get married. They knew their families would never agree so they eloped. My mom never heard from her friend again. No one knows where they went. And apparently both their families had tried to look for them, claiming they would kill them both when found. Just wanted to share this to say that even in cultures where it's considering "wrong", this definitely does happen, and it did happen even in my mom's generation. It's frowned upon by society, but it's a part of the society, perhaps a part that is a bit taboo and kept hidden or pushed under the rug most of the time.

@KhotaSikaShreya: I was born and raised in Canada too! Nice to meet another Canadian 😊

Originally posted by: Sweet_Krishna

Swaikas are North Indian Hindu family. As per hindu scriptures which North Indian Hindus follow, cousin relationship is forbidden and termed as incest and sin. Even Hindu marriage act taking cues from scriptures terms cousin marriage as illegal and illicit (excludes South Indian Hindus).I am excluding here four states of South India and parts of Maharashtra wherein they have practised this between cross cousins and even between uncle and niece.

However, as per my knowledge cousin marriage is not a taboo in Christian and Muslim societies.

They not marrying cousins now a days may have to do with genetic defect theory.

Originally posted by: KhotaSikaShreya

@ Bold: I myself have been raised with the belief that my cousins are all my brothers and sisters. And that's why since childhood I've looked at them that way. It makes accepting cousins as lovers so much harder, but it's not uncommon.

@ Last part: Really? Wow! There are so few of us on IF. What part of Canada are you from?

Originally posted by: taani_20

@ methebest: I completely agree with the way you've explained it. It really does depend on the culture you've been brought up in. I have a Sri Lankan friend and her parents are actually first cousins. From talking with them I realized that they were never really brought up with the idea that a cousin is like a sibling, so it wasn't considered "weird" when they fell in love and married. This is contrary to other cultures, like my own, where a cousin is equivalent to your real brother or sister. Even second cousins are considered brothers and sisters! So if you've grown up tying Rakhi on not only your real brother but also your male cousins, then marrying one of those cousins would be frowned upon.

But even in families or cultures where cousin=sibling, this does happen. My mom actually shared a true story with me. When she was in college (in Punjab, where cousin=sibling), one of her friends was in a relationship with her first cousin. They loved each other and wanted to get married. They knew their families would never agree so they eloped. My mom never heard from her friend again. No one knows where they went. And apparently both their families had tried to look for them, claiming they would kill them both when found. Just wanted to share this to say that even in cultures where it's considering "wrong", this definitely does happen, and it did happen even in my mom's generation. It's frowned upon by society, but it's a part of the society, perhaps a part that is a bit taboo and kept hidden or pushed under the rug most of the time.

@KhotaSikaShreya: I was born and raised in Canada too! Nice to meet another Canadian 😊

Originally posted by: taani_20

I'm from the French part of Canada, Montreal! Where are you from?