Originally posted by: AynDeep
Let me share some statistics before I begin:
A new report by National Family Health Survey(NHFS) for 2019-2021 suggested that only 32% of married Indian women(aged 15-49years) are employed, whereas for men it is 98% for the same agegroup.
In India, more than 50% women leave jobs after marriage.
Why aren't women getting a fair deal? Why are India’s women leaving the work-force at such astonishing rate?
The problem lies in the homes and most likely in the marriages.
Lack of support from family members and spouses: Most females leave jobs after marriage. This is sometimes done willfully and most of the time because of pressures from home. Women due to unequal gender roles face additional burden of handling various relationship roles and also expected to do the household chores. Unlike men, often they do not get a listening ear at home.
Working hours: Often the in-laws or spouse or both have issues with the working hours of married women. They expect women to be back home by 6 pm and get involved with the household chores unlike most men who often go back home thinking about taking rest.
GUNGUN SUPPORT TO ANUBHAV & HIS FAMILY (VS) SUPPORT RECEIVED BY GUNGUN FROM HUSBAND AND IN-LAWS
Instances when Gungun helped and supported the Kulshresthras :
1. The Bank fraud issue. Gungun saved the Kshits from getting ruined, defamed and humiliated. She helped Golu, n even helped to expose the thief n scam. Did she ask anything in return?
2. Goli's heartbreak chapter about Pratyush. It was Gungun who helped her emerge strong n resilient to face that man.
3. Anubhav's kidnapping and terrorist track. Gungun charged at a whole system, shook a city with her determination to find Anubhav. In return, she got what? Oh, she did it for publicity, to be renowned. She risked her life by joining the mission,knowing well that the terrorists would target her, she cared naught. But what's remembered is how deep is Anubhav's love for her! Poor guy took a bullet to save her.
4. That girl, who was scared of needles and injections and sighting blood, she went barefoot,injured her feet to pray for saint Anubhav, n even donated her blood despite being faint n dead tired. In return, she got insulted copiously by the everungrateful Kshits.
5. Gungun accepted a job to move on from the depressive mood upon losing Anubhav. She reached out to Madhav/Anubhav through that job only. Today she's being thanked for it in an aweful way.
6. She readily accepted to pay any amount to Akriti so that she stops nagging the kshits. The beaming faces of kshits, i tell you!
Husband and In-laws support received by Gungun:
The girl was promoted to big role in office just after marriage. She was all alone to handle her big role with huge responsibilities as Chief Editor when Armaan left. She, being a BA failure is trying to slog in the corporate world with big responsibilities on her shoulders. It is not a 9-5 job.
On top of that,being an elite class girl she had to mould herself in a middle class family with outdated thoughts. She is expected to do the kitchen work despite contributing well to family income.
So, it was Gungun who had to do lot of adjustment after marriage.
An ideal husband would understand her situation and try to support her by taking stand against his family when they expected her to do daughter-in-law duties, willing to make sacrifices as she doesn't have 9-5 job and he would never ever bring the Baby topic.(It was just 1 year of her work-life and Anubhav wanted to start a family!! Forget about discussing with her..how can he even think about it. Couldn't he wait till she secures her future as she just started her career? )
Anubhav has whole family to take care about him if he is not well. But who is there for GG other than Anubhav? His hypocrite family doesn't even care about her health. They think she is giving excuses to escape domestic chores and kept taunting her.
So, Anubhav is expected to take care of her no matter how many fights they have as couple. But no, he doesn't care about her health .He even thinks she is lying about sickness or giving excuses.
Instead of being caring and supportive husband ,seeing her stressed and struggling alone in her demanding job , he blamed her for not giving the care and attention. Couldn't he give the care and support for time being till she settles in her career?(Himself accepted today that he was selfish and never gave her care and attention and always expected it from her)
He couldn't even accept and appreciate his wife's success.( He said he appreciates Journalist Gungun but not his wife Gungun.)
First of all, Gungun, got the job, bcos, her boss likes her, not bcos, she is capable for the job, ok agreed, in the beginning, she agreed to work, bcos, she wanted to come out of depression, when she saw Anubhav back, how will human behaviour would be, you are seeing someone infront of you, whom you thought have left you that too the one you loved, don't you like to spend more time with them, don't you think every minute is precious...nah!, she wants to work...
Armaan was getting everything done from gungun using Anubhav's name, be it having quality time with her. if he is for real, After Anubhav coming back, he should have left silently, but, he tried to express his feelings for her indireclty, she has no time for husband who is at home, back from his death bed, but she prefer to walk with her dear friend, wah... how can some one become so close in 10days of friendship, that too half of the time she spent in mumbai??why did he offered her a job, she is not qualified for a reporter only, now she is Chief Editor, is it a joke, won't there be seniors in office who would be waiting next to become chief, just bcos, u had a crush on her, she is offered highest position, and a person who was unable to pass BA, is editing the news reports does she has any background to understand that work, i think for her it would take more than 2 years to understand that only.
And before Armaan, all that mattered to her was Anubhav, all of a sudden,she wanted to work, can someone explain me the logic, please, even after she was offered a job, all that she did was flying from lucknow to mumbai everyday and talking to veena... wah.. wah...And Armaan found the genius in her.
And woh Anubhav ko kehti hai, tumhe mere capabilities may trust oh no ho, duniya ko hai, and her duniya has only Armaan, she got so interested in Armaan, that she went to send off him in the midnight, and her husband and family not supporting her...is it?
Tell me one instance when gungun behaved responsibly, In a family, neither male / female come home late from work everyday, yeah many a times, it happens in corporate life, but, those people show more interest to spend time at home, whenever they get a chance to do, unless they have a failed marriage life, where they dont want to see their family..
But here, gungun was in office 365 days 24/7, when you dont show love / respect for ur family, how can u expect from them, when all that matters to you was work and not family, how long can family keep waiting for you, they learned to live without you.
Kitchen work and gungun, gungun comes to dinning table only when she want to say something to the family, otherwise she has her food in her room, that is what is shown, when she reach home late and leave early, how will she cook??
Gungun, after dancing with her so called (boy) friend, and saw that Anu was hurted, did she felt guilty about it? why didnt she? When she felt bad about Anubhav meeting Akkriti, why she didn't feel bad dancing with her friend.
In mumbai conference, Anubhav leaves the stage immediately when gungun was hurted, here she came back home after finishing the party and didn't even feel sorry about that, also, blames, Anubhav jealous, like, seriously??
what support she needed from Anubhav, she is so influential everything is done for her, She has no time for him, such a busy person she is, bechara scientist kya help karega? she taunts him that he can't understand her work.... "thats called half vessel makes more noise", her new found success made her strong headed. Bechara, Anubhav feels left out... she forgot, he loved her when she was nothing infront of him..
All of a sudden, one day, when she wanted him to accompany her, ofcourse, he will say, u have ur own people, ur secretary/ ur friend/ ur chairman to accompany you, why him all of a sudden?? does he got any clue about the seriousness of the illness, only if you are there at home, he can see u suffering, u having headaches? is he god to imagine??
When she got to know about illness, she is playing victim card, and now that she has her so called friend with her, she doesn't need her husband anymore?? really, and you are mordern Savitri, you are just a Dumb headed lady..
There are many instances, where Anubhav when he realises his mistakes says sorry to her and express his love for her, tell me when did gungun does that, NEVER, why didnt she make mistakes.
what is she saying family taunts her, bcos, she works, is she the only one in that family who works, everyone else know their job and know how to balance work/ life, she neither know her job, may be thatswhy she is slogging nor does she balance her work life,even after 2 years of working she is still the same old dumb gungun who doesn't understand people, otherwise, she can clearly see Anubhav care and possessiveness and family's concern for her, Also, Armaan's intentions for her.
And, we should appreciate Armaan, for playing his card well, understanding gungun well and knows what to say, how to get things done from gungun, uske sath enjoy be karo/ use karo/ and she thinks he cares for her which no one does.
whom she trust more Armaan not Anubhav, knowing that bechara Anubhav should not react.. he should not express himself, then she should have married a doll, she would go to US with Armaan, he should be quiet... bcos, he spoke few words out of anger.
I am tired of girls playing victim card as per their convenience... And when did we start calling home breaker a friend, if Armaan is a real friend won't he try to clear the MU between gungun and Anubhav, won't he like to see them happy, instead of spending quality time with gungun alone. go and spend along with gungun, her husband and whole family, they will welcome you and they will send her with you alone too..
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