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Posted: 20 years ago
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I too agree jammy..... That will be the worst......
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Posted: 20 years ago
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Originally posted by: jammy

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I belive Surnita when somebody gives you love then you start feeling love for him/her. Even if you used to love somebody else & that somebody didnt accepted your love or doesnt love you or its a one sided love(which is the fact right now in Jassi's life). Then If your next partner comes in your life He is truely in love with you understands you and trust you, and he gives you love without any kind of highfy demands then I guess its easy for a person to feel for the second guy. It takes time but it sure happens.

Jammy.

Good points Jammy but love is not subjected to dictations by the head.And here Jassi made a decision with her head (egged by everyone wanting her to marry Purab).She wanted to make everyone happy as well as take control of her life & emotions.She thinks all this can be done without actually involving her heart because this the exact reason why 90% of the Indian girls go into a marriage.In many cases love follows but if you are already in love with someone else then the scenario is very different.Then the clash between head & heart can ruin any chances of happiness in the marriage.Emotional dependence is a very crucial factor.Then niceness of a person will make you respect & care for him but you'll never feel the passion and the resulting emotional fullfillness that onlycomes from a bond of love and an overwhelming emotional dependence.

Jammy,the truth is you just cannot,simply cannot love someone because that person is in love with you.It has to come from within you.

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Posted: 20 years ago
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Very right Minnie….loving someone does not guarantee the object of one's affection to fall in love with u too……however there are a lot of variables at play in this case….

So far Jassi has not had an opportunity to fall in love with Purab….when she met him earlier, she was infatuated with armaan. Then, before things could go any further, armaan's intervention created misunderstandings between purab and jassi again…..when Purab came back in Jassi's life, she was still smarting from Armaan's treatment of her and had vowed to prove herself to him…..

Personally I think one sided love is extremely overstated…..love if not nurtured, dies….a girl with Jassi's upbringing and values would not clinically approach the marriage mart…..considering the love that is found within her household, I would think Jassi would nott settle for anything less for herself…..

As far as being forced to marry purab by everyone…..had Jassi wanted to do that she would have said yes earlier and avoided her family's nagging and media attention…..now when things were quieting down, she revived the subject herself….true jassi does not seems to have as extreme feelings for purab as she did for armaan, but they might be more stable…and it was not the first time her parents were compelling her to marry (remember luck praji) so why agree now….

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Posted: 20 years ago
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Originally posted by: Minnie

Good points Jammy but love is not subjected to dictations by the head.And here Jassi made a decision with her head (egged by everyone wanting her to marry Purab).She wanted to make everyone happy as well as take control of her life & emotions.She thinks all this can be done without actually involving her heart because this the exact reason why 90% of the Indian girls go into a marriage.In many cases love follows but if you are already in love with someone else then the scenario is very different.Then the clash between head & heart can ruin any chances of happiness in the marriage.Emotional dependence is a very crucial factor.Then niceness of a person will make you respect & care for him but you'll never feel the passion and the resulting emotional fullfillness that onlycomes from a bond of love and an overwhelming emotional dependence.

Jammy,the truth is you just cannot,simply cannot love someone because that person is in love with you.It has to come from within you.

No Minnie you are forgetting, In the end she was not egged on, Her father didnt even wanted to discuss the topic. Even Purab didnt wanted to push the topic it was her decision and completely hers and It was also thought from heart I would say, for the fact when they had thier heart to heart talks in the restuarant.

After saying yes they had a small chat in restuarant where they didnt talk about the details of marraige but they had a chat from thier heart. Where she even told Purab about Her past and he said that he understood. It meants that she had given it enough thoughts and then she had reached the decision on marrying him on her own. She was aware of her past . So your assumptions that she made decision because of others egging her was wrong. She made the decision on her own Period

Now Why I would hate her is directly related to the fact that she made the deicisions knowing what she was putting her self into. Now if she was not sure about it she unnecessaryly pulled Purab who uptill now was satisfied being her friend. But now she has shown him Hope. and I am afraid that she is going to even snatch it from him without warning!!

Now If her heart was not ready then she should have understood it and she should'nt have said yes for marriage. For when a decision of marriage is taken its not only your life on line but the life of the person you are going to marry is on line. It might be easy to do such things in western countries (Any guesses why marraiges dont last there for long?) But I guess in india its a diffrent case.

Jammy.

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Posted: 20 years ago
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Very nice points Jammy and ides!!! You rock!!👏
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