two wrongs don't make a right

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Posted: 15 years ago
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as a great man once said, "two wrongs don't make a right", and i absolutely believe that. yes, it is true that double standard on women still exist in society today, and to be honest, not just in a conservative society like the one india, but in western countries too. i live in america, and i have to say, that though women here do have a lot more freedom, and the double-standard isn't as strong on women as it is in india, it still does exist. but anyways, back to my point, which is "two wrongs don't make a right". what the husband in this show is doing is absolutely repulsive and demeaning, but if the wife then later on goes on to do the samething, how does it make whatever she's doing any less repulsive? granted, the woman does get called a "slut" for it while the man doesn't, doesn't make the woman's actions right or any less wrong. from the way i see it, they're both equally wrong. now am i saying, a woman then should just continue enduring the pain and accept her husband anyway...? HECK NO. i'm a woman myself, and what type of a woman would i be if i agreed to such a thing. my answer is that if a spouse, no matter if he/she is a man or a woman, if they feel they don't have it in them to forgive the illicit affair(s) of their spousal counterpart, then they should "free" themselves from the relationship all together. they should get a divorce, and hopefully will be lucky in love the second time. but they do NOT however now have a free ticket to commit the same illicit affair their spousal counterpart have done whether its out of revenge or out of love or lust for the person they're having an affair with, and call it morally right. so the way i see it, BOTH the husband and the wife of this show are equally wrong here. that's all...

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Posted: 15 years ago
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see the way i see it, specifically in this case, the girl wont be wrong when she starts having an affair. why? because i think when a woman marries a man, she doesnt marry him, but his entire family. in this case, aradhana has done that, she has completely made the guy's family her own; because her husband is cheating on her and not caring about her one bit, how can she leave the family which she considers her own now for 10 long years??
n i dont think they'll just show her having an affair, it will be a tough inner struggle, whcih if potrayed right, will make sense..
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Posted: 15 years ago
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when a girl leaves the house where she was born and the parents who loves her to be with her husband, can't she leave the house where she stayed for 10 years for her self respect.

If she loves the family and is staying for the family then she must stay just with them and not have an extra affair by the side to entertain her and hurt the the family member. By hurting them she is proving that she doesnot care about them.


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Posted: 15 years ago
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^True; but she's always upkept her responsibilities towards the families and her husbands without ever asking for anything in return. Does she not get a shot at happiness?

I hate the thought of Aradhana having an extra maritial and I'd rather see her divorce Shailen. There are so much thoughts on this topic but they'd hold more value after we see how she handles the situation. Will she sneak behind his back and sleep with the other guy or just strike up a friendship that will lead to opposition from the family?
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: crazyfan

see the way i see it, specifically in this case, the girl wont be wrong when she starts having an affair. why? because i think when a woman marries a man, she doesnt marry him, but his entire family. in this case, aradhana has done that, she has completely made the guy's family her own; because her husband is cheating on her and not caring about her one bit, how can she leave the family which she considers her own now for 10 long years??

n i dont think they'll just show her having an affair, it will be a tough inner struggle, whcih if potrayed right, will make sense..

well, in that case, if she cheats on him, she's cheating on his family as well, isn't she? and who says she still won't be able to keep a relationship with his family even after she divorces him, if she decides to do that, that is. how can anyone suppport someone, man or a woman, who cheats on their spouse? it is completely and totally WRONG no matter who it is (man or woman) or for whatever reason it starts. its BETRAYAL no matter how or which way you put it. yes, aradhna isn't the first one who starts an affair (her husband is), and she did try to get through to her husband, and is a good daughter-in-law, not to mention she felt lonely and ignored in a loveless marriage... but that still doesn't make it right for her to start an extra marrital affair herself, which is exactly what her husband did. the way i see it, if she can't forgive him, then she should leave him and start her own life, not do the samething to him that he has done to her. then how does it make her any different than him, she's stooped down to the same level as he has. and even if in the end let's say she's apart from his family as a result of it, it is much, much better than to be involved or still have a relationship with them while she's doing it with some other guy while still being married to their own son, if you ask me. so basically its absolutely fine for the woman to have an extra marrital affair, because her husband's having one, and she shouldn't divorce him just so she could still have a relationship with HIS family, (which btw there's still chance that she could STILL have even after the divorce)...??? that's just crazy talk to me...
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Even I was thinking that two wrong doesnt make right. What I strongly believe is that marriage means commitment for the life time. And if one partner breaks that commitment, the other partner cannot go on pretending for a long time that things will be ok and I have the family to look after. If the relationship is giving you pain throughout its better to say quit than keep on lingering and suffering. After divorce, you have full rights to have another affair and its nobodies business then , morally ,socially(even if u dont care a damn) and mentally its right without any bond attached.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Well the topic of JKBH is quite sensitive....

But the bottom line is not to show whether the girl is doing right/wrong, it's to show the double standard of the society.... I hate Extra Marital Affairs and m not gonna support anything related to this....I will not like the step of Aradhana's as well....But I will hate it if tht f*****g Shailendra gets escaped from being questioned and Aradhana will be stuck to answer to to her in-laws😡I have a guts feeling that her Mom-in-law will be helping her to get divorced from her spoilt brat and will help aradhana....I want divorce, not EMA😡😡

A woman has FULL right to get her happiness...but before that, divorce is a MUST😡😡
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Posted: 15 years ago
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What u said is absoutely right but i think here the situation will be totally different. Its not like she gets to know abt hubbies affair nd goes out and starts having affairs on re-bound.
Aradhana happens to be like many of women ,who gets married to a stranger ,loves him ,accepts him and his family looks after them as her own resp ,makes sure everyone is bonded tog nd is happy. Look of it she is is being praised and loved by one and all and she doesnt seem havn any issues with hubby and was jealous seein him with nikitha. After all this whn truth abt his affairs come out whn she is least expecting somethng like that ,it would be so devasting and shattering. Usually in these situations gals end up blaming themselves and think maybe they hav some short comings when its not there wrong . When hubby is cheating amny women loose there self confidence,can be she will also be thrown in this situation and admist this period new guys steps in and fills her with confidence and then she gets close to him.then wouldnt blame her but would rather respect if she decides to step out of marr rather than choose family reputation over her happiness whn she knows going back to hubby will giv her no happiness.
Maybe thats the contrast i think Nirmala hubby is also cheater nd she kept quite for maybe kids sake and aradhana will be in same boat but diff circumstances.
Incase both wife-husband sit ,talk and say let bygones be bygones and decide to forgive and forget then no comments.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: who am i???

Incase both wife-husband sit ,talk and say let bygones be bygones and decide to forgive and forget then no comments.



This is absolutely wrong in my dictionary ! I mean, a man cheats his wife for LONG 9-10 yrs, and suddenly when he discovers his wife's infidelity, he decides to 'sudhraofy' huh !🤢 Shailendra is not a bacha who's doing this unintentionally....mistakes can be of 1 day/1 month/ max 1 yr....but if u repeat same mistake 1000000000 times, it's crime😡😡

And Shailendra doesnt deserve to be forgiven by his wife even if he realises his crime😡😡he should be punished😡😡
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Posted: 15 years ago
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its a way how u see it n how u take it whe n she gets ditched by her own hubby for whom she sacrificed everything nurturing his family as her own n when gets ditched da first frdship hand offered is like a man drowning n gets sm kind of wood to hold psychological dilemma is too much at dat time so no one can decide abt her feelings n double standards is just not da owrd to be used
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