Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi
Khushi here did NOT know Arnav wanted divorce even before Lavanya. Had she known it, the dignity she had shown to walk out on him and never look back would have continued and she would have managed Panchayat somehow by permanently moving out of the village alone or with parents or by some other means. Khushi started looking for a job in Lucknow, never took much money from Arnav, never looked back or responded to Arnav is a clear sign she was ready to move forward by herself no matter how hard the path would be, I will never underestimate her. Calling her incapable is contradicting to the instinct she showed before. Arnav wanting the divorce even before came as a shocker to her and now she knows everything he did whole year to ignore her, mentally abuse her or his argument with lawyer were his ways to get rid of her & get out of the marriage by hook or crook. He knew he was hurting her when he was busy entertaining Lavanya / his baby but he chose to hurt her, kept her in dark, continued cheating behind her back and nothing can change these facts.
Arnav even started thinking about Khushi just because things did not happen the way he had planned in his mind after he announced the divorce. Had Khushi stayed back, accepted his alimony / settlement amount along with the pent house, he was all set with divorce and he would be happily dating someone else. He did think about his own companionship after all and was never going to stay celibate which is fine and I hope Khushi realizes this too that he had moved on and now he is manipulating her. To think about it, if Lavanya had not lied about the baby, he still thought Lavanya as a victim, professional and great person despite throwing raves and waking up next to random men, and would have dated her in future because their wavelength and choices of partying, enjoying filmy ENV matched. It was Aman who found out the truth, Arnav never even tried.
It was the never the case of Arnav being crazily still in love with her and wanted her to have the baby so letting her go, his needs came first for him. He was bored of domesticity, convinced he fell out of love with Khushi, angry and uninterested at Khushi's ways of life (even Khushi told him he never asked about her life in last one year, he just didn't care anymore) and he had developed his own new world, Bollywood parties, more work, Food Dash, adventurous trips etc. and Khushi had no place in it too; he clearly wanted out many reasons other than baby. He would have continued his new life if he had got closure from the 10 years marriage. I cannot forget these facts just because Arnav is suddenly behaving enlightened after reading a love note too late? Because he conveniently refused to see the truth of his own wife for months?
I had guessed it right all along, he did go to dark side and became Darth Wader not out of fear, but to claim his freedom from his marriage. He was already behaving like a bachelor, going places without informing his wife, staying separate from his wife in the same house, avoiding her like a plague, expecting her to pick up the hints (like he wouldn't attend the anniversary, nor wished her so she will know that he was done with this marriage and he actually did this). To me, even his decision to let loose in a rave party was a man who acted as a bachelor for months and not a married man who is still in crazily love, never. He ignored Khushi's messages in that rave party, a solid proof, Walla! This makes it a CHEATING, the drinks, the ONS itself is secondary, that's a dead horse for me long ago.
He did NOT buzz or think of something to make Khushi feel better when he knew he was actually hurting her or she was crying by his ignorance and begging him, she stopped talking about the baby long back but nothing melted his heart and the same guy now takes a complete U turn by chit of torn paper with few more lines telling him the same thing she told him personally or even with her behavior (He himself realized and acknowledged she was trying to bring the relationship back in those 4 months of trying for the baby and getting pregnant was NOT her priority just that he was ignorant even before Payal told him which forced him to find the note).
Though his basis to get her back was marriage to Shyam, I cannot deny that he got her back only after the note that confirmed she was ok to let go her desire to have the baby and he mattered the most. If Arnav loved Khushi truly, he would have let her go without the abuse for the whole year, period just like Khushi did. She even took the pics with her. Now he wants her back for his own needs because she ran his house, took care of his and his family's needs flawlessly, she doesn't want kids too, so all in all suits his life style and not because he loves her... Khushi realizes her parents want her to work on the marriage but now she knows the whole truth about what Arnav wanted which her parents never knew!
The next time Arnav sees Khushi happy with another baby (that's her dream since teenage despite she becoming an independent woman), Arnav is again going to feel guilty which he must and in no time history will repeat itself. His half truth has become poisonous for Khushi! This man is not known to attack the problems, he runs away, beats around the bush unfortunately for me. Such a marriage can never go back to what it was due his behavior before and after La. La is small part of puzzle, if MaLa D deserve punishment, then Arnav should push himself in the same fire pit as he wanted to, he is her biggest culprit, not MaLa D.
Forget Khushi, Arnav is NOT honest to himself. He is so used to doing things for others and feel himself larger than life, he thinks he is doing great by helping her and making her independent! I wish he showed a little self respect and dignity like Khushi to walk out now when she doesn't want him around. She herself suggested they can continue living separate lives, the message is loud and clear! Set her free, she will come back to him if she wants to. He can lead the life he led for the last one year too.
So many times, when there is a drunken mistake even if it was worst like ONS, the spouse might forgive but what he did knowingly is unforgivable in my eyes.
Zugzwang or NO zugzwang, people like Arnav who run away from the situation for their own selfish assumptions and agenda can never win. For a chess player, Arnav was neither proactive nor could see the bigger picture nor read people's intentions / moves in real life and lost the battle for himself! All he can offer Khushi now is a draw, that was my sarcasm! Draw as a writer, it's your story and your ending is what I want to read. Not a penny less, not a penny more!
Again these are my thoughts based on the story! No one has to agree with me... Arpita, as much as I love your writing skills especially angst, Arnav's behaviour is unacceptable for me and I will never like such a shallow and manipulative person ever!
- Swati
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