Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi
Hi Swati
I had thought i would never interact directly with you again but I am forced to !!!! I read the story and commented my understanding and speculation . Arpita being the really sweetheart bothered to reply and address any misunderstanding I have , there were other ppl too but all of them did it really decently.
Now you come and start quoting my post:
Originally posted by SwatStar_Arshi
What makes you think only Arnav bared responsibilities? Khushi at the age of 19 took the responsibility to run the house and even today he is proud of her skills, every corner of the house is so beautiful, people actually want to see it!
She tried to help with dabba business, was managing HIS family and their financial as well as emotional needs by visiting them more than he could, even ran NGO helping needy; all these he truly appreciates clearly initially and even now..
She was the only one trying to med the relationship, he decided to move on or fell out of love, accepted but why do it the most shitty way??????
We will know about his fear about the baby, but discussion solves even wars, this was nothing..
You went personal the very first line but I took it on a sporting spirit, you had your opinion I had mine - I did not go personal here at all but backed my question with my own observation that Arnav and Khushi both worked equally hard. This was nothing to do with you as a person.
I replied I am sorry, I wish I read this story as Amazon kindle book . I realise more than the chapters the comments are effecting me. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and forums such as this gives us free access to speak our minds .
I have come to realise that my comments came through as I am supporting Arnav!!! I will never support how he hurt khushi. How he handled the whole divorce situation. And the adultery is unacceptable.
But my problem was always khushi’s take on things. Maybe I don’t understand her at all. But I would never think she deserved what she got . I was just speculating what went wrong because the characters doesn’t seem to behave like how the story is going. We don’t know what went wrong I would now stop speculating.
I am sorry, if I hurt anyone’s feelings. I would now sit back and enjoy the story. For my own sanity!!! My husband is already thinking I have lost it !!! Seeing me buried in my phone !!!!
You replied:
Ari - My purpose to reply you was to show Arnav had certain personality traits that reflect throughout including his aloofness, run away from the situation as his father mentioned, block communication, adamancy and control freak, decision making style expecting others to abide by.. And disrespecting their marriage, ill treating Khushi and affair was icing on the cake y Arnav!
Still Khushi made it work by her poised nature, simplicity and straight forward thiking, fresh and positive personality and adjusting with a smile and in return he was positive and nice to her too most times.. Khushi here has definitely done more compromise to make relationship work, being a house wife, village girl doesn't take it away from her! Men would die to get such a wonderful girl in their life!
You can continue to support Arnav, that's your choice and we completely respect that... You don't need to stop yourself from expressing, this is mature group and we all respect each other, my love for you girl!
Then you again quote my post ,Anyone who wants to read the post can do so ,it's in thread 1. I am only quoting a snippet ralevent to this discussion. This is how you started pushing and forcing your thoughts:
Are we reading the same story? The story is about Arnav cheating during marriage which he did. Had he quit by giving explanation that not having baby is his final decision, no one including me would be blaming Arnav. Arnav went for an affair with other woman while his wife is waiting for him at home and sleeping with other woman instead of simple talk and sorting with his wife across the room. Even if he wanted divorce or separation, he should have informed Khushi and done it before involving with Lavanya... He is wrong here, no doubt.
Again in the same post you went personal:
He could have cancelled the party saying his father is sick but he continued the charade. He can get permanent peace with Lavanya but not while marrying to Khushi, are you promoting infidelity by saying if one has arguments or disagreements with their spouse, they can avoid their spouse but have affair and find peace outside marriage? You got to be kidding me! And what about the trauma Arnav is putting Khushi through by cheating, Are you ok with it? It takes woman more to take responsibilties of her husband's family and Khushi was 5 years younger than Arnav here! They both took responsibilties, not just Arnav. He was assuming things about her without asking her if it's truth and that's where he went wrong.
But if someone has fear of somthing always, it's a sign of autism (at least that's what I experienced with community volunteering, I am an engineer and not doctor so I can be wrong here) and Arnav in this story is a normal guy, neither autistic nor he has any special needs. In fact Arnav was super excited and happy when his sister delivered a baby and he loves Leher too (He was splaying with Leher in car while Akash and Payal were sleeping when they went to Khushi's house). You are confused with two completely different things, Arnav has no fear of babies.
Again here I asked questions and immediately backed with my answers too. This was personal about the character and NOT you. Your point of view versus mine. Others have written in the same way to me every time. I asked you / writer specifically if Arnav was established with mental health issues or just trauma. But I realized you might not have liked my point of view and never interacted with you nor plan to in future. I have no time to go back read link 1 but we have had multiple interactions back then the feeling is mutual.
I still tried to be calm:
Sorry, I really don’t want to fight!!!
I never supported infidelity !!! I strongly believe that they never had an affair, until Arpita proves me wrong.
Also as you mentioned earlier this is mature forum and we all are free to have our own opinion . Can we please stop victimising each other !!! I am again sorry if I hurt you in anyway ,or if I triggered it !!!!
Let’s keep our beliefs to ourselves!!! I don’t want to discuss or defend my points again . Let’s enjoy the story our own way. Just one point though I don’t think he was scared of babies or the delivery process. He really didn’t want kids and that he had to give in freaked him out and that created the stress which was the last thread.
These are all there in thread 1:
So please any silent readers Swati keeps mentioning please read them .
Things were ok for sometime we even had few cordial chats. But then again you quoted my post and used similar demeaning language , this time I had no energy to fight so I reported the post and it got deleted. I do have a little snippet of it as proof.
All this I kept quite but you went ahead and bullied the writer about supporting Arnav ,even when you quoted to me writer expained khushi's stand to you on a separate post(that was a generous amount of words defending khushi, who no one has ever challenged!!!!!!) . I couldn't take it and wrote something in her support. You retorted with name calling (Vultures ,Masseiah), I have been in this forum for long time and NEVER experienced this . Yes had debates before but never faced this sort of behaviour . It's like can't say anything on the forum without you coming to grab my neck!!!!!!I am
I am sorry to say you are spinning a new theory, not sure how you get to decide I bullied the writer for her supporting Arnav is a joke. This means you never understood the whole situation and conversation we had there. Just because I had certain point of view about character and came with poofs from the story, my reasons to point it out. Go back and read my both notes together with Arpita's, the writer has appreciated my effort that now you are calling as bullying and contradicting. There is also explanation on what the actual misunderstanding was and clarification for it.
This is now you forcing your point of view when the writer has accepted my version and what I meant and discouraging me to write directly to the writer. When the writer and I have discussed directly and clarified our stance in open comments and privately too, you decide otherwise and attack me saying I bullied the writer???? This is unacceptable.
You have been doing this to many ppl so in your own language you don't get to cry foul !!!!! You picked Shyami's one post and made a scene out of it, where as you started it ,did it to many!!!
Even there is no apology ever!!!
I am not crying foul and never will. I have responded to Shyami separately.
But you are now spinning it saying I bullied the writer, this is new high and a big fat lie. This is between me and Arpita and so back off without twisting the truth. Please read and re-read the direct back and forth between me and Arpita.
Saying all that, in favor of the story can we move on . Let's all enjoy the story and send love to Arpita for writing this so beautifully.
None of my responses were ever intended to any person or you as a person, I have never demeaned anyone. I do not even know half the names. I have always backed my statements or replies with something from story, snippet or the writer's feedback etc. I just wanted to point that it was never established in story that Arnav has mental health issues but just one specific trauma.
But I realized you and I both disagreed on our point of views. I have no time to go back read link 1 but we have had multiple interactions back then the feeling is mutual. I have no intention to read or reply to your opinions after you spinning new lie that I bullied the writer, this is so unfortunate
-Swati
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