<< Here are the 7 stages of love
Dilkashi (attraction)
Uns (infatuation)
Ishq (love)
Akidat (trust/reverence)
Ibadat (worship)
Junoon (passion/madness)
Followed by Maut (death) >>
As someone who discovered this show accidentally thanks to Arlie MVs on youtube, I can't really comment on Malini or Aditya as I haven't watched from the beginning. Just started watching from Aryan made his entrance.
So I think the drama is at an interesting phase where it is looking at the journey of love through the eyes of a young woman.
I think much of what Imlie has felt for Aditya and by extension his family is frankly junoon (passion/madness). Why? Because it is really toxic -- she was on the streets and not comfortable to go back to them to even have a roof. Yet, she keeps thinking of them as her loved ones. If she is forced to take refuge in the house of strangers, then how is the relationship a good one? Yet, she goes above and beyond and sees it as her duty to help Aditya and his family. Why? So it is nothing more than madness of youth. She has at the moment no sense of boundaries. She does not see the need to protect herself or think about her own self-respect or dignity. Yes, you can care for others but not at the expense of yourself -- this is what Aryan has been telling her but she thinks of it as selfish. No it is not! Sometimes, people need to be cut out of your life or kept at a distance. If they are unwilling or unable to fight for you, then they have showed their cards. They are not going to be around when the storms hit. So you have to be smart -- you don't need to cut them out of your life but you need to set boundaries and keep a healthy distance. You cannot be so self-sacrificing where you put yourself in danger and do not care for yourself.
Imlie's journey of love is now learning about how to set care for onself as well as others. It is about learning that you can't blindly maintain a relationship by yourself. It is called a relationship when there is two people in the circle. You can't be alone in the circle and think you have done it all and it is a relationship. While she has learned that it hurts when the other person in a relationship does not recipricoate or complete their duties. She has learned that she cannot give a free pass. If she expects respect, then she needs to demand and state what she wants. As someone who randomly started this drama, it is an interesting phase to join -- the creatives are showing that love can take many forms and also come many times. Just because she got divorced, it does not mean she is forever single and neither is she obligated to take back her ex because he cries a few tears. She is not obligated to go back to this toxic circle of yoyo with Aditya and life does move on.
As for Aryan, I would say that it is a combination of dilkashi (attraction) and a high protective instinct. He protects all those he cares about as well as those he is responsible for including his employees. He sees Imlie as a victim of Aditya just as he and his family faced the loss of the brother-in-law. Just as they hurt after the fire incident, he sees Imlie who is hurting due to Aditya's actions. He rightly sees Aditya's family as super callous. They may claim to love her but they don't put action to words. They are not out there protecting her and they didn't follow through with ensuring her safety. For Aryan, who belives in action, that is highly irresponsible as he would never allow that to his loved ones. So right now, his nurturing instincts have kicked in reallly strong. Because Imlie is caught in a toxic cycle, he is determined to break that pattern for her. He sees her as a victim and his role is to protect and rescue her. So it will be interesting to see his journey.
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