Originally posted by: return_to_hades
People accuse Meghan of playing the race card. Interestingly, Meghan has never explicitly called anyone racist. All she's done is narrate anecdotes about her experiences and people conclude that it's racist.
I don't think Meghan and Harry are lying. The royal family is an archaic institution that holds a lot of power and prestige. They have always been obsessed about parampara, pratishtha, aur ansuhasan. There are more rules and expectations than Gurukul. They push people to the limits to elicit compliance.
Princess Diana too struggled despite having a British upbringing and being groomed for high society. The stoic steadfast Iron Lady Margaret Thatcher was almost brought to tears in her Balmoral test. British monarchy treats all people like wild animals to be broken and tamed. So it is not surprising that Meghan has experienced a lot of trauma.
While there is definitely a racist undertone to the dealings with Meghan, it would be an oversight to ignore the other factors as well. Meghan was unsuitable for the royal family in more ways than one. She was half black, was a middle-aged divorcee, an American actress, and a commoner. Royal men are meant to marry young virgins. They are meant to marry women of noble blood groomed for high society. They are supposed to marry within the European bloodlines, not some foreigner, definitely not those Americans. Anyone who doesn't meet the high standards has to pass some sort of trial by fire to deem they are worthy. Meghan was just a woman who fell in love with a man whom she wanted to be with. She was unprepared for the testing she would go through.
I find it amusing when Indians think Meghan is lying. Hello - isn't this how elite upper crust Indians are. The scions have all these rules on what sort of women they should marry and bring home. If the girl is less than she will be tortured and tormented until she either divorces, is broken down to perpetual submission, or proves herself capable of handling the high stakes.
There is no room for a mental breakdown, postpartum depression or any mental health issues in Indian families. There is no room to seek outer help even abused and battered women are expected to stay silent and keep the family issues within the family. Indian families to will discuss how the baby will be like for hours. Wondering if they will have a good fair complexion and be attractive or the dark and lesser bloodlines (usually blamed on women) will impact the baby. We learned well from our masters of 200+ years.
I have no reason for disbelieving Meghan. Even if she is embellishing and exaggerating, I know well enough about the sociocultural expectations of high society throughout the commonwealth to know that its the norm, not an exception. Its just that for the first time the common people are hearing about it. People want to disbelieve because they don't want the shine to come off and want to live in the lala land of fairytale dreams.
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