Attachment styles
Hi guys… I don't know if u remember or not...but me and Naina (Naina_Manam) had made a post about Alien hand syndrome... since Naina is away...I did this one by myself... its about Attachment styles...and I have gathered information through google...and some from the knowledge that had gained from some of my classes... I hope that this post is useful... 😃
here r four attachment styles that affect our relationships with others… they r usually formed by how our parents treat us when we are a child…
I hope the information below is useful for u guys...😊
Children develop different styles of attachment based on experiences and interactions with their primary caregivers.
1. Secure Attachment
- Parents of securely attached children tend to play more with their children. Additionally, these parents react more quickly to their children's needs and are generally more responsive to their children than the parents of insecurely attached children. Studies have shown that securely attached children are more empathetic during later stages of childhood.
- As adults, those who are securely attached tend to have trusting, long-term relationships
- A child becomes securely attached when the mother is available and able to meet the needs of the child in a responsive and appropriate manner.
| As children: | As Adults: |
| 1. Able to separate from Parent | 1. Having trusting, lasting relationships. |
| 2. Seek comfort from parents when frightened | 2. Tend to have good self-esteem |
| 3. Return of parents is met with positive emotions | 3. Comfortable sharing feelings with friends. |
| 4. Prefers parents to strangers | 4. Seek out social support. |
- Ambivalent Attachment
- Children who are ambivalently attached tend to be extremely suspicious of strangers
- As adults, those with an ambivalent attachment style often feel reluctant about becoming close to others and worry that their partner does not reciprocate their feelings. This leads to frequent breakups, often because the relationship feels cold and distant.
- Sometimes the child's needs are ignored until some other activity is completed and that attention is sometimes given to the child more through the needs of the parent than from the child's initiation.
| As Children: | As Adults: |
| 1. May be wary of strangers | 1. Reluctant to become close to others. |
| 2. Become greatly distressed when the parent leaves. | 2. Worry that their partner does not love them. |
| 3. Don't appear to be comforted by the return of the parent. | 3. Become very distraught when a relationship ends. |
3. Avoidant Attachment
- Children with avoidant attachment styles tend to avoid parents and caregivers. This avoidance often becomes especially pronounced after a period of absence.
- Other common characteristics include a failure to support partners during stressful times.
- This style of attachment develops from a mothering style that is more disengaged. The child's needs are frequently not met and the child comes to believe that communication of needs has no influence on the mother.
| As Children: | As Adults: |
| 1. May Avoid Parents | 1. May have problems with intimacy. |
| 2. Does not seek much comfort or contact from parents. | 2. Invest little emotion in social and romantic relationships. |
| 3. Shows little or no preference between parent and stranger. | 3. Unable or unwilling to share thoughts and feelings with others. |
4. Disorganized Attachment
- Inconsistent behavior on the part of parents might be a contributing factor in this style of attachment.
- If the child uses the caregiver as a mirror to understand the self, the disorganized child is looking into a mirror broken into a thousand pieces.
| At age 1: | At Age 6: |
| 1. Show a mixture of avoidant and resistant behaviors. | 1. May take on a parental role. |
| 2. May seem dazed, confused, or apprehensive. | 2. Some children act as a caregiver toward the parent. |
While it cannot be said that infant attachment styles are identical to adult romantic-attachment styles, research has shown that early attachment styles can help predict patterns of behavior in adulthood.
Attachment styles can be changed by developing healthy relationships. Often therapy is a place to start because here you can practice relationship skills.
Do people with different attachment styles differ in terms of what they think love is?
| Love Test Scale Score | Attachment Style | ||
| Secure | Avoidant | Anxious/ | |
| Passion | 75.2% | *71.1% | 75.3% |
| Intimacy | 90.7% | *87.4% | 89.3% |
| Commitment | 78.8% | *74.5% | 80.0% |
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