A pregnant woman goes through several ups and downs during her pregnancy. The best person who can be a pillar of strength for her and assist her during this long journey of nine moths is her husband. Her husband is the person who can definitely make her feel safe and happy during this time. He can love her as her lover, take care of her like a father, support her like a friend, and entertain her like a kid.
However, some husbands fail to understand the inner monologue of their wives and gradually, this affects their relationship.
Here are some do's and don'ts for the husbands of would-be-mothers.
Some do's first:
Your wife may become distressed due to her growing belly and breasts. She may not consider herself as beautiful as before anymore. So, you must always try to compliment her in one or other. Tell her that she looks all the more glowing and beautiful with her baby bump and you love to see her as she is.
Help your wife in every possible manner whether it's cooking or washing dishes, assisting her in her office work or handling your other kids. This small gesture of support and help will make her quite happy.
During pregnancy, your wife must be going through feet and ankle swelling or leg pain. Don't hesitate to offer her a light massage with oil at the end of the day. For a pregnant woman, a foot rub can be a heavenly thing. Try to give her head massages too as it will help her get a good night sleep.
Always answer your wife's calls especially if it is near the end of pregnancy. You never know, she may have called you to inform about an emergency. Besides that, call her during the day to ask her how she's feeling. Make sure she is continuously taking her meals.
Don't let your wife feel that now she is pregnant, there is no romance left in their life. Plan a romantic dinner or bring a surprise gift for her.
Always make her feel special by making her realize how happy you are with her. Tell her that she is the best wife in this world.
A pregnant woman always loves to talk about her baby. So, discuss things with her, plan baby products with her. If you are ordering something for your future baby, involve her in the decision. Decorate the baby room together incorporating mutual suggestions.
Every pregnant woman has certain kinds of cravings such as sweet or sour. Find out what your wife wants and surprise her with her favorite dishes. It would be much better if the dishes are home made.
Some don'ts for husbands:
Never let your wife feel like she is fat and she no longer has an impressive figure. Don't comment negatively on any of her clothes or say that she looks big in them.
Your wife may feel lazy at times during her pregnancy. There can be some days when she will just sleep for the whole day. However, you must not make her feel as lazy or boring.
Pregnant women walk slowly due to their big bump. So, don't walk three steps forward leaving her behind. Whenever you go for a walk, slow down and step forward as she does.
Due to mood swings or stress, your wife may forget about doctor's appointments. However, as her husband you must not forget any of the prenatal visits. Get all the prenatal tests done as suggested by the doctor. Some women are also at risk of getting some chromosomal abnormalities in their babies. If that's the case, ask the doctor for a prenatal genetic screening test. NACE (Non-invasive Analysis for Chromosomal Abnormalities) is one such test, which is safe and risk-free and gives results with high accuracy.
Your wife may show concern aboutthe health of the baby every other day. Don't scold her or ignore her. Even if you can't do anything about it, just listen. Let pour out her feelings. It will make her feel better.
Don't drink or smoke in front for your pregnant wife.
Don't talk about any financial problems you may face after having a baby.
If your wife shows frustration, irritation or anger all the time, don't talk about anything related to this with your friends in front of her. This will make her feel worse.
Like a woman, a man also faces several challenges when his wife is expecting. He also goes through several kinds of anxieties and fears along with happiness. Amidst this mixed bag of emotions, he may miss out his duties and responsibilities. Therefore, a woman must also understand and support her husband.
There have been cases when couples' relationships have been affected during pregnancy. However, if there is mutual understanding and love, pregnancy can be the best time for a couple.
NACE- Non-Invasive Prenatal Test
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