Originally posted by: adinats07
Dhanak is not dumb.. even if raghu remove her from his job.. she can still survive .. even akshay is not need as per the character which was introduced in the initial show.. now they have made her just like abla nari who needs someone.. because nobody likes strong character or lead.. plus no one support female character if she is strong independent.. mostly all like girls falling for boys and be a yes lady.. if Raghu says come home then she had to listen. Or else ever one will bash her.. her life was different but after Raghu came to her life it changed.. it was both good bad.. because story should be there.. but then Dhanak story stopped it was only Mai with Maya or sakhi or Maya Raghu.. then Bharat then tourturing Dhanak which no one is ever.. Raghu said I killed Preeti who was like a daughter to her.. but few I read that y she is accusing Raghu.. sometimes I really feel suprised to read this . Y can't Dhanak have values.. y can't she say no .. y can't she can think for herself.. y is that we always want to support male lead.. but yes Raghu is a good person that's y she still loves him .. but only a strong woman who is not self centred will give away her love for her child.. though Raghu is good but never forget Mai is there who may try to give wrong upbringing for her child.. I like one line given to Dhanak that for her child she has to be strong.. regarding marriage to Akshay.. I know again many will bash dhanak but many would have forgotten that Raghu was ready to marry Maya also and then was thinking Dhanak will save her.. but that was the best episode.. first time PH thought from Dhanaks angle for Raghu.. or else her pain emotions r not even shown in this show.. wish the makers had shown more of Dhanak and Raghu journey their happiness their pain their understanding . But I can see only Mai Raghu journey here more.. Dhanak character becomes the soft target for bashing
Hey! so nice to have some engagement here! now coming to the comment- dhanak's intelligence is fleeting at best. we will have to agree to disagree on that. it comes in one second and is overtaken by naivety in the next. there are MANY instances of that- one example being when she knows maayi's truth one second and decides to trust her the very next second. but yes, she is educated and i am sure very able to get a job if raghu kicks her out- even in this karki economy. but getting a job takes time. and unemployed women do not get custody of a child. raghu just needs to utilise that 1 week time frame that she would remain unemployed to get custody on the basis of inability to provide- or at the very least shared custody.
now coming to the second part of audience not liking strong and independent women. now whether dhanak was ever an independent woman is debatable. if you have been following the show since the beginning, i cannot remember a single mission that she completed as police or a trainee that didnt require her to rely on raghu. can you? if you give me one instance, i will concede.
as for the audience not liking strong and independent women, if you see the current shows that are working in trp- shakti- the story of a mother providing and raising 3 children without needing a man, choti sardarni- girl who is a victim of honour killing fighting to birth her child, naira in yeh rishta- single mother who didnt rely on a man to raise her child when her husband pretty much questioned her character and her child's paternity. none of them are shown to be reliant on a man to accomplish their goals and they're all trp winners. even if you look at diya aur baati- it had super high ratings and sandhya definitely wore the pants in that relationship. i think its about how strength is portrayed.
one of my favourite tv characters was dr sonakshi in kuch rang pyaar k aise bhi- she also didnt want to share custody of her child with her man-child husband. but i 100% supported her because she was fighting for something fundamental- self-respect. dhanak's character- idk what she is fighting for other than ego. raghu has moved the world for her self-respect and there was never an incident where he disrespected her for no fault of her own. he killed preeti yes, but that was by accident. she knows that. acknowledged that in her own monologue- even forgiven him for that. he didnt go there to do gundagardi. and he hasnt done gundagardi in a long time. so her constant lectures just seem hollow. it is not a moral dilemma because raghu doesnt lack the morals or principles she touts about. she just doesnt trust him, at all. i can give you many incidences of this mistrust. which brings me to conclude that she NEVER loved him. it was not her choice to marry him, but it was her choice to accept this marriage. she should not have done that if she was incapable of trusting him. we are responsible for our own choices no?
as for ppl liking girls who are 'yes lady'- i personally think dhanak has always been a 'yes lady', just not with raghu. for other men- her puppa and akshay- she seems very much like a yes lady. and honestly, i dont need her to be a 'yes lady'- she can deny raghu. infact she should have in the very beginning denied him. but she CANNOT deny raghu access to his son. that doesnt fall within her jurisdiction. especially a child conceived in marriage and not post divorce. as for her life changing, if we are really going to assess- whose life changed more after they met? dhanak or raghu? dhanak still did everything she ever wanted to do- raghu changed his whole world for her. this was a critical flaw in the writing. the changes in dhanak's life was so little compared to what raghu has done for her that its literally laughable. its like hearing a guy complaining about new wife taking more space in his cupboard when she's just left her home and family to start a life with him. you just cannot take that seriously.
as for dhanak's values- they are also very inconsistent and change with her mood. when she wants raghu she's willing to forget about maayi's drug case, but now she wants to keep her son to herself so raghu is a gunda and she's anti-crime. what values of hers did raghu go against that she wants to keep rounak away from him? and its not about preeti- as i mentioned she clearly doesnt care about that. and ofcourse marrying akshay for her child is not self-centered, but what is it? its not the best option for rounak to be away from his father. and before you say- oh but maayi is there and dhanak is trying to keep him away from maayi- thats not true. she has never been worried about maayi taking rounak away from her. her worry has always been raghu being a bad influence. if she knows he's a good person then why all this drama?
and accha chalo maan lete hain, this is some great sacrifice and not an unnecessary ego drive. but atleast show her as someone who has some sensitivities. even women who cheat their husbands dont look so excited to see divorce papers as she was yesterday. it was distasteful. raghu agreed to marry maya but not for one second did i believe that he would follow through. even if dhanak didnt stop him, i dont think he would've married maya. because i as an audience BELIEVE in raghu's love. i just dont believe in dhanak's. nobody does. thats why the trp is bad. dhanak's ego is more important than raghu and even rounak now. i acknowledge that its because of the story being a pile of garbage. but as the audience i can only react to what i see and not cut dhanak slack for what could have been if her character was not poorly portrayed. and from what i see, she's an ego maniac who only cares about her own definition of right and wrong without any regards to anyone else around her- including her husband and child. thats not my definition of strong independent woman. maayi is a strong independent woman- whatever she does, sahi or galat, she does it on her own, including raising her son whilst keeping her horrible husband away. dhanak is an ego maniac without a cause. its a very good trait for ips and military but doesnt work in relationships which require nuance.
Edited by tejaswiniwenham - 5 years ago
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