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There are several impacts of a death, some practical and most of them emotional.. Most often, the immediate family learns to handle these impacts over the passage of time, and some of these impacts fade over time.. But there will be some emotional scars left behind, and some times they are not just scars, but open wounds which would bleed and pain forever..
Anu is right from her POV to decline treatment, she lost hope of survival and her intuition says there's no use in treatment.. Moreover she doesn't want to drain her family'a finances.. All of these very valid points... But what about Ram? What is she reducing him to? After her death, he is going to be a shallow of a man, not just because he lost his better half and pillar of support, but because he will be feeling like a failure who is incapable of giving the best shot to save his beloved.. And this feeling of failure will stay with him forever until his own death.. This feeling is just like cancer, a hidden assassin, spreading from within, killing inch by inch, in this case not the body cells, but the mind..
Yeah, there are lot of cases, when the patient and the immediate family decides to forego the treatment if the survival chances are not bright. There are various reasons, most often because the patient doesn't want to go through the pain, the uncertainty, and the emotional drain it causes the family. In the case of advance cancer treatment, I often heard the treatments create more pain to the body than the disease..
But when the family or in particular the breadwinner of the family cannot afford the treatment, it is altogether a different case. He / she would feel that the treatment is rejected solely because he / she is incapable of paying for it and not because of any other reason cited by the patient.. That's exactly what Anu is making Ram to feel..
Anu knows Ram well enough to predict what will be his next move, But does she know him enough to understand what her death is going to cost him? Doesn't she understand the truth when he says his music, success and fame are meaningless without her? Doesn't she understand what is HIS priority? Does she really think he can chase behind success after failing to save her? Does she really think saving his compositions is most important than saving her? Yes, ofocurse there is no guarantee that she can be saved. But is there a guarantee for anything in life, even for his music getting released someday in his own name...
By denying him the chance to save her (by selling his music), she made him a failure, not just in his own eyes, but also in the eyes of his own daughter.. How does a person feel when his / her own child asks 'Do you have another means to save mother, Nanu is the only option left'. No, I am not blaming Disha here.. She has every right to try her best to save her mom, same as Ram. But what kind of impact it leaves on Ram?
And why it happened? All because Anu doesn't want the blame of Ram losing out on the fame on her conscience.. But if he losing out to achieve fame, could save her life, isn't it a better bargain? Ok, even if she couldn't be saved, isn't a living person's conscience more important than a dead person's conscience? Yes, everyone wants to die with a clear conscience, but isn't living with a clear conscience more important?
I couldn't relate to yesterday's episode mainly because of these questions... Yes, it was a good episode with good scenes, but when Anu went on a crying monologue, I couldn't relate to her...
Coming to the episode.. Manav gets a call from Karan (Ram's friend) that Ram is not selling his music, Manav tries in vain to bargain. Mr. Kapoor is angry on Manav and says Ram will never sell out.. At the Ahuja house, Ram is cooking, but his mind is somewhere else, Aarav cutely remind him about cooking... The Aarav - Disha scene was good, Disha consoling Aarav that mom will be alright.. Disha as expected calls her grandad, she getting the number from a magazine article.. Ok, here is a blooper or creative liberty.. Why will a magazine provide his home phone number? Anyway, the phone is attended by butler, Disha doesn't say who she is, and Mr. Kapoor promptly declines to take the call as he thinks it is from some wannabe musician.. Ram listens to Disha's failed attempt, questions her and get the response I mentioned above... He can't show his frustration on Disha, can he? So, he consoles her saying he will somehow manage the money and that he is happy that Disha cares so much for her mother...
Then comes a FB which i hated. Ram remembering Anu talking so highly of her father to him & kids and claiming that her father will come the moment she needs him.. Probably it is a good scene, but I was so angry with Anu then, and this FB fuelled my anger, Anu's father certainly doesn't deserve such blind admiration..
Ram decides his next attempt, his last ditch attempt.. He reaches Kapoor mansion where Mr. Kapoor with his second daughter are leaving in a car chauffeured by Sooraj.. Ram knocks the closed windows and pleads his case, Mr. Kapoor's brain goes into hiding due to his anger & hatred over Ram, he instructs Sooraj to drive off without bothering to listen to Ram.. Ram runs behind the car, his palm getting scratched by the moving car.. Nothing much to say, except that Ram's desperation shows here and Mr. Kapoor who is supposedly a smart cookie fails to add 2 + 2 as he is blinded by his ego and hatred..
Anu at her hospital bed, watching a loving father - daughter duo in the corridor and remembering her own father.. Ram comes in, Anu notices his hurt palm, asks the nurse to attend it, nurse goes to get anti tetanus inj. Ram is scared of injections (again !!!), the conversation moves to Anu's suffering from chemo, Anu makes another crying plea for letting her go, asking for Mukti, she also says her death will only remove the hurdles in the kids future.. Ram looks at her helplessly.. Gurdeep was excellent once again in this scene, but as I said, I didn't feel connected to Anu's pain because she is being selfish here..
The last scene, and probably the first over dramatic scene in the last 5 episodes.. Ram is called out to the corridor by the hospital staff and he is asked to pay the money immediately or else take his wife home.. Ram pleads first and then gets angry, shouts at the person asking him to take his kidney, heart, liver, eye or any other body part in exchange of money. Anu hears the exchange from inside the room, gets agitated, calls out to Ram and starts coughing, Ram & nurse rushes in..
I don't think any hospital staff would hold such discussion on a corridor, this scene is primarily designed to make Anu tense & agitated and why was the nurse standing out listening to the confrontation instead of attending to Anu.. Ram's behaviour was out of line, but could be understandable.. His frustrations on his failed attempts to get money, his sorrow in just listening to his wife's monologue, his feeling of failure in the eyes of his daughter, all of them coming out in this scene..
Precap : Sooraj trying to make Mr. Kapoor see sense on why Ram would have come.. Kids wanting to meet Anu and Doc telling Ram to take his wife home..
Ok, overall a decent episode, but not as good as the previous 4 episodes.. I think Anu would pass away in the next 2 or 3 episodes. Sooraj trying to convince Mr, Kapoor made me feel so. By the time Mr. Kapoor comes around and tries to find out the cause for Ram's visit, it would be too late for Anu.. It is also getting more clear what will make Ram hit the rock bottom, the feeling of failure.. I won't be surprised, if he starts thinking that he is not a good enough father, and the kids are better off without him..
Anu is right from her POV to decline treatment, she lost hope of survival and her intuition says there's no use in treatment.. Moreover she doesn't want to drain her family'a finances.. All of these very valid points... But what about Ram? What is she reducing him to? After her death, he is going to be a shallow of a man, not just because he lost his better half and pillar of support, but because he will be feeling like a failure who is incapable of giving the best shot to save his beloved.. And this feeling of failure will stay with him forever until his own death.. This feeling is just like cancer, a hidden assassin, spreading from within, killing inch by inch, in this case not the body cells, but the mind..
Yeah, there are lot of cases, when the patient and the immediate family decides to forego the treatment if the survival chances are not bright. There are various reasons, most often because the patient doesn't want to go through the pain, the uncertainty, and the emotional drain it causes the family. In the case of advance cancer treatment, I often heard the treatments create more pain to the body than the disease..
But when the family or in particular the breadwinner of the family cannot afford the treatment, it is altogether a different case. He / she would feel that the treatment is rejected solely because he / she is incapable of paying for it and not because of any other reason cited by the patient.. That's exactly what Anu is making Ram to feel..
Anu knows Ram well enough to predict what will be his next move, But does she know him enough to understand what her death is going to cost him? Doesn't she understand the truth when he says his music, success and fame are meaningless without her? Doesn't she understand what is HIS priority? Does she really think he can chase behind success after failing to save her? Does she really think saving his compositions is most important than saving her? Yes, ofocurse there is no guarantee that she can be saved. But is there a guarantee for anything in life, even for his music getting released someday in his own name...
By denying him the chance to save her (by selling his music), she made him a failure, not just in his own eyes, but also in the eyes of his own daughter.. How does a person feel when his / her own child asks 'Do you have another means to save mother, Nanu is the only option left'. No, I am not blaming Disha here.. She has every right to try her best to save her mom, same as Ram. But what kind of impact it leaves on Ram?
And why it happened? All because Anu doesn't want the blame of Ram losing out on the fame on her conscience.. But if he losing out to achieve fame, could save her life, isn't it a better bargain? Ok, even if she couldn't be saved, isn't a living person's conscience more important than a dead person's conscience? Yes, everyone wants to die with a clear conscience, but isn't living with a clear conscience more important?
I couldn't relate to yesterday's episode mainly because of these questions... Yes, it was a good episode with good scenes, but when Anu went on a crying monologue, I couldn't relate to her...
Coming to the episode.. Manav gets a call from Karan (Ram's friend) that Ram is not selling his music, Manav tries in vain to bargain. Mr. Kapoor is angry on Manav and says Ram will never sell out.. At the Ahuja house, Ram is cooking, but his mind is somewhere else, Aarav cutely remind him about cooking... The Aarav - Disha scene was good, Disha consoling Aarav that mom will be alright.. Disha as expected calls her grandad, she getting the number from a magazine article.. Ok, here is a blooper or creative liberty.. Why will a magazine provide his home phone number? Anyway, the phone is attended by butler, Disha doesn't say who she is, and Mr. Kapoor promptly declines to take the call as he thinks it is from some wannabe musician.. Ram listens to Disha's failed attempt, questions her and get the response I mentioned above... He can't show his frustration on Disha, can he? So, he consoles her saying he will somehow manage the money and that he is happy that Disha cares so much for her mother...
Then comes a FB which i hated. Ram remembering Anu talking so highly of her father to him & kids and claiming that her father will come the moment she needs him.. Probably it is a good scene, but I was so angry with Anu then, and this FB fuelled my anger, Anu's father certainly doesn't deserve such blind admiration..
Ram decides his next attempt, his last ditch attempt.. He reaches Kapoor mansion where Mr. Kapoor with his second daughter are leaving in a car chauffeured by Sooraj.. Ram knocks the closed windows and pleads his case, Mr. Kapoor's brain goes into hiding due to his anger & hatred over Ram, he instructs Sooraj to drive off without bothering to listen to Ram.. Ram runs behind the car, his palm getting scratched by the moving car.. Nothing much to say, except that Ram's desperation shows here and Mr. Kapoor who is supposedly a smart cookie fails to add 2 + 2 as he is blinded by his ego and hatred..
Anu at her hospital bed, watching a loving father - daughter duo in the corridor and remembering her own father.. Ram comes in, Anu notices his hurt palm, asks the nurse to attend it, nurse goes to get anti tetanus inj. Ram is scared of injections (again !!!), the conversation moves to Anu's suffering from chemo, Anu makes another crying plea for letting her go, asking for Mukti, she also says her death will only remove the hurdles in the kids future.. Ram looks at her helplessly.. Gurdeep was excellent once again in this scene, but as I said, I didn't feel connected to Anu's pain because she is being selfish here..
The last scene, and probably the first over dramatic scene in the last 5 episodes.. Ram is called out to the corridor by the hospital staff and he is asked to pay the money immediately or else take his wife home.. Ram pleads first and then gets angry, shouts at the person asking him to take his kidney, heart, liver, eye or any other body part in exchange of money. Anu hears the exchange from inside the room, gets agitated, calls out to Ram and starts coughing, Ram & nurse rushes in..
I don't think any hospital staff would hold such discussion on a corridor, this scene is primarily designed to make Anu tense & agitated and why was the nurse standing out listening to the confrontation instead of attending to Anu.. Ram's behaviour was out of line, but could be understandable.. His frustrations on his failed attempts to get money, his sorrow in just listening to his wife's monologue, his feeling of failure in the eyes of his daughter, all of them coming out in this scene..
Precap : Sooraj trying to make Mr. Kapoor see sense on why Ram would have come.. Kids wanting to meet Anu and Doc telling Ram to take his wife home..
Ok, overall a decent episode, but not as good as the previous 4 episodes.. I think Anu would pass away in the next 2 or 3 episodes. Sooraj trying to convince Mr, Kapoor made me feel so. By the time Mr. Kapoor comes around and tries to find out the cause for Ram's visit, it would be too late for Anu.. It is also getting more clear what will make Ram hit the rock bottom, the feeling of failure.. I won't be surprised, if he starts thinking that he is not a good enough father, and the kids are better off without him..
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