These are my own views based on the opinions I have formed in my head after seeing the kind of marriages in my family and outside.
Arranged marriage
On the positive side I believe that though Arranged marriages do involve knowing less about your future husband or wife and more play of your family and parents, they are not necessarily unsuccessful.My own parents have had an arranged marriage and they are still going strong after twenty five years :) They do not exactly put out their love for everyone to see but I can still see the subtle love and support between them.
On the negative side, nowadays I have noticed a whole lot of arranged marriages which are somehow going on but definitely not happy ones. Since the husband and wife don't exactly know each other well, it is only after marriage that they realise each others shortcomings.Plus there are times when the groom and his family aren't what they seem on the surface. The bride is unhappy and the stigma against divorces in India makes it difficult for her to leave the alliance.
Love marriages
My family fortunately has had successful love marriages in my parents' generation as well as my own. Specially in the generation I belong to, most of my cousins are now into love-cum-arranged marriages and that actually works great because the couple knows and loves each other and the families get to know each other too. These are considered more than arranged marriages today because I believe that understanding and love between a couple is more important than anything. Plus it saves the trouble of going through matrimonial columns and long visits from far flung aunties and uncles who have the names of possible suitors on their tongue :|
But in cases where the parents don't agree to the alliance, its obviously a difficult situation. Fortunately I haven't seen anything like this in my own family or near ones.
As for me, I am pretty young to consider which kind of marriage is better. Both have pros and cons,its upto the situation you are in. I am happily satisfied with watching Romantic comedies and gorging on food for now 😆
PS-All this is from the POV of an Indian.Situations might be different in other countries :)
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