The Dowry Issue - Page 2

Originally posted by: LadyLaLa

Regarding the dowry issue... this is just the tip of the iceberg.. they have just asked for 25 million in dowry.. there will be more demands down the lane.. everytime there is a function, they would expect the DIL to bring in more money... so its good to nip it in the bud... 😆

I will also blame those who bow down to such demands... if taking dowry is considered a crime, the one giving too is equally at fault.. by doing so they too are agreeing that a girl is inferior to a boy ... if I was the girl who got to know that my parents had given a hefty some as dowry.. I would tell the boy that now that I have bought him and his family they had better serve me day and night.. 🤣 Because only slaves are bought and sold in the market.. so technically the dulha has been sold for a price of 25 million..

@bold- Haha...that would serve them right me thinks!😉

Originally posted by: Miss Cherie

Yeah! I totally agree, the ones giving dowry are also equally at fault!

By doing so they are just putting down their own daughters, like Purvi said!

@bold- 🤣 Haha...that would serve them right me thinks!😉

And the Dulha better match up to your standards and become your ghulam, cause 25 million is a hefty price to pay eh😉

Originally posted by: McNinja

There needs to be more people from our generations, especially the men, who make it clear to their families that they want no dowry of sorts. The older generation is unlikely to come out of this mindset, so hopefully we can start to change these regressive rituals.

Originally posted by: canuck-umz

I think there is no question, the girl may have had to endure it like their friend did in the flashback scenes.

The father did what he did because he felt indebted to Umaben for I guess giving him work or whatever she and her husband did for him. UmaBen also seems to have a way with words, she is persuasive without looking bad. She puts on this innocent faccade, so she does not look bad or otherwise acts as if it is her right, whatever it is she does. Same with the ex in laws to be, they had used the whole reverse psychology tactic (UmaBen is a master at this isn't she?).

Originally posted by: McNinja

The issue of dowry is so deep-rooted in our culture that I wonder if there is a real way around it, atleast not for another few generations as we continue to make strides at trying to eradicate the issue.

But truth be told, from what I've seen of recent marriages back home, the dowry is just getting worse. Nowadays it's considered a given that a girl will bring a car, that the immediate family of the guy will be given gold jewlery of sorts, etc etc...it's getting to a point that an average person can't give away his daughter "respectfully" without selling land, taking loans and what not.

And yet we still see that girls fathers keep giving into these demands, thinking its for the greater good. I can understand the conundrum that exists for families...it's really a catch-22. Give in once to the demands, and they can keep popping up. Don't give in, can you live with the weight of a broken engagement/marriage of your child?

There needs to be more people from our generations, especially the men, who make it clear to their families that they want no dowry of sorts. The older generation is unlikely to come out of this mindset, so hopefully we can start to change these regressive rituals.

Originally posted by: Didikisaut

Who doesn't like easy money???😛

Some hope to strike gold via lottery, gambling, betting or any other medium..sadly Dowry is also one such source. Greed sets in at a later stage leading to more demands and if the requests are not met it will lead to abuse & harassment..

At the end of the day a right decision was made or Purvi would have suffered a disastrous future..

Originally posted by: LadyLaLa

Hiya DKS 🤗 Gosh it has been eons since I saw you online.. How are you? It's so good to see you here.. 😊