Who seems to be the more hard to handle saas? - Page 3

I feel like Neetu is more toxic given her meddling in her sons life. Also, she was a stay at home mom, gave up her career etc….. and Ranbir still turned out like this 😆speaks volumes

Honestly speaking stay at home moms in South Asia are more regressive, spoil sons rotten and meddle in life of kids, grandkids, DILs all life, are wary of samdhis also and posessive of their kids as they have no life beyond own home. Some also cover up for their sons all life as they feel they are dependent on son and son will keep them in old age.

Usually kids of desi housewives are regressive, bratty and entitled. Especially their sons are total male chauvinists.

Though kids of working moms may also be MCPs, especially given son preference in India and pampering of male child by whole family, but I personally feel kids of SAHMs in desi homes are more entitled, coddled, and take women for granted and some also look down upon women and think women do nothing and live at mercy of men.

I have cousins whose moms are housewives and they misbehave with mom, sisters and all women and also think women do nothing, live off men, and only men do everything or run the home. They even think women have no brain or education or skill to do work or earn. This is how much they look down upon their stay at home moms and they feel surprised if they see a working woman or a woman who earns or gets good grades etc. Those cousins treat own mom also as no less than a maid who will fulfil their demands at one call and demand food or coffee from mom even at odd hours or expect mom to clean up their mess, defend them from dad, support them no matter what and serve them even if moms themselves are sick. I feel bad for aunts but they seem too attached to their kids and tolerate shit quietly saying koi ni, mera bacha hai.

Can I add Babita to the poll as well? She can be a bitch when needed.😊

Look who the hell her daughters are. 😊

I feel Neetu can be good to great MIL as long as her Bahu is docile, obedient and does to her son's bidding. Jaya, however, she seems eternally grumpy and frustrated for reasons known and unknown.

Both women have kept up with husbands who had affairs with other women just to keep the family stringed together. While AB senior is much suave with his persona, Rishi Ji remained an uncouth loud mouth till the end. This way the women went through similar kind of infidelity in their respective married life. Neetu seemed more "accepting" of the fact and seemed to have let go. The notion that only mental infidelity matters seems to be her idea, which she has successfully passed on to her son and Bahu as well.

With Jaya, despite her acceptance, still seems to be bitter over her husband's escapades and I'm not blaming her. Her bottled up frustrations erupts now and then even on public platforms.

Both have daughters. While Neetu's daughter seemingly doesn't interfere much in her maayka's affairs, Jaya's daughter is a different case altogether. Her looming presence in her maayka has turned Jaya into more obnoxious MIL of late.

Hence, my vote goes to Jaya by a tiny margin.. Otherwise, they seem pretty much the same except that Neetu seems more sweet and sorted in her public appearances.

Both are bhayanak. Tauba!

No power in the world would ever compel me to marry their sons while they’re still alive and kicking. I don’t know how their daughter-in-laws cope with them.

Originally posted by: ThandiChai

I personally feel people like Jaya ji are "on your face" kind of people. Once you know their good, bad..you can behave in a certain way to save yourself from wrath from people like her.

Neetu seems more like a meethi chhuri..she'll be sweet on your face and you never know what offended her until your pyaari nanad lectures you on hurting her mom.

Both are difficult but people like Neetu are more backstabbers kind of people.

Its just my personal opinion. I don't have a saas. My MIL died when my husband was young. Sometimes I wish I had a saas, others time I am thankful I don't have one.

Omg exactly my thought! People who are neetu type are more dangerous

Originally posted by: Raijeera

My own saas.

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Originally posted by: atominis

Honestly speaking stay at home moms in South Asia are more regressive, spoil sons rotten and meddle in life of kids, grandkids, DILs all life, are wary of samdhis also and posessive of their kids as they have no life beyond own home. Some also cover up for their sons all life as they feel they are dependent on son and son will keep them in old age.

Usually kids of desi housewives are regressive, bratty and entitled. Especially their sons are total male chauvinists.

Though kids of working moms may also be MCPs, especially given son preference in India and pampering of male child by whole family, but I personally feel kids of SAHMs in desi homes are more entitled, coddled, and take women for granted and some also look down upon women and think women do nothing and live at mercy of men.

I have cousins whose moms are housewives and they misbehave with mom, sisters and all women and also think women do nothing, live off men, and only men do everything or run the home. They even think women have no brain or education or skill to do work or earn. This is how much they look down upon their stay at home moms and they feel surprised if they see a working woman or a woman who earns or gets good grades etc. Those cousins treat own mom also as no less than a maid who will fulfil their demands at one call and demand food or coffee from mom even at odd hours or expect mom to clean up their mess, defend them from dad, support them no matter what and serve them even if moms themselves are sick. I feel bad for aunts but they seem too attached to their kids and tolerate shit quietly saying koi ni, mera bacha hai.

Wish IF had a dislike button... Since your cousins are like that it doesn't mean everyone will be the same...

Truth hurts eh? I have seen firsthand how people treat women be it working moms or housewives and how Indian women are taught to tolerate all shit and take it as normal part of life and desi men, kids are so entitled that they do not even think their behaviour was wrong. And women are made so emotional that even if someone apologises, they start saying no you do not need to do so.

Goodness of Indian women is taken for granted especially as moms, grannies and wives.

It can also just be some women don't have the opportunity to get an education still. India does not have universal education up until high school yet. That can also be an issue. They feel they have no way to survive other than endure abuse from their husbands.

Although Neetu does come across as a doormat, in that interview about Rishi Kapoor. It also gives insight about how she became so messed up. Clearly, the circumstances were so horrible she had to convince her mind that it was funny to bear them. Infidelity can hurt someone on so many levels. Especially, on a self-esteem level. Then not to mention the fact that Rishi Kapoor was a violent drunk. I don't think Ranbir comes across as a man who would hit a woman. He is actually a tad better then his father.

About Aloo it seemed like she knew what she was getting into. Thus her statement I only care about emotional infidelity even before the marriage. It did not seem like Neetu knew what she was getting into. She learned how to try to convince herself it was ok. Clearly theirs was not a mutually open relationship. Nor was the marriage agreed upon to be an open relationship right from the get-go.

Do I feel bad for Aloo? I guess no one really knows the pain of infidelity until it happens to them. I had so many friends say I would leave my boyfriend right away if they cheated. I will not be that girl who sits in a corner and cries. Then it happened and they almost committed suicide. I mean no one knows how bad it is until it happens to them. So I still hope Aloo is ok. Apparently, according to reddit the few random one-night stands happened before the marriage. So she clearly must have known beforehand. And STILL, she went through with marriage.