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Originally posted by: khamosshhh
I keep meaning to reply to ur posts and keep getting sidelined.I think it's false to say that 10 people have a problem with her attitude. Yes dey don't like it when she swears and abuses in a generalized way and they r absolutely right and entitled to feel that way. Am just copy/ pasting what I had written earlier:
Its also a misconception that Bani does not try to make friends. I have said it weeks ago that she was the one celeb who made an effort to talk to the commoners one-to-one. Evidence is when Akansha got evicted and Niti was feeling sad, Bani went and told her dat somehow she had not been able to talk to her only, but had talked to all d HMs and dat she wld like to get to know her.Even Gaurav was telling to Bani that Manu thought Manu and Bani would be best friends as she had talked to him in thr first week.Bani has always made efforts to have a one-to-one talks with HMs and be on friendly terms with most. She was good friends with Karan and Lokesh other than Gaurav and also friendly with Manveer, Mona, Nitibha, Rahul (initially) and Rohan on and off. She is already friend of Sahil, though he too wasnt sure how she wld take him in BB house. But she welcomed him so warmly and dey r gelling well in unseen videos and when Rahul was mocking Sahi's walking style, she told him not to do so and dat he's a nice guy. So she has never deliberately try to distance herself from the HMs. Though she tends to go into her own zone sometimes, but tat does not mean does not want to be friends with others.What I suppose upsets her and baffles her is dat when der's any negative tags or things dat have to be said about HMs, she ends up at the receiving end. Like in dat tag task, Manveer even he's more of a friend of Bani, but then gives d honest tag to Lopa and dis is what Bani can't comprehend. She genuinely feels she's on good terms with all, but many HMs have issues with her and she does not realize it. That's naive on her part and it upsets her.
It is Bani herself who feels that they all have a problem with her attitude, barring Gaurav (and the WCs) of course, by implication - hence Rahul's response to her questioning that.
As I said previously - not all her friendships last beyond their original purpose and she's extremely good at alienating people - she was suddenly friendly with Manveer, out of nowhere, and then just as suddenly dropped him not even a day and a half later. If you're friends with someone, or trying to be friendly/develop a friendship, you do not embarrass them publicly, and make them out to be a liar, when it is entirely unnecessary, as she did with Rohan - and I don't buy the 'Bani is honest to a fault, and must say the truth at all times' argument, even when she can keep quiet and there would be no problem. And besides - Rohan didn't lie at all there, but that issue has already been discussed weeks ago.
I'm sure she can be nice to people she likes, when she likes - but she does her own share of bitching, mocking and character assuming about people she dislikes, so Rahul mocking someone she currently likes is a moot point. And like I said previously, I'm not saying they all dislike her - she is. Rahul too, didn't say so - he said they have a problem with her attitude, but Bani thinks there's nothing wrong with her attitude whatsoever, so the fault must lie with everyone else.
@bold - Maybe Manveer genuinely thinks Lopa is more deserving of the 'honest' tag? And I don't see him more friendly with Bani than he is with Lopa - to me he's gelled and hangs out far more with Lopa, than he does with Bani. And even if it were the reverse, perhaps he was being honest? After all, the task was not about giving the positive tags to your friends, but rather placing them where you think they fit. If Gaurav's choice was true and genuine, I think it's fair to say Manveer's was too.
Her being upset at being at the receiving end of the negative tags is the whole issue - she thinks she doesn't deserve a single negative tag, ever, because she cannot be criticised, ever. That is not very adult - she needs to accept that she's not perfect, and that people can and will dislike components of her personality, just as she does for others. And if this upsets her, as Rahul said, the way to fix that is to introspect - not to expect that everyone will like you, regardless of how you behave and treat them, at all times.
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