Originally posted by: SRKLuvr
Nobody says to nibhao vachans in situations where the other person is at fault, is sane and is deliberately giving you grief. Who doesn't love you and who treats you wrong. There was nothing like this in this situation. Maya's mental illness made her act like a suffocation but we never saw Arjun even trying to fix this situation. The type of dialogues Arjun said before marriage indicated he knew that marrying Maya would be no easy ride and he always promised he would be there for her no matter what happened and would never leave her. He said even GOD would have to ask Maya for permission to separate him from her. He asked her for her heart her Jaan and her love till her last breath. Sorry for being the incurable romantic but those vachans mean something to me and I would not give up on my marriage or break those vachans if I were in arjun's Position.
If he couldn't fulfill this then he shouldn't have have made the vachans.
Hello. Been a silent reader on the forum. Stopped watching the show long back but kept myself updated and also watched the finale.
Sorry if u felt am interfering in your conversation just wanted to ask something. I have always read posts on this forum about how Arjun should have understood her mental illness and tried to cure her. How always the blame somehow or the other shifts to Arjun here. There are people with abusive pasts who turn out to be abusers. But there are also people with abusive pasts who have turned out to be good persons. They might not want people to go through such cruel situations that they experienced in the past. Maya could have been the latter. But she chose to be the former one. So no matter what isn't she responsible for her actions? Just like how we are responsible for what we do and what we say. Isn't it convenient to shift the blame on some other person to escape our deeds?
Arjun had a perfect life. Loving family, brother, friend everything. He had FREEDOM. Maya entered his life, deceived him (yes, she did deceive him for what she is not. She faked her real personality and that is no less than cheating), separated him from every relation except her and went off to lead a life where everything happens according to her wishes. In short Arjun was her toy. So his freedom was lost. Any person in his place would be frustrated. But still he never tried to cheat her or break their relation due to her constant suicide threats. He cared for her.
I agree he should have tried to take her to medical professional. But do you think Maya would agree to go? Like suppose he goes to Maya and says "Hey Maya I think you're mentally unstable, so let's go to the doc" and maya would laugh it off and say "What me and crazy? Arjun you're the one acting crazy now". She enjoyed those 3 years with him. She enjoyed controlling him and that is the kind of life she wanted to lead with Arjun. Controlling is her addiction. Even when maya framed ayan, arjun trusted her. Even After knowing about her deeds he stayed by her but he had warned her that he would leave her if she stepped to the evil side again.
If she ever wanted to get out her controlling nature she could have. She had an opportunity at the end of S2 when she admitted herself in an asylum. She could have taken medications and tried to cure herself. She could have given birth to the child and proved to arjun that she is a changed person now. Who knows he may have accepted her. But the truth is she was least interested. When a mentally unstable person themselves don't want to get alright then what can others do?
The one person Who can still be blamed for what maya had turned out to be is jhanvi. She was a weak mother Who failed to protect her kid and be a strength to her. For me arjun did all he can to withstand Maya. Every human has a saturation point and for him it was the death of his mother. That is the point where Maya became irredemable for Arjun.
Whatever past she may have had that does not given her rights to take any person's life. We can sympathize with her for what happened to her in the past., for the monster she turned out be and a wasted life she had to live without even a single person who loved her. But that doesn't mean we can put the blame of her crimes on others or influenced by others. Maya and only maya is responsible for her actions and none others.
Woah didn't intend to make such a long post! So yeah, If you have managed to read till this point then thank you for your time!
Renu
Edited by .Aurora. - 7 years ago
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