Bold You should also know by now that Saanjh's role is of a selfless lover which doesn't equate to a doormat.
QUOTE=Veronica.]
Originally posted by: Shivani115
Home wrecker (synonym of home breaker) is also a banned word in IF rules. Still doesn't apply to Saanjh.
A doormat wife has no courage or self-respect. After making a mockery of domestic violence in court and proving Arjun a wife beater and killer, Maya had no courage to live on her own. She was ready to bury herself and get killed only because Arjun will not be in this world. She had no courage to stand up against Arjun and divorce him rather killed an innocent person to set her death drama.
After all that now she clearly knows that Arjun does not love her anymore. Still she is sticking to him after Arjun has slapped her several times and abused her verbally. Where is the self-respect?
Yes, people with best friends can have life partners. I quit the show for a couple of months and have been watching on and off now but I watched season 1 regularly. The way Maya manipulated Arjun by lying, preventing him to meet Saanjh, getting in the way of Arjun and Saanjh, taking advantage of his weakness of power and money by showering with expensive gifts, giving him promotions showed a clear sense of insecurity for Saajun friendship. If she wanted to marry Arjun, she has to accept their friendship too. If the limit was being crossed according to her, she should simply talk to them. Planning and plotting behind their back shows lack of courage for confrontation and clear insecurity.
QUOTE=Veronica.]
Two things.
Doormat wives do things because of lack of courage to question their husband's authority. And they do not necessarily get love and affection in return. Hence, the word doormat. The husband uses, abuses and they silently suffer.
Secondly, so if I like a guy and He has a close best friend, I should run the other way? That would be common sense? Or common sense would be letting him know about my feelings and see what he has to say? Going by what you are saying, people with best friends would never get lovers. π
Let it be a banned word. And it perfectly applies to Saanjh.
Inserting herself into someone else's life even after knowing his wife hates him, meeting him against his wife's wishes, poking her unwanted nose in their affairs, all this stuff is not extreme in nature, but the point is, she did it even after knowing that it can create further problems in Maya and Arjun's life.
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And please, don't point out Maya's deeds to cover up Saanjh's kaands. This is the standard route everyone takes. Saanjh's goodness is just that Maya is black.
Also, Maya had plenty of courage and everything. She wanted to kill herself so that she can die with Arjun and hence, be together in her own poetic way. Maya didn't divorce him coz thn it would have been easier for dusky to lay hands on him. She chose to fight instead, keep her Arjun with herself. The way she chose to do it was wrong but she was never a doormat.
She is obsessed with him, you should know it by now. And that's why she wants him, to control him, not to be controlled by him. Remember how she made arjun's life hell in season 2? No doormat does that. Doormat applies to Saanjh, who after getting the boot from Arjun too many times, still comes running to him. She is the one with no spine. Father dead, family ruined but madam ko bas Arjun chahiye. Taking matters into ur own hands is not doormat behaviour, but sucking up to a guy who kicked u out of his life more than once is. Maya is an obsessed psycho, what is Saanjh's excuse? Lack of self-respect?
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