I hardly write any serious reviews but this episode compelled me to π I am overwhelmed and I need to let this out in one place otherwise I won't be able to go back to my normal self π
Hats OFF to the makers for bringing up such a critical issue and presenting it with so much intensity that I could actually feel the pain of every girl who went through this π
I don't know from where to start, but the very first thing which touched me was what Bondita said
: " Aapne hi kaha tha na Patibabu, Mahavari se kuchh nahi badalta... fir aap kyu aise badal gaye.."
She said everything in a single sentence and the entire episode revolved around that π
Bondita was getting all cleaned up for 'The Night' as if it was going to be the biggest 'achievement' of her life. Why? Because she got her periods. Is she ready for it? Is her body and mind matured enough ? Nobody cares now. The only thing they care about is that her body CAN conceive, so why wouldn't she ?
The sick mentality of people make them assume that it is the girl's duty to consummate her marriage, no matter what SHE wants. Even though technically, she is equally involved in the process, still the society doesn't let her have a say in this.
That entire scene showed how they used to Objectify women
Bondita, A girl who has huge dreams in her eyes was being brought down to a mere object of her husband's pleasure πHer feelings, her knowledge, her consent, her state of mind, her likes and dislikes are of no importance now.
The same people who used to treat her as a kid just a month back are now suddenly treating her as a grown up woman whose ONLY destiny is to keep her husband 'happy ' π Those who loved and cared for her like a little innocent kid are now ready to make her start her own family π They are ready to share with her the intricate details of consummation which might feel like horror to a 12 year old's innocent mind.
These people are not her enemies, they all are her well wishers , and this is the most painful truth. It's not that Kaka doesn't love Bon anymore , he surely does. But for him, Bondita's biggest achievement and sole purpose of existence is bearing a child. It is not his fault, it is the mentality.
Even today, a man is considered 'settled' when he is successful in his career. But a woman is 'settled' only when she is married and has kids π
The girl who came to tell Bondita - "Sajne me bohot khushi hoti hai, par baad me jo hota hai, saari khushi gayab ho jaati hai" π
I am still not over that scene π This age old mentality has made such innocent girls suffer so much
I feel for the first time it has happened that I was glued to the screen, so engrossed in the feeling that I couldn't come here to give updates π I still have loads to say but I am unable to because I am so moved
I must say, the episode was uncomfortable to watch with all the things that the women were explaining to Bondita so playfully and Bon being an innocent girl laughing away unable to understand anything. But that is exactly what I wanted to see!
If watching an episode is so difficult for us, imagine how those girls would have felt, who were victims of this custom! Imagine the state of mind of all the little girls like Bondita who had no idea what those women were talking about and what they might have faced afterwards. Not every husband was like Anirudh! π
This was a very moving episode! Kudos to the makers!
I am sure I will never watch those scenes again and THAT is the beauty of it. It leaves you with pain among all the laughter that scene had π
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