Desho's anger is justified

I know Desho is a selfish n arrogant character.bt i don't think she is bad in heart n we shud think about her POV.her hubby Sarabjit ws supposed to go to Canada but they decided to send Nirvail bcz they thought he would settle there easily n bring them to Canada.but nirvail decided to come back india wt his wife.it shattered desho's dream n she decided bani shud get married to a NRI.N she will fulfill all hr dreams.every mother wants her daughter be happy always but now bcz of rajji all her dreams again shattered.Amreek choose rajji over bani its hurts her a lot.koye Ma ye kaise bardas karigi uski bate ko kisine reject kia !in yesterday epi she saw amreek n rajji danceing happily together being a mother she thought rajji took bani's happiness.so obiously her anger is justified.woh cahtehe bani ek better life jiye like hr NRI Brother,bani's frnd.but now bcz of anger n jealousy she wll get bani married in a hurry n will ruin bani's life.she does n't knw bcz of her bani has to suffer a lot.

You know I can understand Desho's anger and frustration but what I do not get is her absolute refusal be an adult about it. I know it must be hard to live in the land of "would have, could have, if only" but as an ADULT it is expected that you be MATURE about your behavior and handle your disappointments and failure in a constructive manner. KIDS throw tantrums when they don't get what they want. ADULTS and grown people learn from it and look at the bright side. If this was a new thing I would have even given her the benefit of doubt and understood that her anger was overwhelming every other sensibility that she may otherwise have. But for TWENTY years she's held a grudge and thrown tantrums every chance she got?

I'm sorry, that's just unacceptable. That's childish. I cannot sympathize with that.. Be angry, vent, get upset, say stuff and get it out of your system but THEN MOVE ON! Get on and find something better and be MATURE about it. This "you hate my life and have a vendetta against me because this is what I CHOOSE to see" is a ridiculously childish approach by Desho. There is NOT nearly enough (if ANY at all!) evidence to prove that Nirvail and his family were out to get her. If there was some PROOF that suggested that he was doing this on purpose, I'd understand her confusion and anger. But the thing is, she WANTS it to be them and she WANTS it to be their fault so every time something goes wrong, she inadvertently MAKES it their fault. And that I can't stand. That's just petty and absolutely disgusting behavior.

I don't get why her family puts up with her. I don't understand why in the past 20 years not one person stood up to her and said "Hey look! You hate them and that's fine but we are going to be cordial to them because they are our family". Why they gave into her "wall" wish and did the monthly-dadi-visit regime, I know not. If they would have kept the family together, sooner or later she would have gotten over it. But to let it fester for 20 years has given her this absolutely wrong idea that she is RIGHT and that she can speak for everyone and do whatever she likes because no one will say anything.

I mean just look at her shock when her husband told her he was going to the roka. You could see the child in her stomp her feet and say "I'm not going!!" but that is not appropriate behavior.. I just expect more from my adults - if they are going to demand the respect for being "mature and wise" they better ACT that way.

Sorry for the rant.. 😳 I just.. Desho gets on my nerves. 😆

@Fivr: nice comment! 😉🤗 and yeah, she gets on my nerves too! 😆

^ Lol.. Everytime they show her, she is ALWAYS making that face like she's chewing on a karela.. I don't get it. That is not how mature people act. They at least TRY to move past stuff. She relishes her anger, almost enjoys being angry because it's like if she can't blame Nirvail for all her problems then she may have to actually accept that it's just LIFE and not everyone gets everything they want.

Desho is not a typical villain.. she just wanted a good life for her family. But that has become obsession and she can't see right & wrong..

i agree with Fivr!

20 yrs holding onto that issue n anger desho has brewed it into a full fledged grudge... so much so that shes blinded in rage to see d simple fact that rajji n bani both r daughters of the same family!

desho is indeed immature n childlike throwing tantrums... in the process she will ruin her daughter's life... n then what blame it on nirvails family ... AGAIN ????

its plain stupid! desho needs to 'grow up'

i dislike desho for this when she was going to plan her own daughter marriage why at that time she does not ask bani what kind of bidegroom u want .?????.

Originally posted by: stellaa

i dislike desho for this when she was going to plan her own daughter marriage why at that time she does not ask bani what kind of bidegroom u want .?????.

Very true.. and in Punjab village households, many family have feuds over petty matters/ property matters and they don't talk for years and years. Its the sad truth of many households.