Pratyusha Banerjee Commits Suicide - ALL DISCUSSIONS HERE ONLY - Page 23

Originally posted by: tellygeek

Sad to learn about alienated parents !
I also read that Pratyusha tried to commit suicide twice in the last two months.

Shouldn't that have been a warning signal for her parents or friends ?

She should not have been left alone. And she was their only daughter.

Originally posted by: Shinya

Red - Now this makes sense why the parents did nothing.

She herself had stopped communicating with them and severed her ties with them and also asked her mother to leave her house... This must have hurt her parents big time.

Under such circumstances, how and what could they do?

She probably gave him all her money and was penniless to move out of the house or live alone.

Originally posted by: tinoo

\

Shinya,

I disagree with you. After listening to press conferences which featured her parents talking to the press, and an interview with Pratyusha's mom in today's times of india, I am disgusted.

I would go so far as to say that Pratyusha's parents too should be booked for abetment to suicide if not legally, then morally atleast.

I agree that on January 12th, 2016 when parents were ex-communicated there is precious little they could do - that's like coming to a point where one has already jumped out of the plane without a parachute - the resultant SPLAT! is a forgone conclusion.

But Pratyusha was in a relationship with this boy from 2.5 years before Jan 12th and the question is why were they sitting silently watching everything and why did they let it get to this point? Should they not have said anything and encouraged her to have broken the relationship earlier ?

. They were living with Pratyusha As it turns out - here are a few statements from Pratyusha's mom

1. When parents were living with Pratyusha in Mumbai, the boy was humiliating her and insulting her. It was ONLY verbal abuse and emotional abuse.

She said she never knew her daughter was ALSO being physically abused. If they had known that he was ALSO physically violent towards her then they would have stopped it.

??????? What sort of foolish statement is that? What was OKAY about simple verbal and emotional abuse? Is the man not disrespecting your daughter? At that point itself the parents should have discouraged the daughter from this sort of nonsense relationship.

2. Pratyusha's mom further went on to say that she never thought her daughter would commit suicide. Fair enough... but what if Pratyusha would have been murdered? Do people not have foresight?

3. Pratyusha's father said he thought Rahul was a crook from day one "pehle hi din se shakal se hi chor lagta tha"... then why did you not dissuade your daughter from dating him right from day one? I know my father would have done that.

4. The key is that Pratyusha's parents nowhere have said that they forbid her relationship with Rahul and she proceeded to defy them and move ahead anyway.

Today's times of india carries a shocking statement from her mom "I never forbid her, I kept motivating her towards her relationship with Rahul by telling her to patch up the differences."

Why? Why did she do that? Instead, why didn't she do what any sensible parent would do? Which is to say "If you don't feel comfortable/stop feeling comfortable with anyone you meet or are in a relationship then STOP IMMEDIATELY and break it off."

I believe that Pratyusha wanted to get out of it early on, and did not do so, because she got some sort of opposite guidance from her on to keep sticking to the relationship.

Now the question is why did Pratyusha's mom and dad do that?

I think there is some financial greed on her parents part for some sort of wealth of Rahul and his family.

Why that should be the case is not clear to me since Pratyusha was independently wealthy on her own, so why this eagerness for her to live off her husband's glory and wealth?

The media sort of asked that question in an indirect way to her parents, as to why they let their daughter continue in a relationship with this man and they responded with "he said he had four houses in Mumbai, and a big property in Jharkand, and his mom was an MLA"...

and my mind just boggled with this reply.

First of all, is having four houses any sort of consideration when you are looking for a boy for your daughter? Particularly when your own daughter is financially well-off.

Second, they said that they came to know that all this information was false in November 2015.

Well, then what? They did nothing. Pratyusha's mom said she was still very keen for this relationship to continue.

I don't understand why. When you know that this guy is nothing but a parasite who doesn't have a career of his own, AND he has lied about his houses and property, and you also know that your daughter is repaying his car loan etc. then why are you still so keen for this relationship to confinue mom?

Third, Pratyusha did not ask her parents to leave.

Acc to her parents, Rahul placed the ultimatum that if her parents stayed there, then he would break off the relationship.

In her parents place, I would have told my daughter to break off the relationship with Rahul then and there. I mean what sort of ultimatum is that where daughter is being asked to ex-communicate parents? So what if the parents are there in her life? what harm would parents do by being present there?

But Pratyusha's mom said that SHE (mom herself) was very keen for this relationship to come to fruition in terms of marriage. Which is why they left without protesting. They told Pratyusha to keep continuing. It is not that they insisted on staying and then pratyusha told them to get lost.

This to me is just criminal negligence. At this point I personally would have seen warning bells that this person is not a right person. I also feel that if Pratyusha had been given emotional support by her parents and told to quit the relationship, and that it is okay to do so, she would have perhaps done so.

And then really, I have issues with why they left Mumbai altogether?

I mean if my daughter threw me out of the flat and stayed with some loafer there, I might leave the flat but as a matter of my own concern, I would not have left Mumbai. I would have taken a flat somewhere nearby and stayed there just to monitor goings-on out of my own concern for my daughter whether she wanted me to or not.

Pratyusha's mom also said that Pratyusha had called her on the phone on March 30 and 31 asking her mom to come to Mumbai, twice before she killed herself on april 1. She didn't say why.

Her mom said she didn't take it seriously/. She thought Pratyusha was just casually calling.

Why not?

I mean if everything was okay when they left and she said "hey mom come on down to Mumbai" then maybe there is cause for not taking it seriously.

But if things were in such turmoil when the parents , then. why did mom why not take it seriously?

I think there were too many warning signs early on in the relationship which mom and dad knew about but CHOSE TO IGNORE.

Tinoo.

Originally posted by: tinoo

\

Shinya,

I disagree with you. After listening to press conferences which featured her parents talking to the press, and an interview with Pratyusha's mom in today's times of india, I am disgusted.

I would go so far as to say that Pratyusha's parents too should be booked for abetment to suicide if not legally, then morally atleast.

I agree that on January 12th, 2016 when parents were ex-communicated there is precious little they could do - that's like coming to a point where one has already jumped out of the plane without a parachute - the resultant SPLAT! is a forgone conclusion.

But Pratyusha was in a relationship with this boy from 2.5 years before Jan 12th and the question is why were they sitting silently watching everything and why did they let it get to this point? Should they not have said anything and encouraged her to have broken the relationship earlier ?

. They were living with Pratyusha As it turns out - here are a few statements from Pratyusha's mom

1. When parents were living with Pratyusha in Mumbai, the boy was humiliating her and insulting her. It was ONLY verbal abuse and emotional abuse.

She said she never knew her daughter was ALSO being physically abused. If they had known that he was ALSO physically violent towards her then they would have stopped it.

??????? What sort of foolish statement is that? What was OKAY about simple verbal and emotional abuse? Is the man not disrespecting your daughter? At that point itself the parents should have discouraged the daughter from this sort of nonsense relationship.

2. Pratyusha's mom further went on to say that she never thought her daughter would commit suicide. Fair enough... but what if Pratyusha would have been murdered? Do people not have foresight?

3. Pratyusha's father said he thought Rahul was a crook from day one "pehle hi din se shakal se hi chor lagta tha"... then why did you not dissuade your daughter from dating him right from day one? I know my father would have done that.

4. The key is that Pratyusha's parents nowhere have said that they forbid her relationship with Rahul and she proceeded to defy them and move ahead anyway.

Today's times of india carries a shocking statement from her mom "I never forbid her, I kept motivating her towards her relationship with Rahul by telling her to patch up the differences."

Why? Why did she do that? Instead, why didn't she do what any sensible parent would do? Which is to say "If you don't feel comfortable/stop feeling comfortable with anyone you meet or are in a relationship then STOP IMMEDIATELY and break it off."

I believe that Pratyusha wanted to get out of it early on, and did not do so, because she got some sort of opposite guidance from her on to keep sticking to the relationship.

Now the question is why did Pratyusha's mom and dad do that?

I think there is some financial greed on her parents part for some sort of wealth of Rahul and his family.

Why that should be the case is not clear to me since Pratyusha was independently wealthy on her own, so why this eagerness for her to live off her husband's glory and wealth?

The media sort of asked that question in an indirect way to her parents, as to why they let their daughter continue in a relationship with this man and they responded with "he said he had four houses in Mumbai, and a big property in Jharkand, and his mom was an MLA"...

and my mind just boggled with this reply.

First of all, is having four houses any sort of consideration when you are looking for a boy for your daughter? Particularly when your own daughter is financially well-off.

Second, they said that they came to know that all this information was false in November 2015.

Well, then what? They did nothing. Pratyusha's mom said she was still very keen for this relationship to continue.

I don't understand why. When you know that this guy is nothing but a parasite who doesn't have a career of his own, AND he has lied about his houses and property, and you also know that your daughter is repaying his car loan etc. then why are you still so keen for this relationship to confinue mom?

Third, Pratyusha did not ask her parents to leave.

Acc to her parents, Rahul placed the ultimatum that if her parents stayed there, then he would break off the relationship.

In her parents place, I would have told my daughter to break off the relationship with Rahul then and there. I mean what sort of ultimatum is that where daughter is being asked to ex-communicate parents? So what if the parents are there in her life? what harm would parents do by being present there?

But Pratyusha's mom said that SHE (mom herself) was very keen for this relationship to come to fruition in terms of marriage. Which is why they left without protesting. They told Pratyusha to keep continuing. It is not that they insisted on staying and then pratyusha told them to get lost.

This to me is just criminal negligence. At this point I personally would have seen warning bells that this person is not a right person. I also feel that if Pratyusha had been given emotional support by her parents and told to quit the relationship, and that it is okay to do so, she would have perhaps done so.

And then really, I have issues with why they left Mumbai altogether?

I mean if my daughter threw me out of the flat and stayed with some loafer there, I might leave the flat but as a matter of my own concern, I would not have left Mumbai. I would have taken a flat somewhere nearby and stayed there just to monitor goings-on out of my own concern for my daughter whether she wanted me to or not.

Pratyusha's mom also said that Pratyusha had called her on the phone on March 30 and 31 asking her mom to come to Mumbai, twice before she killed herself on april 1. She didn't say why.

Her mom said she didn't take it seriously/. She thought Pratyusha was just casually calling.

Why not?

I mean if everything was okay when they left and she said "hey mom come on down to Mumbai" then maybe there is cause for not taking it seriously.

But if things were in such turmoil when the parents , then. why did mom why not take it seriously?

I think there were too many warning signs early on in the relationship which mom and dad knew about but CHOSE TO IGNORE.

Tinoo.

Originally posted by: Shinya

Tinoo, if you read my post on page 28, I wrote exactly the same you did here... I called her mother a greedy woman and that the parents might have asked her to put up with him.

But in this recent article posted in this thread, the mother seemed to have made it clear why they as parents could not do anything.

I dond understand why a grown up woman of almost 25, under the influence of a man, whom she had known for just 2.5 yrs, should tell off her parents?

I think the fight was because of money. The parents used her money and the boy instigated her against her parents.

Again I dont understand why that should have been a problem to pratyusha. Was she not young enough and talented to earn more money?

Later on, as per the claims made by parents, she gave the control of her finances to this boy.. Why on earth did she do that?

What one can conclude from all this is that the fights were only because of finances... this is not a love story or a love triangle at all... It was just MONEY.

The girl was desperate to get rich and famous, the boy must have offered a role in his production house, That is why she lived with him and the parents did not mind it because of financial reasons. They thought he was a rich man with 4 cars and flats with lot of property in Ranchi, blah blah.

The parents and she herself are responsible for the mess. Of course the boy also deserves to get his punishment. His life must also be ruined.

Originally posted by: angelic8219

I find it odd that noone done a background check on Rahul especially since Pratyusha's came out of one bad relationship, with the next one you would be extra cautious. If he was abusing her then couldn't her parents go to the police and atleast register their concerns.

Originally posted by: angelic8219

I find it odd that noone done a background check on Rahul especially since Pratyusha's came out of one bad relationship, with the next one you would be extra cautious. If he was abusing her then couldn't her parents go to the police and atleast register their concerns.