Spineless family members - Page 2

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

This is actually way more common than you think. It has happened innumerable times in my family.

But to give you a more solid example, I was raised by a single mom with an absent father. My grandparents helped raising me and my Maama-Maami were pretty close growing up.

I went through the arranged marriage process(Inkid you not, I was Priya lite. At one point, my mom requested me to look out and find someone I liked. I told her I'll buy a condo and adopt andog instead 😆). There is a helluva lot of stigma involved with a fatherless daughter. The politer ones would decline nicely. The rude alliances would sometimes immediately put down the phone, or worse say mean things to my mom/grandparents.

My relatives, just like Priya's maami, kept pressurizing to bring my dad back for the period of the marriage. They convinced everyone in my family, including my mom, that I would never get married without my father present. My mom was willing to go as far as writing off a property to him so that he would show up for the stipulated period.

It took a few years- but finally when one of the alliances worked out- my inlaws were initially hellbent on trying to mediate between my mom and dad. But my mom and maama explained the entire situation to them.

Eventually it came down to me- I vehemently refused to be given away by my absentee father. I essentially told everyone, including my in laws, that they could bring my father in- but I would not show up. And this involved me facing a lot of pressure, scolding, lamenting from my relatives. Finally, they all agreed and I was married away rather peacefully.

The only sad part is my mom couldn't do my kanyadaan- that was the only part I could not convince everyone. My grandparents did my kanyadaan. But on somedays my mom really feels for it- she fought against the world, and brought me up, educated me, even sent me abroad for further studies- all without any monetary help from anyone(including her brother), but she did not have the right to give me away 😐

Sorry if it is TMI. But I just wanted to point out- this happens a lot. Most families and girls actually cave in and get their father during the wedding phase. I know a couple of families like that. It took out a lot of energy from me just to keep my father out.

You are right this happens everywhere and it's sad if you have faced such a tough situation💔. It's just that first time I saw it and that's why I got angry. But I am happy that finally you took a strong stand against your father and fought for your self respect👍🏼. I feel bad that your mom couldn't do your kanyadaan😭 but I think she was very happy to see you get married👍🏼

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Actually depends on the customs being followed- certain communities only allow couples to do kanyadaan- in which case single mother/fathers cannot do it.

But given that Ram's family is *ahem* progressive *ahem*, they can actually go with Priya's mom doing kanyadaan

But I think kanyadaan should be done by the person who loves you the most and has raised you and even helped you in times of need. In this case even if one person truly loves you then also he/she should be allowed to do your kanyadaan irrespective of custom👍🏼

Ram's family is a high class joker🤣. Nandini biggest joker she is like ulta chor kotwal ko date🤣

Originally posted by: Biggboss15

How come these people are even talking with a disgusting person like mahendra sood🤬?? Please ekta it's a request don't show this disgusting man doing the kanyadaan for the sake of society please don't show this wrong message 🙏🙏🙏. And this family members doing seva of this sick man😡. Doesn't priya's mother have some self respect🤢

I'd rather have Priya's mother doing the kanyadaan... he doesn't deserve that .... he seperated himself from his wife and children long back... and Priya's mom brought them up in true sense... I think she should be the only one doing kanyadaan...

Also dont like to see him and his stupid face onscreen... I thoroughly dislike him🤢

Originally posted by: Biggboss15

How come these people are even talking with a disgusting person like mahendra sood🤬?? Please ekta it's a request don't show this disgusting man doing the kanyadaan for the sake of society please don't show this wrong message 🙏🙏🙏. And this family members doing seva of this sick man😡. Doesn't priya's mother have some self respect🤢

Priya mami is sooooo f*cking cringe 🤢

Mahendar ki secret spy hai kya ye aunty 😡

'Ab sab milke ache se shadi manayenge' my foot. I think she meant 'ab sab milke ache se shadi bigadenge' 😡

So now we have 4 ki team to create drama in wedding - Priya's mami + Mahendar + Neeraj + Shashi

Originally posted by: Biggboss15

How come these people are even talking with a disgusting person like mahendra sood🤬?? Please ekta it's a request don't show this disgusting man doing the kanyadaan for the sake of society please don't show this wrong message 🙏🙏🙏. And this family members doing seva of this sick man😡. Doesn't priya's mother have some self respect🤢

No I don't think that matters will go to this point that Mahendra Sood will do Priya's kanyadaan as his sole motive is to break these two rishtas. So i think there are chances that his facade will break before wedding or once he himself understands that he cannot break this wedding.

But family members readily accepting the father just becoz mami said so is just a stretch.

Originally posted by: Biggboss15

How come these people are even talking with a disgusting person like mahendra sood🤬?? Please ekta it's a request don't show this disgusting man doing the kanyadaan for the sake of society please don't show this wrong message 🙏🙏🙏. And this family members doing seva of this sick man😡. Doesn't priya's mother have some self respect🤢

my angry emoji shows how i feel about that pathetic disgusting excuse of a father, priya has😡🤬.......i so wish raam supports her in not calling him .........how vile he is? he just wants dem to be miserable........priya's mom needs to take a stand .......y should gals suffer coz of you couldnt throw him out of your lives.....he cant just barge in whenever he wants.........y the others gals are like their mom? and ye mami kahan se aa gai hai dimag kharab karne? are they sure akshya is her son?

i want raam's support coz no one is listening to priya.......warna priya herself is enough for putting him in his place.......

i feel priya's family is based on zindagi gulzaar hai story.......

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

This is actually way more common than you think. It has happened innumerable times in my family.

But to give you a more solid example, I was raised by a single mom with an absent father. My grandparents helped raising me and my Maama-Maami were pretty close growing up.

I went through the arranged marriage process(Inkid you not, I was Priya lite. At one point, my mom requested me to look out and find someone I liked. I told her I'll buy a condo and adopt andog instead 😆). There is a helluva lot of stigma involved with a fatherless daughter. The politer ones would decline nicely. The rude alliances would sometimes immediately put down the phone, or worse say mean things to my mom/grandparents.

My relatives, just like Priya's maami, kept pressurizing to bring my dad back for the period of the marriage. They convinced everyone in my family, including my mom, that I would never get married without my father present. My mom was willing to go as far as writing off a property to him so that he would show up for the stipulated period.

It took a few years- but finally when one of the alliances worked out- my inlaws were initially hellbent on trying to mediate between my mom and dad. But my mom and maama explained the entire situation to them.

Eventually it came down to me- I vehemently refused to be given away by my absentee father. I essentially told everyone, including my in laws, that they could bring my father in- but I would not show up. And this involved me facing a lot of pressure, scolding, lamenting from my relatives. Finally, they all agreed and I was married away rather peacefully.

The only sad part is my mom couldn't do my kanyadaan- that was the only part I could not convince everyone. My grandparents did my kanyadaan. But on somedays my mom really feels for it- she fought against the world, and brought me up, educated me, even sent me abroad for further studies- all without any monetary help from anyone(including her brother), but she did not have the right to give me away 😐

Sorry if it is TMI. But I just wanted to point out- this happens a lot. Most families and girls actually cave in and get their father during the wedding phase. I know a couple of families like that. It took out a lot of energy from me just to keep my father out.

sweetheart u r a stronger gal and your mom is strongest ........i bow down to her and to you......🤗👍🏼👏 u both did things which were not acceptable by our so called society ....u didnt bend in front of their demands......wow.......🤗

Originally posted by: FeistyQueen

They should have thrown him out of the house🤢 After telling all those disgusting things about Priya, he is coming to attend Priya's marriage, why didn't Meera throw him out? 😳

Meera is too weak to do that... She'd rather beg that filthy man to attend priya's wedding for society's sake.😔

Originally posted by: maanmeet1

sweetheart u r a stronger gal and your mom is strongest ........i bow down to her and to you......🤗👍🏼👏 u both did things which were not acceptable by our so called society ....u didnt bend in front of their demands......wow.......🤗

hello hello 😃 You watch balh2 too? 😊

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

hello hello 😃 You watch balh2 too? 😊

yup......i saw the promo and i loved it.....had to watch........and so far its fine.......lets see how it goes......