I like the 50 year old something romance

Our society doesn't see middle aged people as romantic beings. The fact of the matter is that people continue to have romantic feelings all their lives. I know some of us find this content cringe, but I swoon at every love song that is played when they are together and pining for each other. It makes me hopeful that I too can continue to be in love at their age. I too can be a romantic in my 50s.

Given Anuj's circumstances in the story, I am divided if what he is doing is true emotional infidelity - I only say this because he has never expressed love in any clear terms to Shruti. A promise of marriage without confession of love is a ridiculous place to be. I don't feel bad for Shruti still. Her character doesn't invoke any sympathies.

Having said that, I like that the makers continue to show Anuj's undying love for Anupama. The way they long for each other makes good content, and is kind of sweet.

Too bad for Shruti and Aadhya, but nobody should be forced to be in a relationship. Anuj shouldn't force Anupama on Adhya. And Adhya should give up on her dream of Anuj marrying Shruti.

Ofcourse there can be romance at any age. Infact there should be and there will be.

There are many many such vintage romances celebrated on screen.

The Baghban song that is butchered to no end ont he show is a classic example, take any of the senior actors on screen.

The issue is not depiction of romance of middle aged people. The issue is in it's treatment.

The issue is then, that what is "age appropriatebehaviour" that we expect.

Secondly, whatever Anuj-Anupama are doing is cheating, no two ways of looking at it.

Especially coming out of the lead who is a self-provlaimed righteous woman and a victim if infidelity.

This audacity to cheat under the disguise of children, to give false assurances and the history that led to their present is what makes it cringe. Why don't the much-in-love couple who are forced apart or forced into a relationship have the gall to speak the truth, break the forced relationship the moment they realised their feelings?

People may be romantic all their lives. However, the way of expressing it gradually becomes subtle as we age. Our actions, reactions, expressions and choice words too keep refining over time, so does romance. That is natural progression.

What is depicted on this show comes across as immature & down right gross given that they are cheating right under the nose of their children. This is coupled with each of their circumstances(ex: romance soon after a major mishap/incident) makes it puke worthy.

That said, some people like the romance shown between MaAn, while others find it cringe. To each his/her own.

The reason MaAn romance often looks cringe is not because of the on-screen age of the characters, but due to Rupali's overacting and some typical Bollywood songs played in the background.

I don't like Anupama because she is everything a woman shouldn't be.

I don't like Anuj who promises marriage to a woman without loving her.

I don't like Aadya for forcing her pops to marry Shruti despite knowing he doesn't love her and constantly reprimanding her Anupama mom.

I don't like Shruti because she is also imposing herself on Anuj despite knowing he doesn't love her and despite being a beautiful educated woman who can get many suitors who truly love her.

Other characters are not even worth disliking. Overall, a very bad and sadistic show!

Haan but romance kiske saath? Which 50+ romance are you talking about.

Anupama and vanraj ki nokh jhok, emotional cheating, him lusting after her, she leading him on, lots of hugging kissing and private moments she hides from her husband, while she is married to Anuj? Both are 50+

Anuj simping and running behind her while being engaged to someone else, both of them cheating, ignoring their daughter while she leads him on? Both are 50+.

Yash deep simping and running behind her while she leads him on while pretending she doesn't understand and takes advantage of him? Both are 50+.

Which romance are you talking about, please clarify. Personally I find the first one most romantic and empowering for middle aged people.

Truth is, this show is nothing about 50+ romance. It's about 50+ sayambar where multiple guys are after lead who shamelessly romances with all.

This show is not 50+ romance, it's the 50+ shades of grey.

Originally posted by: Harish111

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This show is not 50+ romance, it's the 50+ shades of grey.

Good one.

Emotional cheating is still applicable even if u don't love your partner...Love or no love Anuj is definitely doing Emotional affair with upma which makes him such a pathetic man..

In my personal opinion, I feel that Anupama-Anuj romance looks so cringe, because they don't act their age. As we get older, our hormonal drives reduce, unlike teenagers and young people and it's natural for us to behave our ages. But here, Anuj literally acts like a jobless, road Romeo teenager who has lost all meaning of reason and honesty. And Maa ke baare mein tho kya hi kahein - wo tho itni young act karti hair, koodna, kelna aur NY city mein hamesa idhar- udhar bhaagna that usse koi bhi dekle, uska pataphat deewana ho jaaye!

To be honest, RG's pairing with Gaurav does not look so good anymore because of the acting and bad character graphs in the show. In the beginning, we all rooted for RG because she was playing the realistic character of a middle-aged house wife so beautifully. Anupama, the character, dealt with the situation of her husband's cheating and walking out of the maariage with her head held high, fighting so gracefully and obtaining a divorce through the odds of her MIL against it and her children's depression (Paaki). And then with the entry of Gaurav, I was actually skeptical of their pairing as he looked a lot younger than her and was thinking that maybe makers should have signed up an older male lead like Mr. Bajaj from Kasauti, but RG and Gaurav did manage to pull it off and in fact looked very good as a couple owing to the fact that the strength of both their characters supported the romance in a nice way. But over time, it started becoming so cringe due to the unrealistic and nonsensical story line.

P.S: Maa's flying hair strands (as her age progresses) are so adorable that she is setting new trend of NOT combing hair. Dumpy and now Devilka too are following this trend!! Maa used to brush her hair before and be presentable 8 years back, but now tho, her loose zulfe around her face are so stunning, no wonder, men never notice beautiful and well-groomed girls like Shruthi or Kavya around them and everyone has eyes only for Maa. I won't be surprised if the story line introduces 2 or 3 more die-hard romeos running around her.

You are right age has nothing to do with love or romance. It might get a bit more weighed down by responsibilities and life, and one may not behave like in the throes of first love or a teen in the first flush of an infatuation but age just adds years, the heart remains the same.

I think their relationship now lacks depth. It's the couple that managed to garner insane popularity both online and with respect to TRPs so it's not that "society" did not accept the middle age romance. I liked them when they were unmarried. However, now like their characters, their equation also lacks depth.

Do they ever talk? Since this was Anupamaa's second chance her equation with Anuj, their relationship should have been very different than the previous one. There should be more transparency, discussion, and cooperation as partners who respect each other and see each other as equals. Instead, the story is stuck where it was, Anupamaa's character is stuck where it was and Anuj's character has deteriorated badly. There is so much wrong with this couple that it has overshadowed their "love" if there was any to begin with.

In light of this when one sees their scenes as a viewer, their romance looks very physical, with no emotions or understanding at all and yes since with time sexual urges subside, what should have remained strong is their heartfelt connection.

Forget 50+, the moment I can't connect with the emotions of a couple in a love story, even if their are young, mere romance becomes very fickle, hormonally driven. There are shows I have seen, where a mere dialogue without any touching will feel so good, while here the only saving grace is that once upon a time Kumar Sanu and Anuradha Paudwal sang a beautiful song.. Dil hai ki manta nahi....

That reminds me even here I remember a dialogue once said by Anupamaa to Anuj ki achi kitabon ko padhne mein samay lagta hai .. Those were the times I did have some expectations that Anupamaa and MaAn will go places. But then they kept on going down...