As parents are we doing the right thing??

I just took the liberty of editing this a bit and want to pick as many brains as possible. At the outset, thanks Paythal - with a name like that u have come out with a very relevant topic!! Abi and Charu are reel characters - they might have a total turn around over night if the director desires. But in real life, as parents, are we always doing the right??? Because all parents want to do the best for their kids but we are not sure if our best is good enough or in the right track - the problems of parenting is never ending - if what u face when they are young is a force to reckon, what do u call it when they grow up and present a totally different set of problems??? Recently Sue's nephew committed suicide and no one knows what made him take that extreme step. How do we make a mentally strong younger generation?? how can we help??? Chip in folks, every little bit of information will help
some parent in some way - if we can save just one more youngster
from such a drastic step. Thanks every body. Roja

OK, to those who are parents - be honest.

If you found out that your child was/is a criminal, will you love him or her any less?

Frankly, I won't. I think Charu's behavior toward Abhirami is HIGHLY unnatural. I think a more natural approach is Charu being temporarily angry with Abhirami, but taking her under her wing, advicing her into turning over a new leaf, and seeing through with it. I think this outright rejection is VERY unnatural and frankly, as a parent, I would never dream of tossing my child away even if my kid turned out to be on the FBI's Most Wanted.

Thoughts?

Not a parent..... but most likely Charu is finding hard to digest that her daughter is a criminal. Charu had an affection for Abi initially, until she found out about her activities. She forbids Abi entering her house again.

Charu loves her daughter. Afterall, she been looking for her for a long time. And we the audience had to put up with the BG music.. loli lali music 😡 😡 So it can't be she does not love her daughter, but just could not accept her daughter turned to criminal.

Which parent would?

That's a great qeustion
I will love her but at the same time I will try to turn her into a good person like Shanthi!

Originally posted by: 310350418

That's a great qeustion
I will love her but at the same time I will try to turn her into a good person like Shanthi!

The Boss is a "good person"? Doesn't that remain to be seen?

IF she is really such a good person, she should back off and let Karthik and Monisha get together because (a) they knew each other before Shanti came into the picture and (b) they have a child together (Rocky!). Let's see how The Boss likes the same logic she applied to rationalize Katta Bomman's illicit love-affair now applied to her OWN life. Let's see if she is willing to give up her own "vazhkai" like she traded Abhirami's.

NONE of RK's kids have any character, apparently. Look at Mr. TIT (Thota Illatha Thupaki aka Karthik) - he was obviously in love with someone and probably even had a child with her before he cast her aside out of a misguided sense of duty to marry his friend's widow.

I think the Malaysia Maydam should quit listening to Katta Bomman's half-baked rants and conspiracy theories about Abhirami, see him for what he is (a loser and an adulterer with questionable character), take her own daughter into her care and wean her away from Mottai Boss. Until then, she is a sorry excuse for a mother - to let her daughter's enemies dominate and set boundaries to her relationship with her daughter.

No one is perfect and Omni/Boss is not. She interferes where it is not necessary e.g. Anita's case.

However, she is not aware of K-M's case. Or what transpired between them. So until CR shows what the cause/reason of K-M's separation, we have to wait and see. Infact, as a wife I doubt Shanti will sacrifice her marriage. But then watching some people in real life, the chances are the Boss will walk out from her marriage. You will never know....... 😉

P, who is Katta Bomman/Malaysia Maydam and what is MM?

Originally posted by: Caryn

No one is perfect and Omni/Boss is not. She interferes where it is not necessary e.g. Anita's case.

Exactly. She needs to mind her own freaking business.

Originally posted by: Caryn

However, she is not aware of K-M's case. Or what transpired between them. So until CR shows what the cause/reason of K-M's separation, we have to wait and see. Infact, as a wife I doubt Shanti will sacrifice her marriage.

EXACTLY. She is a HYPOCRITE. She guarded the secret of Madan's and Rohini's illicit affair and even helped them get secretly married. This was BEFORE anyone realized Abhirami's evil intentions. That is why I dislike her particularly. Since she was SO eager to help "Madan Maama's" extra marital affair, she should not protest if Anita helps Karthik to get back together with his former lover. Just to give her a taste of her own medicine.

Originally posted by: Caryn

But then watching some people in real life, the chances are the Boss will walk out from her marriage. You will never know....... 😉

If she doesn't walk out, she should KICKED out. Stupid hag with her plastic smile and her ever-interfering, all-knowing ways. The two people I hate MOST in the serial are the half-man, Madan, and The Boss.

Originally posted by: Caryn

P, who is Katta Bomman/Malaysia Maydam and what is MM?

Katta Bomman: Madan (sarcasm, of course)

Malayasia Maydam: Charu, who consults Madan for everything, even to use the bathroom.

How about Monisha marry Karthik and Shanthi
marry A.c Durai or Madan!

Originally posted by: 310350418

How about Monisha marry Karthik and Shanthi
marry A.c Durai or Madan!

Ayoh paavam, what did AC Dorai do to deserve The Boss? She might make a nice match for Katta Bomman - a serial divorcee deserves a serial bride.

who else she could be match up?
If Priya brother was alive and didn't got married,
he could be able to marry Shanthi.

if i am going to be on Charu's shoes i will do the same thing. as a mother she would have imagened that her CP was starving or worse than that condition.

but in realty CP had a decent home but she deceived them without remorese. who would do that. somebody buys even coffee we feel we need to do something for that person but Abirami didn't even feel little guilty. Raji's family take care of her and got married to their son. we have to see that Abirami would never change her character. she will always blame someone else for her problem. like her father.

i don't think Charu can change that. Abirami is a women not a child that taking her father's side and wanted to reunite her parents.

Abirami crased all charu's dreams about her daughter. i don't like to have a daughter like Abirami.

i don't want to love blindly - i have a daughter and lot of nieces and i am closer to them. so we talk most of the time they only see their side not the parent side. if they want to see movie or buy game or anything they want their parents approval right away and not NO for an answer. if they wait they can see that movie on DVD or buy the game for cheaper. they think there is no tomorrow. they are not tough like us. they scared and give up easily.

i normally accept their way and tell them if you want to do it you can also tell if i am going to be in their place i would do this. it's up to them to make the decision. Parents must listen the children first and give them the opportunity to point out their side.

also they need to respect their wishes and value their suggestions. if they do that the children will listen to their parents too. it's kind of give and take . one time for them and one time for us.

this is my point of view. so it can be wrong to other people. so sorry if i hurt anyone feelings.