What I would like to see... - Page 3

Originally posted by: shridevigaddam

OMG!!!! An INCESTUOUS Relationship ? A Brother marrying a sister ? NOoo!!!!!

Horrific!

Originally posted by: Laila2009

How can a woman marry her brother-in-law after she has slept with the man's brother and had his kid? We see this a lot in shows - we don't see anything odd when a man marries his sister-in-law especially after she has loved one brother. Marrying cousins is actually acceptable among Christian, Jewish and Muslim cultures. Look at the royal family; cousin marriages were acceptable, albeit on necessarily healthy or illegal. Just ideas to add more masala.

Originally posted by: Laila2009

ROFL, my dear, they are cousins with a different set of parents each.

Originally posted by: shridevigaddam

In-laws are still in laws. They do not share same blood.

So it is OK for one person to sleep with both brothers as long as they do not share the same blood? Interesting. That's why we see in some parts of Punjab brother married at the same time to the same woman.

And that culture of elder woman marrying brother-in-law, is an exploitative practice to preserve the family. Its an extension of the Niyoga practice. How revolting it can be if forced on women, can be watched in this movie "Ek Chadar Maili Si".

Well aware of this practice - it's on another Zeetv show right now. But I won't mention the name since we're not allowed to bring up names of other shows in our posts.

So important thing when marrying under Hindu marriages

1) They should not share same blood from same parents, within same HUF, within directly related extended families.

2) In some cases of marrying cousins, then make sure that it is not Brother and sister relationship. (Ravi and Pinky are not brother and sister; first cousins yes, but not brother and sister)

3)If cousins fall into the in-law category like a sister's son marrying her brother's daughter like in the case of south indians, it is okay as a match (they are still cousins like Ravi and Pinky and share the same blood, so how is that different with Ravi and Pinky?). And sociologically, such cousin relationship is gaurded by parents by not allowing the children to get close in childhood so that their minds are not muddled between, brother-sister feelings into potential opposite sex love interests. A fair amount of knowledge of implications is taught to childeren early on.

Just to clarify, I don't advocate cousins getting married, but I thought it would be a bit of a good laugh and good drama for this show. After all, Ravi and Pinky are single and we don't have anyone in the story line. Then I thought, how about Sargum dying and Pinky ending up with Babloo!

People from other parts of India can shed light on the twisted but self-preserving practices that they showed in Ek Chaadar Maile si or the Gujrati -Kutchhi story of Gulaal shown on Star Pluus. Its a very ancient practice and I don't think it is entertained nowadays.

You will be stunned how much viewers are entertained by such practices today.

Originally posted by: shridevigaddam

My dear, I am a Hindu. And it is offensive religiously to say that I think of my brother (my father's brother's son) as my husband. And if I am to think of him as a husband, why was I told to call him as a brother.

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Originally posted by: Laila2009

Culturally you are asked to view him this way, but in other cutural groups it is not seen as the same. There are some parts of the world where this is practiced.

horrible, they are close cousins, brother and sister. How can they marry.

such a stupid track. who will watch this show then.😡

Originally posted by: toshibelekar

horrible, they are close cousins, brother and sister. How can they marry.

such a stupid track. who will watch this show then.😡

Interesting plot, though I don't approve of Pintoo annulling the marriage as he was given a fair chance to walk away and chose not to in his right mind. Whatever the reasons may have been, this was a decision that he made and he should stand by it. I am not sure Krishna would want anything to do with him if he did that, nor would I want her to. If Pinky, on the other hand chose to annul the marriage, leaving Pintoo free, that is something I could like. 😊

As for Ravi and Pinky, I am sorry to say, but they simply would not be allowed to get married. In Hinduism, each person has a gothra, or a direct male lineage which traces back to sages in the ancient times. And it is pretty strictly forbidden to marry a person from the same gothra as it is inauspicious and because everyone from that gothra is considered a brother or sister. Ravi and Pinky, being from the same male lineage would automatically be from the same gothra and so would not be allowed to get married.

In the case of cousins getting married, or uncles marrying their nieces, it always involves a brother-sister relationship to begin with, where the sister's gothra changes to that of her husband's family when she gets married. Thus her brother or her brother's child would be of a different gothra and so appropriate to marry her child.

I am not condoning these practices, because I think cousins getting married is gross in any permutation or combination, but just explaining how it works.