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Insofar as parental love is concerned, I would say yes it is unconditional in most cases. However, the ways in which this love can manifest itself can be erratic, unpredictable and cause more harm than good if there is a communication gap between the parent and the child with regards to their definitions of happiness and success.
If we take the example of TTS, on some level he is doing what he believes is good for Pintu. He is ensuring that he gets married to someone who will do the wedding in a grand way and do justice, at least materially, to being associated with their family. But he is woefully unaware of what would actually make Pintu happy and so his expectations become a burden for Pintu. I think if parents and children communicate properly about what they want mutually from their relationships and their lives and give sound reasoning for expectations or decisions there is much less conflict and much less needless sacrifice and pain. The problem here is that TTS is not willing to hear his sons, either of them out and is trying to be the sole decider in their lives.
So basically like any relationship, I feel that a parent-child relationship needs constant work and attention from both ends to manage expectations and desires of both parties. I do not doubt for a second that TTS loves his children, why he is so hurt when the continue to desert him, but contrary to popular belief, love is not all you need.
If we take the example of TTS, on some level he is doing what he believes is good for Pintu. He is ensuring that he gets married to someone who will do the wedding in a grand way and do justice, at least materially, to being associated with their family. But he is woefully unaware of what would actually make Pintu happy and so his expectations become a burden for Pintu. I think if parents and children communicate properly about what they want mutually from their relationships and their lives and give sound reasoning for expectations or decisions there is much less conflict and much less needless sacrifice and pain. The problem here is that TTS is not willing to hear his sons, either of them out and is trying to be the sole decider in their lives.
So basically like any relationship, I feel that a parent-child relationship needs constant work and attention from both ends to manage expectations and desires of both parties. I do not doubt for a second that TTS loves his children, why he is so hurt when the continue to desert him, but contrary to popular belief, love is not all you need.
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