And I only started thinking when I had my own son that I have so much expectation from him. Yes I do not want him to support me financially but yes I do want him to respect me, care for me etc.
Anju I agree with u that no matter what the kids do parents still love them but they do get hurt and u only get hurt there where there are expectations, where there is love so how it is unconditional. Even parents do not waste any moment in telling the kids what they r doing for them. Yaar woh hum mein kaha jata hai na kay agar ek haath say do tu doosray haath ko bhi nahin pata lagna chahiye but still we keep on enforcing whatever we r doing for the kids. I feel that parents love is also not unconditional infact parents expect lot from their kids.Originally posted by: anjubala
Zarmeen, very thoughtful post... As far as I am concerned and my beliefs, yes parents love is unconditional. They will love their kids regardless of what the kids will do. But with this unconditional love comes the monster of expectations. And when expectations are not fulfilled we as parents are hurt badly. I think we should give space to our kids so that they can grow as an individual and can make their decisions. The times have changed and we as parents should change too.
I as a mom, believe in being there always for my kids, helping them out in each and every step and make them so confident and mature that when they grow up they are able to make right choices for them. The foundation has to be strong and they will not let us down. We also need to curb down our expectations as expectations bring lot of sadness too when not fulfilled. Why unnecessary put pressure on kids...Yes, even if they fail we need to love them. We need to tell them that yes we re hurt by your actions and we would like you to improve but that does not mean that we do not love you. Love, motivation are emotions that can put our kids in the path of success...
So true Rach and in Pakistan and India most of the parents r like TTS. They r not that rowdy but they want to take all the decisions for their kids and when a kid protest they only say hum tumhary maa baap hain itna paala hai tumhay, itna kiya hai tumharay liye kiya humara itna sa bhi haq nahin hai. In other words they emotionally blackmail the kids.Originally posted by: Cutie-NivRen
Hey Zarmeen wow nice topic I agree you can't expect all parents love is not so unconditional. Regarding TTS he never listen to anyone other than himself so how he is going see the pain in his son's eyes. Aur shaadi ke mamle to vo sochta hi yahi hai jo usne kaha vo bete ne maana. He feels whatever he decides is for betterment of his son.
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