Originally posted by: _Darling_
That's true. Like I am like Ranbir as an actor, but his off screen personality makes It so hard to be his fan. Else I would've been his fan as well like I am a fan of Ranveer. 😆
I guess it's natural. And now after reading his TOIFA whatever incident, I completely dislike him as a person unlike before where I disliked his only for his relationships.
I think you have to realize that these kind of things are likely to happen with most actors. Majority of them are or will be involved in things like this or other stuff, it sort of just goes hand in hand with the colourful world they are in and question is just whether it will reach the grapevine or not. I surely understand why most people will never stand for the things many actors do in real life, I don't either...but most of them are like this, likely to be like this or may be like this in real life. So it would be delusional for anyone to believe that this kind of behaviour that was said to have happened wrt Ranbir is beyond anyone...Ranveer or Imran or Siddharth Malhotra, they are all equally as likely to have or in the future be caught up in something similar, and so with the ladies. My point is that there's never really much point to putting stock in what these people are like as a person because each of them can possibly be doing the same thing as the other the next day and we do not know them enough to understand their choices or have to speak for them, change our likings or dislikings dramatically because of them unless something totally criminal in nature happens, etc. Sure, we can make some broad observations about people's character traits or what they choose to show to the world...Ranveer is expressive, open, loud...Ranbir is cold, pragmatic, composed...but beyond that...take everything with a pinch of salt while believing that everything is a possibility.
Naach_Basanti also wondered out loud about what it means to be a fan: for me, I'll be honest and say that there are a handful of people (beyond BW) who I have observed or known enough to genuinely say I admire or respect as people or the things they have achieved. But again, I do have this distinction whether with people I like as people or people whose work I like, where I can like the 'bigger picture' of them or who they are without necessarily supporting or being A-okay with every choice they make in their personal lives, about 80% of which are actually not even available for me to see. I think a lot of people think that you either subscribe to all of someone or none of them, but truth is...you really actually don't or shouldn't subscribe to anyone but yourself - that's the only person for whose choices you are in control and responsible. It'd be unclever to view the rest of the world with the same black and white vision.
Anyways, back to the point...in BW particularly, I am only a 'fan' of someone if I consider them entertaining, whether off-screen or on-screen. That's all it's about. If you can engage me, whether in a movie or an interview...whether with serious work or with jokes...and I start following you consistently for that entertainment, then I am probably what warrants one to be called a fan. Later on too, I believe even if someone I am a fan of does something untoward in their personal life, I'm not really the kind to feel that nothing of substance ever existed in that person. What I found interesting or engaging in a personality for the world to see, I did indeed find rightly so at the time. Maybe it's better to say BW is a lot like reading a book (but so diametrically nonintellectual 😆) for me...there's a lot of characters...some have a storyline you engage in and wait for to unfold...some of them, you start rooting for...others, you observe with detachment. But at the end of the day, it's just a form of entertainment. So long as people don't take it too seriously and remember there's a time to disconnect and go back to the real world...or that you don't owe it to anyone to support or hate unconditionally or invest more of your time than you can afford into things with no value in the real world...you walk that fine line of treating it as entertainment. It should be that. Just as with sports teams, for example...fans are all fine and dandy...rabid fans who riot and burn buses when their team loses are not looked upon favourably by anyone and nor emotionally stable people.
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