By Adoremevirgo: "i still believe love and trust goes hand in hand but not always vice versa...for instance...we trust many ppl in our lives but not necessarily we love them...but wen we love someone there must be trust...i am not saying blind trust...but trust...in megha's case blind trust to door ki baat...she did not even show a certain level of trust...
but somehow i want to bring in blind trust here...wat megha had for amar was blind trust...which means wen megha loves someone she trusts him implicitly...i hv not seen that level of trust for mohan whereas mohan has always widout fail stood up to her trust (letz forget ridzie case because that has been forgotten by the CVs too)...
at least after the bike accident track...mohan shud hv gained the same level of trust from megha that she had for amar...
the main truth here is that megha has not come out of her amar world...for her its kids and amar too comes first...i wont say mohan comes second...because i doubt he has ever held any place in her life except a place of convenience...like mohan has shed her widowhood and gvn a name to the kids...
i may sound bitter because that is wat i am...i wont change my views regarding megha till i see explicitly wat feelings she has for mohan..."By Leesan: Thanks Adi for your honest pov! And without trying to sound too preachy or patronizing, let me just say that dealing with people and their situations ,most times very tragic ,is my life's work!I'm not that old but have seen a lot, maybe too much!So here goes! Love and trust most times do not go hand in hand in the real world! Trust is relative and dependent on the circumstance! You may love your spouse but may not trust them with finances. You may love your teenager but don't always trust them to tell the truth!Megha loves Mohan, but does not trust him in every circumstance. This is very normal in most relationships! The notion of love and trust coexisting at all times, is just that ...a notion!That's not abnormal in the least. My mother did not trust my father with looking after us when he took us to the beach alone! 😊She never felt comfortable that he could supervise us as she could. And we could all swim like fish! But my dad would inevitably end up playing football on the sand, and maybe not watch us as intently!Did she not love my Dad? She adored him, but she didn't trust him completely! 😉 We don't know all the details of Megha's relationship with Amar, and whether she had blind trust for him, so I won't go there at all. But knowing what I know of Megha I doubt it. Mohan let down Megha before, and in a major way, but she stood up for him then eventually and when it counted most! But Megha is a complex soul, like so many of us, but Mohan loves her in spite of this and she loves him as well. Maybe not in the way you or even I may wish, but who are we to decide how she should show her love? Love is different for each of us, and MM included! 😉Look, losing a child has to be the absolute worse thing to happen to any parent, and not knowing what happened to that child must be a living hell! Again, I've seen this firsthand, parents grieve and mourn for years! Marriages end, other siblings suffer!I just don't get why Megha is so reviled for saying some hurtful things to Mohan in the immediate aftermath of this most tragic of circumstances! It's perfectly believable to me! Is what she did as a mother who lost her young son so unforgivable? Trust me I've seen it time and time again, and between biological parents! The blame and shame game knows no boundaries when it comes to grief, shock and trauma! Anything goes!The thing is Mohan himself understands her dilemma, and still holds her very close to his heart! Then who am I to judge?Peace and good night!
well...i seem convinced by u lee...because u just gv instances that happen in my family too...my mom too doesnt trust my dad in many things especially dealing with me and my sis...
okie even if i understand wat she said that day at the heat of the moment...wat about all these years...its true i dont see hatred in her eyes but neither do i see repentance...many times my parents argue and one of them end up saying something hurtful to the other again at the heat of the moment...but i hv seen them realising later on that it was not the right thing to say...
my dad cannot say sorry of course 😉...but with his actions he proves that he is sorry like he does household chores that day wen he is a person who needs someone to forward him the glass so that he drinks water 😆
where is the repentance in megha's eyes...after 12 years does she really believe still that mohan was responsible for addu...and wat about introspection...if she loves mohan then y cant she see that where she went wrong...did she try to bridge the gap between mohan and addu...
nywys...i think there is no end to it...those statements were too cruel in my opinion...at least some sort of remorse i want to see to believe that she loves him...
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