Originally posted by: bhakti2
LOVE this post SD!! Plus ca change...
I did see Sita Sings the Blues earlier but didn't like...maybe my stubborn loyalty to the Charitmanas kept me from having an open mind. The one thing that surprised me more than anything else from it was how very little the Indian born discussants knew of the stories...some of their comments made me😕!
Khair - your discussion above - 👏⭐️👏 I love that you bring up all the ambiguities. No one is safe - we women are no saints, either! Rather than running for cover, I guess we should just all get out there and muck it up.
I am coming out of my "finger on my lips" mode so soon. Forgive me please... But I can't stop myself from wanting to answer it. 😳 😔Please...
Bhakti,
You know even my sister didn't like Sita Sings the Blues. I agree there is lot of stuff that is coming out of an American mind not knowing the Indianness behind it. And yes, I have to say, that I kept myself open to be forgiving enough. You know I have married a Russian...its not that a great of a feeling to be severing myself from my culture. First off I already feel I am living in exile by staying away from my native country, then I marry a person from totally different culture. Half of the time, my mind is like...you look..one day I am gonna go back to my own country. I don't know what will happen in future. But this feeling certainly creates a lot of conflict to accept my new life as something glorious. However, my rational mind tells me "I need to accept, to imbibe..."
Everyone takes the term American Born Confused Desi as some comic term or a category. Agree it is a category. Nevertheless it is a reality. It would be difficult to understand how an uprooted person adjusts in new society...only a fellow uprooted person can understand that.
The key to this dichotomy is like Dipali said the other day (although in perverted sense) ...Har kisi ko Mukkammal Jahan nahin milti" But then, people like these ABCDs or rather transported persons, they still try to keep their culture intact. Isn't that feeling in itself great ?
This Indian but America born woman, is trying to find a meaning to her broken marriage. She chose to go back to her roots, Indian text and in whichever capacity, it made sense to her, she found a vent to her grief. That is beauty to me. It is lamentable that facts are not all right...nevertheless this expatriot is not that much wrong in committing errors unlike compatriots of Indian soil, who have started forgetting their roots. I really doubt today's kids are taught anything in the school about their roots.
Again not asking anyone to like it...its appreciated enough that you chanced to see the movie and you voiced your thoughts as well. For it is always right to call a spade a spade. But then, cannot ignore to see how the thought and analysis works in the mind about roots for an expatriot. It shall further help you in life to accept change as more and more twists come in life, that you may never have thought of. Like I never thought I would be here and stuck. 😆