Originally posted by: sjnp
This post is not to bash a particular character in any TV series but to discuss about this trend of violent behaviour towards a loved one in the name of love, justification for it in the name of love and general acceptance and adoration for such violent or abusive or inappropriate behaviour.
NOPE, its plainly not acceptable, why should one hurt the loved ones and themselves on name of setting them free, i know i sort of feel bad for suraj but i dont really like what he is doing , one thing to learn from tv world, how lack of communication leads to disaster's
Friends, think for and about yourself - put yourself in a situation where someone inflicts abuse (physical, mental, emotional etc.), manhandling, humiliation and insults (public and in private), constant fights and taunt, all in the name of love for you and for your well-being. Can it really be justified even if caused or motivated by love or wishing well for you? Nope, that definitely dont work for me , being very sensitive person , i first cry a honest confession , but then later on i simply ask that person back why ? what is love when the actions to keep other person safe and sound is not doing that but hurting and making it horrible suffer for either of them , thats suffocation , i would rather demand a plain answer and wont leave with stupid answers,
I agree whatever the object/victim of abuse/violence is doing/expecting/thinking/acting isnt right or mature; but can one wrong justify another wrong? Eye for an eye will leave the whole world blind! Actions matter just as much as motivations for these actions. Nope , never , if the eye for eye is what every one feel and think then world population would come half size down and there is nothing called as relations ...
If I disagree with my husband's actions/decisions, should I independently judge and decide and then insult/humiliate/taunt/trouble/leave him but all for his good? Does he have no say in it? Does he have no right to know about it? No, I would find a good moment, sit with him and start the discussion with a 'I feel..' and not start acting in his interests without even talking to him! Well no harm in doing independent judging but it should be insulting enough , the other person has right to know abut oppose decision but tking a stand with u again or not his choice , but like u said , a talk is a must but it should be moulding or manipulating , it shold be independent
Mature individuals sit in privacy and discuss in face of disagreements and conflicts. Life
is not a Mills-and-Boons novel with a damsel in distress and dark, older, dominating hero. No two people are alike or think alike. Two individuals in a relationship have the right to independent likes/dislikes/thoughts/opionions but have a certain responsibility and decorum to act within couple dynamics. word except for mature word , its all about perception and situation and not about how kiddish the person is , i know a 15yrs kid who is so open minded and matured and all he said was its all about the situation , communication and about knowing right or wrong with out ego ... and ROFL about MNB books, i read one book and it gave me head aches , all are same , and i know many friends in college in those days who used to dream and one even dated a tall and dark guy for the love of MNB đ
Would you be OK if your spouse is violent towards you or manhandles you or insults/humiliates you but unknown to you, its all motivated by his/her love for you and concern for you? Would you accept and approve such a behaviour from or towards your siblings, children, friends? Nope, never, like said wats the use of saving some one when ur killing them and urself, ... i would never tolerate it , no way
amazing post sweet heart