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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: surabhi01

pur office mein western dress allow nahi hoti yahaan tuk ki jeans bhi nahi.rahi baat indian dress ki to saaree poore world mein sabse acchi dress maani gayi hai


Jeans isn't formal wear so naturally it can't be allowed at office be it men or women, but ain't women wear blazer and formals. So you mean to say that if jeans are not allowed at office, how can it be allowed in joint family. Joint family or nuclear family, the thing is that women should feel that it is her own house where she has a right to become comfortable, which women can be comfortable with saree, jewelleries and pallu on her head all the time and dictating mother-in-law in a joint family. The problem wouldn't be there if they were showing one or two serials like that, but hell all the channels are showing similar serials except sony which is still better but not best. Ain't sasural women's own home, is it a militry school or jail where women need to dressed in uniform like compulsory saree and need to be disciplined all the time. I can take this serials just as entertainment, but are they really entertaining? Why we look TV, to see little glamour which we can't see in real life and to get entertained, but neither this serials nor the pathetic reality shows and cheap shows like roadies with bully judges aren't entertaining.

And I can ignore this serials but they were hurting my personal life once, my ex-mil idiot was expecting me to wear saree all the time and behave like that heroine of Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai
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Posted: 13 years ago
#12

Originally posted by: vasu.avantika

i totaly agree to ur post.

and im sad that the impact these kind of serials are having is terrible.
i hate yeh rishta the most.
akshara's charcter is so unreal and pray which woman wants to wear a seedha palla saree nowadays ... even while sleeping.
once she got hell from everyone for wearing a salwar suit.
what the hell!
i was bit hurt when u said north indian families r regressive.
PS not all of them r liek that/ infact families of our parents were all nuclear so were my grandparents. joitn amily system was so alien concept for me.
but effect of these serials !!!!! my mother in law stayed separate but today she cries for joint family. why? when u had ur freedom why u dotn want that for ur ahu.
becuase aloha ... indian telly is busy glorifying JOITN FAMILY with all its VICES.
im yet to see any virtue anywhere ... and worst is pratigya . a murdering FIL is still respected by pratigya!
this is teh star plus' naya soch ki if ur an elder u can plot to murder ur bahu by burying her alive in a coffin ... not only u sit comfortably after that in ur own home u also get respect n sympathy frm all quarters. such loose serials , such loose morals.
yuck!


Sorry to hurt you, I dont mean that all families of north india is regressive. Nothing personal here. But this TV serials are depicting the regressive joint families of Rajasthan, Gujarat and North India. And also they are portraying the character of women as if women has no past time other than planning and plotting
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Posted: 13 years ago
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This happens everywhere. First the west glorified individualism. They had nuclear families but even then - they started despising the role of parental opinion in their own kids lives since teenage itself !!

Then we had stuff like Bold n beautiful, where this woman slept with every male in the family including her hubby's bro and dad and even her own daughter's BF !!

And this is the individualism we shud be aping ? I guess, one shud just see it if it feels entertaining but if u end up with a bad taste in your mouth - u shud not see such crap anymore.

I for example - watch BV, coz I love the joint family dynamics - between DS and her sons, her DILS, between Bhairon/Sumi and Vasant/Gehna etc. The way anyone comes and it always seems so festive coz everyone comes in to greet them followed by good food (the basis of all old joint families - world over). Seriously - nuclear families eat more pizza coz one person gets tired of being in the kitchen for each n every meal.

But the italian, the spanish, the french, the chinese, the english and the french - they r have lovely foods coz they have also evolved from lrge families. I find all other tyrant saas/meek bahu or vamp bahu/docile saas very very stupid and not worth my time.

Watch - Na Bole tum...it is very contemporary n has a joint family family and there r no heavy/impractical sets either.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: riks111


Sorry to hurt you, I dont mean that all families of north india is regressive. Nothing personal here. But this TV serials are depicting the regressive joint families of Rajasthan, Gujarat and North India. And also they are portraying the character of women as if women has no past time other than planning and plotting

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Posted: 13 years ago
#15

Originally posted by: vasu.avantika


Vasu.Avantika, I totally agree with you. I don't understand why in our culture this joint family is so glorified, as if living in nuclear family is a sin. What is wrong in nuclear family system? In movies they don't show saas-bahu idiotic drama, only hero and heroin are in picture. Why in serials they can show stories of couple instead of stories of saas-bahu. Already indian women is dealing with regressive mindset of people and this serial are doing nothing but justifying and glorifying regressive lifestyle. They aren't doing bad to just daughter-in-laws but also to mother-in-laws, because imagine if a girl has grown watching such serials since 2000, now when she go to sasural, she will go with a mindset and pre-concieved notion that mother-in-law is a devil waiting to spoil her life.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: vasu.avantika

i dont know how else to put it ... but i am terribly hurt by u using words liek vandalism etc for me.
this quote is especially for you and judgemental people like you :
" u ca'n never really judge a woman unless u have stepped into her shoes and walked a mile in them."
by u insulting me i will NOT CHANGE MY STACE ON BIT that joint families are serious threats to the DIL's wellbeing inmajority of cases. and nuclear families with all their trails are wayyy betterbecuase at least there is a chanc eof peace.
also another piece of advise ... DOTN BE SO QUICK TO JUDGE A PERSON.
if u are lucky to have a nice family ...not evryone is.
we are already hurt by the institution u r defending. i have trid to commit suicide twice due to ur joint family. if im living even one bit thats onyl becuase im finally away. we dont need unknown people like u coming and rubbing salt on ou wounds becuase u HAD A LOVELY CHILDHOOD AND BEAUTIFUL INALWS WHO PAMPERED YOU in "YOUR JOINT FAMILY".
we got insulted, isolated, enslaved an beaten in ur joint family! IF U HAD SEPNT EVEN A DAY INT HE HELL I HAVESEEN I WUD HAVE LIEKD TO KNOW UR VIEWS THEN.
i will never condone or promote joint family. NEVER. infact for my daughte ri will make sure she dsnt have to spend one single day in an institutin where she is horribly outnumbered with none to turn to.
i long for serials like UDAAN ... WHERE THERE WERE REAL POSITIVE ROLE MODELS NOT IDIOTIC ONES LIEK AKSHARAS AND PRATIGYAS.

Dear Vasu,- U have misunderstood me in a completely wrong way.

You shud read my post carefully. I meant "vandal" for the directors of the these kind of shows !! I just meant the directors are showing the worst of a joint set up. Never even remotely intended to hurt anyone by my post. I urge you - please do read it carefully.

BTW, I hv been raised in a nuclear family coz my dad was posted far away and every summer when we visited our cousins - I used to envy them - always staying together. Hence - my assumption that joint fmailies must have been fun to grow up in.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Basically, I think - like DD - there shud be a body that gets to decided if a serial is going to promote something positive or not and take them off if all they do is show crap year after year.

Like Uttaran or Yeh Rishta kya... - these serials have absolutely nothing positive in them and shud be banned.

These serials serialsly jeopardize the future happiness of any new marriage. The saas n the bahu will always think the worst of each other - how horrible is that ?

I too have grown up watching Udaan and Banegi apni baat and loved them. Also, Kacchi Dhoop which was a beautiful adaptaion of "little women". These were beautiful serials 😊.

Vasu - none of my stuff was against you - only against TV directors of these new crappy shows. U must accept that,
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Posted: 13 years ago
#19

Originally posted by: hooked

This happens everywhere. First the west glorified individualism. They had nuclear families but even then - they started despising the role of parental opinion in their own kids lives since teenage itself !!


Then we had stuff like Bold n beautiful, where this woman slept with every male in the family including her hubby's bro and dad and even her own daughter's BF !!

And this is the individualism we shud be aping ? I guess, one shud just see it if it feels entertaining but if u end up with a bad taste in your mouth - u shud not see such crap anymore.


Indians must learn to respect people's individuality and privacy. There is nothing wrong in individualism, but don't mix the idea of individualism with immoral behavior and infidelity. Immorality and infedility like you mentioned of the bold & the beautiful is not respected in western culture too.

I too hate the glorifying of joint family system.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#20
In short, we watch the entertainment television to get entertained, to see little glamour or a glimpse of modern lifestyle, but are this serials entertaining, no, not at all, they are infact stressful with not even little comedy in that, giving negative inspiration to already regressive society and even hurting people's family and personal life as immature family members may get influenced by it and view other family members as same.


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