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Posted: 13 years ago
#81

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

I am just going to say what I felt during today's episode: EMBARRASSED. 😒

I know that we all love Aarti and by god I love her too but today she was clearly in the wrong according to me. While I can't blame the emotions that drove her to behave the way she did, I do blame her for not being able to control them.

Gayatri in her first speech was so kind and understanding. She intuitively understood that Aarti wanted to see Ansh and even told her that she agreed with her sentiment. But there were certain things Aarti was obliged to do, which Gayatri was promised repeatedly both by herself and from Shobha's side. Gayatri told Aarti in the nicest possible way, let the tulsi pooja get over and then you can see Ansh and had Aarti listened to her she probably would have finished the tulsi puja in time to deal with the chaos that reigned.
Children learn by example much more than they do by words and Ansh is a prime example.

I genuinely felt for Palak and Payal today. It really upsets me that nobody has taken the time to explain Ansh's role in their lives. I too would react the way they did if I found a naked boy had kicked me off my bed in the middle of the night and continued to harass me come morning, in my room and my house. Their status quo has been rudely interrupted and they are acting out. Ansh's behaviour seems to give them permission to rise to the occasion and otherwise well-behaved little girls suddenly lash out. And don't hate me, but for once I am glad the ruling went in their favour. They have been entirely neglected and Ansh has sort of won every battle with his wit and charm. It is about time discipline won a battle or two so there can be some balance.


@Sam
I abolutely agree with you. Ansh's attitude and Aarti's helpnesses in handling the situation created by Ansh and in handling Ansh himself is getting hard to digest. Gayathri cannot be blamed about pointing out and cautioning that Aarti's selfishness does not cost her "family's" happiness. I absolutely agree with her.

Today Aarti showed her incapability in handling her son and the situation he created. What would that actually imply to the Schindias who brought her in with high hopes of her turning out to be good mother to Payal and Palak along with Ansh. Gayathri's reading of Aarti's action and her reaction to the same is absolutely correct given the situation. What does Aarti expect out of this relationship? Just a father who will fulfill the super hero image that her son has been dreaming of and nothing else? It is completely understandble that this is the first day in the new household for Aarti and Ansh. Aarti has not been away from her son the whole night but didn't she totally trust when Yash said that he was going to be alright? Doesn't she believe Vidhi and Gayathri when time and again they ensure that Ansh is going to be alright and that he is in good hands and that she doesn't have to worry about? I mean what does she want in this situation? Does she want everyone to tell her to go and sleep with her son as usual and give him all the comfort and care that she had been giving him so far without any change? And that nothing changes in their lives except that they live in a new household and that she has accomplished in giving the father figure that her son wanted? I fail to understand what is her expectation out of this marriage? How did she try to actually manage the situation? She could not manage her son and how will she prove that she is going to be a good mother to Yash's daughters as well? Or did she ever think of that responsibility at all? Does that sink in her at all? If she is going to defy the orders of elders (which is plain logical and would benefit mutually when obeyed), shows that commands and wishes of elders could be overruled time and again as per her convenience, how is the little boy going to understand what discipline, respect for elders, right communication and social skills, tolerance are all about?

I expected that Aarti tells him in so many words that they are in a new house and there are elders to whom he must behave in a certain way and not always talk out of turn. She also must emphasize that he behave in a friendly way with the kids of his age. It is time both Yash and Aarti tell the kids what their relationships are to each other and what is expected of each other out of this situation. You are so right in pointing out that children learn by examples and the actions of their elders. If she is going to defend him from his mistakes or holding him from making further damage to the situation instead of firmly correcting then and there, their start in the new family is going to go nowhere. Today being the first day, she should have gained the confidence of the Sr Schindias to show a glimpse of the good mother she can be eventually. But the whole situation went against her.

I really felt for the cute sisters today. Aarti has a difficult task of proving to her kid daughters what a wonderful friend she can be to them even before they realize the mother that she can be. Good luck, Aarti!
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Posted: 13 years ago
#82

Originally posted by: Zee_News




In precap he was reading newspaper while sitting on Goverment's chair lol... Maybe preparing to fall on sleep since he can't get peace sleep easily now 😆

Atleast in the bathroom alone, he is not in the danger of being kissed 🤣

But mom and son don't give him peace there also, poor Yash😆
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Posted: 13 years ago
#83
Though we all found fault with Aarti i would also fault Gayatri for giving a false assurance that all the three kids are being taken care of properly when there was absolutly no adult supervision over the three small kids especially for Ansh its the first day getting up in foreign surrounding could have been little problematic for him though he ended up creating problems for all in the end.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#84

Originally posted by: jikky_84


I think Dubeys even spoiled Prashant like this, so that he left them and Arati as well

Yash is the only hope for us now ti teach some thing good to both mama and son😆

So final verdict is Dubeys r the real culprits 😡😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
On a more serious note Yash too needs to learn certain things ..first and foremost ..allow your wifey to use the bathroom first especially on the first morning post marriage Tongue😆😆😆
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Posted: 13 years ago
#85

Originally posted by: jyoti06

Dubeys hv spolied both Aarti and Ansh with too much love 😆...Both needs to b taught manners by Yash ...It will b interesting to see how Yash teaches it to Aarti here ☺️☺️😆😆



☺️☺️☺️😈☺️☺️☺️

Jyo, trust you to put such thoughts in my head just as I plan to go to sleep. 😉

Anyway, Laxmi I would agree with you if it were just a normal day but the wedding functions are not over and they have guests in the house. Now is not the time for Aarti to be immersing herself in motherhood. She has other duties as a bahu and this was the time for that. It was before 7 in the morning, after Ansh had been up late the last night and engaged in all the festivities. I think it was reasonable of Gayatri to assume that he would not be awake and that Aarti could see him after the pooja, which would have been done in an hour if she had complied.

@All: I thought it was very interesting that Aarti completely misunderstood when Gaya said that in the Scindia house the younger people respect their elders. She immediately took her pallu and tried to touch Gayatri's feet which was completely redundant. Aarti still thinks that the rest of her duties in this family will be empty gestures while Gayatri is looking for real investment from her in the family's happiness and image in society. It really put things into perspective because gaya could have been the type that demanded that kind of treatment but she isn't. All she is asking is for a little cooperation in front of the guests for less than an hour. I just can't defend Aarti on this one.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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@Jyoti: In a way this Ansh is also getting a bit of a raw deal ... see when Payal and Palak say "Get out of my bed" or "this is our house, not yours", a small child is helpless to return a suitable answer to such things. Just as Aarti should have prepared Ansh better for living in a house full of people (like teaching him to keep his clothes on at night), even Payal and Palak should have been properly prepared to share their house with Ansh. Both Aarti and Yash have been so involve in their own mental preoccupations with the Punar Vivah, they have not prepared the children to be ready for each other!
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Posted: 13 years ago
#87

Originally posted by: Zee_News




In precap he was reading newspaper while sitting on Goverment's chair lol... Maybe preparing to fall on sleep since he can't get peace sleep easily now 😆




He was multitasking ...sleeping ,doing poti and in between reading newspaper as well ...three-in-one 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
but he does not get peace even in loo
Shadi ke laddoo ka side effects 😆😆😆😆😆
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Posted: 13 years ago
#88
@golda, nice thought,
I agree with you, the point that she is going to be the mother of Payal and Palak has not yet sunk into her. She should think of that, especially when Yash told he only wants a mother to his children. Also, yash has atleast indirectly taken care of Ansh and even made sure that he come with them in their car after marriage, when his own children were not with him.Its not only Aray who loved Ansh but Yash also loves his children.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#89

Originally posted by: laxmi2010

I updated on page 2, and even though I haven't seen the end of the episode, so I don't know how bad the actual Ansh being a brat situation was, I still stand by my take, but I suppose there will be quite a few who think differently than me.


We think alike in this matter, laxmi. 😃

I think Gayatri was right in asking what she did from Aarti. But I think she alone could have diffused the situation when the kids were all fighting at each other but instead she chose to prove a point to Aarti by openly asking Payal and Palak why they are behaving differently today and further instigating the fight between the three. 😕 And Aarti goes one step beyond that by asking Ansh if he was hurt.

And you are right, if all the women were to do the puja who would have attended to the kids when they woke up? Ram Dulare? 😲The kids are 4, 5 and 6 not teenagers. I know with my own nephews and nieces at that age, they need attention with susu and brushing their teeth and breakfast as soon as they wake up.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#90

Originally posted by: jyoti06

So final verdict is Dubeys r the real culprits 😆
On a more serious note Yash too needs to learn certain things ..first and foremost ..allow your wifey to use the bathroom first especially on the first morning post marriage 😆


I cannot blame yash on that, that was the only hide out he had when his wife was trying to kiss him in the morning😆 😆😆

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