What is Love?? - Page 2

HI

Sumayya I agree with you to some extent that marriage really makes your love stronger but you can fall in love before marriage and than marry the person but you actually learn to live with the person once you are married to him. Marriage is a strong bandhan it has been tested many many times before and in case of DK and Disha that is one thing that bought them under one roof and than DK fell for Disha. But i also believe that love can happen before marriage too as it can't just be lust as I have seen people go through so much before marriage for their love so i think it has to be more than lust even though you might not share a very strong bond that you have once u are married.

I totally agree that marriage is a bond that brings two people under one roof and this is where you learn to love each other and understand and very important is to give space to each other which is needed in a healthy loving relationship. So sorry went on a little and again not sure if you would agree..

Samy

mink vidya and samy superb analysis of dk an dishs love...

samaya also i dont believe in love before marriage and even dont believe in love after marriage ... i have seen lots of pairs who thought that they were in love, got married some of them with and some without the consent of their family ... but after getting married they went through hell...they havent reckoned that premika hone mein aur patni hone mein bohot fark hai ... one friend of mine is going through a divorce now ... and the others stayed with their beloved but with lots of compromises and without love for each other ... and after seeing all the these disasters i lost my believe in love and marriage ... i am totally scared of getting married ...

during school days even i thought the marriage is a very holy and strong bandan ... but after school when some of my friends , my bro and sis got married i started hating this word...i didnt want to get married at all .... but after reading lata dis, minks and vidyas experiences after marriage i have started to over think my decison ..😉..

i am really grateful to my parents that they are not forcing me to get married though many people started to taunt them ....

love, sakina😉

guys gr8 analysis of the Ds love and Veds love for dish.

i think love is......................definitly summit that can happen to ne1 any place, it can be a complete suprise and is a feeling of warm happiness that makes u glow and 😃, but it can also be painful if the person u love doesnt love u bak, but thats wt life is about the good and bad so its cool to fall in love and enjoy the rollercoaster ride!

sakina i knw wt u mean about losing faith in marriage iv cn lots of marriages go thru problems and ws really against it nw cos msot marriages just seem to go thru endless problems and end in divorce courts but iv also heard sum good stories that are sorta changin my perspective on marraige! iv gta say i believe in love b4 marriage i cudn even imagine marryin sum1 i didn love and didn knw.

i think a person knws they r in love wen all they seem to do is eat, sleep and see the person they love everywhere and its impossible to get that person out of ur mind + ud b willing to do almost netin for the perosn u love.

im only 18 bt iv bn in love once n it felt gr8 but had its down side cos the guy was only a good m8 n was a bit too old for me at the time and that hurt a lot but it was an experience ill never forget and in a way im glad i wen thru it cos love is a gr8 emotion to go thru, although im definitly nt ready to fall in love again netime soon!

luv

minnie

Originally posted by: samy74

HI

Sumayya I agree with you to some extent that marriage really makes your love stronger but you can fall in love before marriage and than marry the person but you actually learn to live with the person once you are married to him. Marriage is a strong bandhan it has been tested many many times before and in case of DK and Disha that is one thing that bought them under one roof and than DK fell for Disha. But i also believe that love can happen before marriage too as it can't just be lust as I have seen people go through so much before marriage for their love so i think it has to be more than lust even though you might not share a very strong bond that you have once u are married.

I totally agree that marriage is a bond that brings two people under one roof and this is where you learn to love each other and understand and very important is to give space to each other which is needed in a healthy loving relationship. So sorry went on a little and again not sure if you would agree..

Samy

You are absolutely correct about marriage making love stronger..maybe because marriage is not really a bed of roses. It requires so much effort from both parties..a lot of compromise, compassion and understanding..in order to, as u correctly said, learn to live with each other. No one is perfect..and everyone has flaws..and therefore both have to work hard to bring their relationship to that level where they can both comfortly say that their spouse really IS a source of comfort for them..where they trust each other completely and blindly..and I think marriage is the bond which keeps them going..and..lol..I dont kno how to express myself any more..

Originally posted by: sakina

samaya also i dont believe in love before marriage and even dont believe in love after marriage ... i have seen lots of pairs who thought that they were in love, got married some of them with and some without the consent of their family ... but after getting married they went through hell...they havent reckoned that premika hone mein aur patni hone mein bohot fark hai ... one friend of mine is going through a divorce now ... and the others stayed with their beloved but with lots of compromises and without love for each other ... and after seeing all the these disasters i lost my believe in love and marriage ... i am totally scared of getting married ...

during school days even i thought the marriage is a very holy and strong bandan ... but after school when some of my friends , my bro and sis got married i started hating this word...i didnt want to get married at all .... but after reading lata dis, minks and vidyas experiences after marriage i have started to over think my decison ..😉..

Sakina..you dont believe in love because u have never experienced it. Sure you love your parents, family and friends. But the love between a man and woman not based on blood relationships..is something which does exist..but you just have to find it. There is someone out there for everyone; I strongly believe in that. Love is not chocolates, flowers and hot steamy nights..its a really deep feeling..something that I have not experienced myself..but have witnessed it between people

I kno what scares u cause my friend is also going through a messy divorce..Here is a contradiction to what I said..cause their marriage was purely arranged..and it only lasted three months..so why didnt this bandhan create love between them? The only answer I have is that sure they got married..but they just weren't made for each other...Bad luck? wrong person at the wrong time? Marriage certainly isnt easy..and love doesnt just suddenly pop up..It happens gradually ..once you share happiness and sworrow with the person..as Disha did with DK..

Sorry for babbling on 😳

Hi

Just like to pick up a point sumayya well said about marriage and also point that i always say myself is when i talk to someone about marriage is that thereisn't any blood relationship between Husband and Wife and this is what makes it so special. This is what makes their love so special as there is not relationship between them but they come together for love and than once married you have to give in take and learn to understand each other. Yaar it depends different marriages have different reasons for break ups you can't say it was broken becos it was love or arranged...

DK and Disha's was purely hate relationship but something still was bonding them and that united them as the hate turned into love once DK realised what Disha truly is and same for Disha she fell in love with him as he changed for her but she started to like him long time back...So I think this is a beautiful relationship as it is not blood relationship but it is formed in this world.

Sakinajee please dont say that as there are different ppl in the world marriages work out for some but some turn sour. I have always seen marriage as one big gamble whether it is love or arranged marriage..

Samy

sumayya maybe u r right .. i have to experience that feeling myself to be able to jugde love ar marriage... but after seeing that crook love stories arround me pyar mein vishwas hi nahin raha ... actually i try to avoid to get to close to someone and even dont let someone to come close to me ... just to save myself from getting hurt ... i know its quite impossible to control ur feelings .. becoz love just happens without taking ur permission ... and everything depends on u how u deal with all that .. but phir bhi darr lag raha hai ...

i dont want to say that marriage and true love doest exist at all .. even i have seen some good working marriages and even some good working arranged marriages ... but these are very less ...

in that point i agree with samy that it doesnt matter if arranged or love marriage what depends is that the ppl ought to have the same attitude towards love and life...they should complement each other ...as samy said they have to learn to live with each other but many ppl lose patience very soon and start arguing and fighting till it ends to a divorce...

as for dk and dish .. both of them didnt have any expectations of their marriages hence their was no place for dissapointment ...on the contrary they were taken by surprise as they relized that the person they have married turned out to be someone for whom they have searched for in life ... supporting each another in their bad times made them come together and get to know each other better ..

love, sakina 😉...

yeh ishq nahi aasan..bus itna samajh ligiye..ek aag ka darya hain...aur dooob ke jaana hain😆

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Just one point Samy said that is so true..about marriage being a gamble. No matter how much or how little you kno a person before marrying them..you will only know a person truly when you stay with them! Anyone can put on their best performance before marriage..If a guy comes to see me (hypothetical), I will be on my best behaviour, best manners..naturally, and so will he....as both want the other to like the other and think good off each other...But how long will we hide our bad habits when we actually live with each other 24/7? We'll have to be ourselves sooner or later..and thats why it is a gamble..because you never really know who it is with whom you are vowing to spend the rest of your whole zindagi with...

This is true with friends too..as I have experienced..You spend lovely moments with good friends every few days..couple of hours at the cinema or wherever..but then you go on a holiday with them..and thats when you really find out about each other!