Arman's Selfish Act!.. - Page 6

Originally posted by: uzmakhan

tum SR fans ka kuch nai hosakhtaa!!

jitni justifications armaan ki dee jaye---not enouf fer u guyz!!

cuz u ppl lack the common sense to understand this!!

i dun think i needa justify armaan anymore, everythin is jus b4 u guyz, its ur mentality that ur takin him that way...

and if u think HES SELFISH or his act is selfish, watever,

then i am glad that fer once hes thinkin abt himself and not the selfish modi couple!!

love u armaan!!

Originally posted by: Jaysean

@sheel_dmgdiva: completely loved ur post:) Honestly- loved it. I could have written mine like that too- but I guess I have lost all the patience I had for SR- but yes- that is my exact take on the issues raised by the person

Originally posted by: nandinidev

I think it's called being human. The same reason his first impulse was anger when he was told the truth. He didn't begin a saint, and I'm really glad they aren't turning him into an unequivocal, not to mention unrealistic one.

Think about it. Armaan sees Riddhima react to the divorce papers the way she did. The first logical conclusion is that the marriage matters. Therefore Sid matters. Therefore her happiness lies with Sid and not him any more. Therefore he tries to get them to work things out, fights Sid to admit he loves her and withdraw the divorce deed with that in mind, along with the fact that Riddhima sees him as her present, which is what he said to Sid after the fisticuff.

Then he hears from Sid that Riddhima said she still loves Armaan. Confusion. The second time to look for logic. She loves me. Therefore, her happiness may not lie with the marriage after all. Or does it? Maybe I should ask her. Therefore, he does. And as always, answers are as elusive as Riddhima herself. More confusion.

At the heart of it all is Riddhima, really. Because both men want her to be happy with whoever they think her happiness lies with. Look at it hypothetically. If Riddhima told Armaan that she loves Sid, and Armaan told Sid about it, Sid's first impulse would also be to talk to her, and ask her if it's true. He'd be forced to wonder whether the divorce is then a good idea, because if she loves him, her happiness lies in the marriage with him and not Armaan.

Big mess, this.

Originally posted by: sheel_dmgdiva

thanxx jaysean ....my names sheela..u can call me sheel 😳 i have nothing against Sid just that this is my take on the issue thanxx for agreeing with me our thoughts are in sync i have just read urs ...loved it 😳

Originally posted by: prerna4rishav

Well do u remember when Armaan came back, and Sid was trying to unite them?

There was a similar situation lemme explain -- It was Riddhima and Armaan who needed to talk to each other, it was Riddhima's responsibility to take care of Armaan's feelings, and not Sid's.. Riddhima was supposed to be his fiance..

There, when Sid was genuinely trying to unite them, loads of people came up with excuse that "Why not Sid telling Armaan the truth ?".. Sid was not obliged to do that.. Still Armaan's punch to Sid was applauded by ALL in the forum😃.. For .. they though Sid faked his promise and friendship.. He was not trying to unite them.. he just wanted to see whom she chooses..

Now what abt the promise Armaan made to unite SR ? when did he promise? and most importantly whom? For which he himself took up SO many punches? Isn't it deceiving Sid either? Armaan himself befriended Sid and now doing stuffs which will not go in his favor ? The damage was already done by Ridz by accepting her love for Armaan... Now nothing Armaan can/cannot do thats gonna reverse the whole situation...

Well for me, Sid was not at fault at that time.. becoz it's not his responsibility.. and here also it's not Armaan's fault acc. to me, as it's not his responsibility.. Good luck!😃

Originally posted by: -alimabi-

really the same goes for yu whateva sid does is not enough for yu guys instead yu guys bash him.

unlike armaan,sid isnt selfish to think abwt himself hes selfless i rather him being that way then be like armaan .

Originally posted by: sheel_dmgdiva

Oh, well put!

That's the crux of it all, really. Sid was the one who saw Riddhima's love for Armaan in her eyes, and Sid was the one who told Armaan. Armaan helped Sid out thinking he's helping Riddhima out in the process, by getting the divorce out of the way of a potentially happy marriage. But if Sid tells him that the potential happiness is outside the marriage, because she told him so, Armaan will obviously find himself in the middle of a mightily big confusion. And the most uncomplicated response is to go ahead and ask her straight up. In the whole process, Sid's entirely in the know. He knows that she might still have feelings for Armaan. Armaan, on the other hand, had NO idea what the real deal was before he was told about the marriage. And just when he'd begun to think he knows that she wants to be with Sid, he suddenly realises that he has NO idea how she really feels now either. I agree with prerna4rishav that before the truth was out, even Sid was concerned about Riddhima and her happiness alone, because she's the one he loves and Armaan's no chummy buddy of his. And that's perfectly human too, I don't grudge him that. The only thing that made it problematic for me was that he kept Armaan in the dark while he knew the whole deal all along.

The difference is, when Armaan tries to get Sid to take back the divorce, he doesn't want to know who Riddhima chooses, because as far as he's concerned, he knows she wants Sid. Now, when that suddenly acquires a major question mark, what does he do but ask her what on earth is going on in that head of hers? As far as I can see, he isn't hurting anyone's feelings. He's trying to find the best way to prevent pain, and yes, as a human being that involves his own too. If Riddhima's happy with the marriage, he'll work to make it work. If she isn't, he won't push her towards it. But if he doesn't know what she's happy with, I don't see what else he can do except try and find out in the most direct way possible. This way or that. So that he can decide what he wants to do, which way to make sure she's happy.

It's just one humongous mess, really.

Cheers! 😊

Edited by nandinidev - 15 years ago