Real Life Tales - Page 3

so sweet...
seems like i am the youngest person on this forum coz i am only turning 17 in this november

hehe i did not know that everybody in IF are married or engaged....I'm only 16!!

Age is just a number. We are all a bunch of hopeless romantics...😆

Mahika.

ours was more like aviation's- we met and married within 3 weeks (the families had already agreed on everything before hand). I did not get my visa immediately, so we had a 6 month "courtship" on the phone with him in the US and me in India. The "mircha" gang in our case was the US consulate who had rejected my visa saying that our wedding was "fake"!LOL! It took a threat from my dad to make them change their mind after 6 months!
Now u know why I watch CB?!!!

Originally posted by: aviation-ca

Great topic Mahika and great responses... go ahead make me jealous as I had 10 days between the first interview and marriage... then all the nonsense w/ inlaws, to the point of no honeymoon

Aw. But surely after marriage you got away from the nonsense? I hope??????😲

I have a friend whose in-laws came along for the honeymoon and stayed in the adjoining room.....🤢

Mahika.

Oouch! What the heck were the in-laws doing with the newly wed couples?

They opined that being alone on honeymoon was a very western notion, and that marriage should begin as it means to continue, with the whole family together... I have no words....

Mahika.

Hmm. Unfortunately I know many in laws who do that . Their behaviour is downright spoilt from day one and they give the couples no privacy whatsoever . I am all for family and all but inlaws shud be kept away from the newly marital scene . They interfere too much.........well meant interference or otherwise . And seriously this goes for the girl's family too . In my opinion both families shud stay away consciously and allow the marraige to develop on its own . I have seen girls hating their mother inlaws but hanging on every word their mom tells them ...........phoning moms four times a day and taking her advice about how to spend newly married days , setting up house etc. Similiarly I have seen ma in laws deciding the arrangements of their son and bahu's closets ! Its too much if u ask me. Leave the couple alone........let them explore each other and arrive at a firm foundation . There r plenty of opportunities later where families get together .....like babies , festivals and what nots. What families forget is that it is not their marraige all over again. It is a unique marraige belonging to that couple alone . Let them find it out . In India , there is a competition between the girl's mom and son's mom to relive her own marraige all over again by taking the girl in hand or under her wing .......the feeling being , my efficiency in the way i did my sansaar was perfectttt. I havvve to pass it on to thebahu / daughter....she so badly needs coaching . BULL . Its simply not having enough of the one chance she had at her own marraige in life and wanting to relive it again thru her bahu or daughter . So my advice to young couples is..........stay away from both families if possible and find ur own unique marraige woven with trust and love .

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

. So my advice to young couples is..........stay away from both families if possible and find ur own unique marraige woven with trust and love .

Good advice, Koolsadhu