Kabhi Main Kabhi Tum (ARY) #4 - Fahad Mustafa, Hania Aamir - Page 98

Originally posted by: meandwho

Length was off, I would have preferred it to be full length...or minis, but pak won't do it

Originally posted by: filtered_chaos

i still don't think mustafa is wrong in prioritising his work for time being. startups need your 100% because so much money is at stake. plus you have to work really hard to win the trust of investors. neither is sharjeena wrong for expecting bare minimum from the father of her unborn child.

the main issue here is their lack of communication over this. he should’ve communicated all of this to her like “hey listen i am sorry i know i have not been able to take care of you because of my work but i don’t want to feel all alone in this house so let me take you to your parent’s house for few days so that you get the love and care a pregnant woman needs and i will come & visit you whenever i get time. i will come to take you back once i have settled down at work & can afford to work the way i want to.”

i am sure sharjeena would have understood his situation & hers too. but now its just a whole big mess. plus i fail to understand why wouldn’t she call her parents in all of this. ik she loves her husband to death & thinks he will act up again if she goes to her parents but where did that practical sharjeena go who would prioritise her own self over everything? atleast think about your child man why are you so dependent on your husband when your parents are there alive and healthy, ready to help you at any difficult situation.

For this we have to backtrack a bit and actually go to the roots but before goign there i once again have to ask again when has he "acted up" at ehr meeting her parents or siblings.. he didn't even stop or force her the first time she decided to go during the table fight so why would he now again a remidner it was her who made him promise to never ask her to go to her parents.. dusra Mustafa Has NO PERSONAL issues with her whatsoever to "actup" even the last week when he was justified in vanting against her fathers immature call and interferance he didn't actup to them or anythign eh vented to her and it was over even though Sharjeena was wrong there by turnign a blind eye once again from her own parents ka beahvior towards him. that is a blindspot she has but khair that is what they don't want to address. he never even once said she can't go to her parents or that she has kisi bhi tarah ka obligation to stick to him.. they have shown us throughout that she has been in contact with her sisters and parents ab iss particular time pe for drama purposes she chose to be dumb so she can blame him for her negligence and also as they say and happens that in times of troubles sometimes we genuiny forget or our pain shock doesn't let us function and most logical thing hi bhool jaate hain hence she didn;t try

Dusra Now i have to really go to the start they have shown sharjeena to be someone who really doesn't share her pain. she has been pressured in that sense too ke badi beti hai toh bas absorb karna and handle karna hai sab and she ain't allowed to ever speak up and we saw that in the satrt too when she was left to absorb the shock walk thru the functions until she decided to take a decision for herself her own family didn't really was there to provide her support when she was having anxiety attacks and breaking down so this is not new for her she did go quiete but since the timeline that was not that big it was hard to ntoice her familyw as consumed in their own dramaay then esp her parents so she sucked it up broke down in lonliness and then made a decision acha ya bura weigh na akrte huye it was impulsive but she did it caz mustafa had been nice to her and achi beti hone ka bhi rpessure . the 2nd time she went into her cocoon was the whole dinner table saga then too it was a normal husband wife fight /tiff she chose to not share with anyoen and walk out again msiutafa didn't pressure her or anythign she didn;t share with her parents knowing ke owh aur hi batangad hi baneyeinge as is their aadat and it was a personal tiff so she chose to pretend to be all fine until mustafa came both of them were dying then too 2 din nahi raha jaa raha tha they were both meserable and then they both sorted.. sharjeena seems to take the rpessure of sab mujhe hi theek karna hai akele. she has this thing goign from the start ke share nahi karoongi apne problems and sab main akele theek kar sakti hoon but she can't she goes into then mental breakdowns/anxiety . even after her wedding she was resigned ke jo hoga so hoga it was him who stood up and went into ab kya kuch socha hai and then tried to normalize and then she opened up she took her time before that.. and ofcourse she bloomed then into the sharjeena we all love despite all her flaws..dusra she does seem to haev this other weakness ina sense that she is ok until it is all acoording to her the moment he doesn't react as per her she flips and backoff and shuts down yahan pefirst tiem they had a disagreemenet was the table issue again and wahan she went u didn't stand for me i am done i am leaving shaadi hi tod do..and go went gone.. uske baad now is the first time really that he didn;t gave her the desired reaction to the child it was underwhelming and once again sharjeena made only that reaction her whole focus and shut down on him.. if you see mustafa hadn't changed his attitude twoards her she started abcking up.. the only thing he did is him not having time and withdrawing on that and focusing.. it is her who totally went quite and then started makign these stories in ehr head ke mustafa pyaar hi nahi karta care hi nahi kartta just because he doesn't have time.. now this is where she is self inflicting this torture caz yes i agree he should haev given her some time but yeh koi aisa end of the world issue hai nahi did she even tried to communicate to him ke there s no time and she wants that attention more? not really she only mentions ke she doesn't enjoy his paisa talks.. uske allawa no.. in the alst 4/5 epsiodes so many times mustafa tried to inittiate a regualkr convo in whatever little time her has and she doesn't respond or react caz she has made it up ke pyar hi nahi akrta when we have again categorically seen and heard him say ke ab usko khushi dikhani nahi aati he ahs gone numb and jitna hai bacha hai woh sahajreena ka hai so plz do nto expect ott overjoyed emotiosn caz he just doesn't know how to express on various occasions.. so then it becomes wrong on her part to assume ke woh khsuh hi nahi hai when he has communicated on multiple occasions. it is her who has shut him down and is torturing herslef.. mustafa nahi hai toh did he stop her from having activities . no? she chose to be only and be tortured it was more overthinking on her part that got her here imo.. also i found her flip and shutting down too sudden without a concrete reason.. him being busy doesn't cut it tbf for me esp since she exactly knwos where he is busy and also what happened the last time with jsoeph so he ahs to be extra conscious this time and careful not to go through it again which is why he is also overlooking her moodswings and that is his flaw ke he is so consumed in it to address it . they both are at fault there but other than that they did her dirty in the sense that her flip didn't really makes sense given that he hasn't done anything wrong with her other than being busy and that is not enough for her to completly shut him off and not even try to have a normal conversation nwi idk we can maybe blame it on pregnancy and hormones but a lot on her part has been her anxiety her beign the responsible child wala thing and main sab khud fix kar doongi thing acting up ke amin ask nahi kar sakti..

also i would like to mention In this story a very importnat focus point throughout is yahan the driving force /decision maker has never been MUstafa it has been her decisions thru and thru and he has respected it always without a word.. that is consistent.. be it shaadi be it friendship and developing it furtehr step by step it has alwasy been HER he follows her decisions about their personal life and that is how it is setup mustafa has been constantlya nd consistenly asking her to switch homes too but she doesn't agree and he then gets convinced the child she decided to keep even though again eh wasn't fully convinced then too but sharjeena ki khushi ke liye he was like ok..

phew this was long... and i hope it all makes sense.. my thoughts are scattered but i see what is happening and am not picking sides here since they are going the easy route of make FL blame ML for her own mistakes too caz smh "psuedo Junta" have short term memory and they will buy all the flip of blame and guilt and not even try to go back so it is convinience for drama

Originally posted by: meandwho

Mustafa asking Sharjeena to go to her parents house, same energy

This is so apt 😂 Him asking her to go to her parents is almost as if he is gaslighting her-teko jaana hai toh Jaa main kaun hi hu rokne wala

Though he has never directly stopped her, but anyone with brains would see how worked up he gets everytime it's about her parents.

Originally posted by: meandwho

I resonated with this thread

https://x.com/coralwarmth/status/1848441985784549600

https://x.com/coralwarmth/status/1848442543496929790

https://x.com/coralwarmth/status/1848779045493948786

Exactly!! It's so deeply rooted that we don't see it as the problem, and I am sure they did not write it as the highlighted problem because it's so normal. Very often men try to define a relationship with money. Money can't buy you time or peace- but the thought process is as such that often they feel all they can do is provide, even if that means being emotionally unavailable for your kids. A father's love is measured by the financial stability he can provide but it is so wrong on so many levels. And because of this, the 'mamta' wala bhanda is left on the woman's shoulders alone, managing the house and the children on their own. But we still live in "baap toh aise hi hote hain" and "maa ki mamta koi seema nahi jaanti hai", doesn't matter if it f*ks up the child/childern's mental health, spoiling his/her future relationships, and continuation of the same cycle.

Sharjeena is completely isolated,it’s really traumatising to see her living all alone in that big house with no one to talk to,anyone is going to get into depression living like this.They should have put a trigger warning in the Sharjeena crying scene bcs it was triggering and the echo they added just did the job,i am not even going to repeat watching this particular scene ever!Hania was absolutely brilliant damn,she definitely deserves better scripts and challenging roles,the girl is going to get more bigger,she has everything that a superstar needs touchwood.

I will not understand and it’s beyond my comprehension that why at the time of emergency she didn’t call an ambulance or even her parents or her sister when Mustafa and doctor were unreachable,it's poor writing and the thing is it’s coming from an intelligent writer like Farhat is absolutely disappointing.

Now coming to the story,Mustafa literally abandoned his wife when his wife was feeling dizzy and definitely not feeling well,he is doing all this for her and the kid na,then what about giving a damn about the health of the mother and the baby?He saw her not doing well,how did his conscience permit him to leave her alone there and just go,he could have just dropped her off to her parents or sister’s house then go to work?Or is this too much of an expectation from him as well?Why is he not in connection with his mother in law for Sharjeena’s sake atleast?He left her literally for 3 days all alone despite knowing she isn’t doing well health wise,i would rather be a single woman my whole life than have a husband like him.

This is such a wrong time for me to be on my periods..... everything is making me cry extraaaaa

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DBZS4vxCLl-/?igsh=YmlmazN2cnZpcWpt

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DBGJ1Z6PYK0/?igsh=MXgxNXluZ3hscHR6bA==

Anybody Saw this mix?

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DBCIIvkM_KR/?igsh=NnQxeGplbWtpMnN4

This got me laughing

Really feeling bad for Sharjeena,it was so touching but i still can't blame Mustafa fully

I can related to what he is facing in professional life ,he is not greedy or over ambitious

Situations were so bad

The parents are so useless , esp Sharjeena's

This show teaches us to get married and have baby when you are financially independent

But ofc for Musjeena the situations were not under their control so not their fault

Lmfao, poor iftehkar, shagufta got him in this mess