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Originally posted by: pressu

I read Hatimoon's post and I think it has a point.

I feel that there is a difference between Sitara being rude to Saba and Junaid and Salar being rude to Taya. I have not watched the episode where she was rude to them but understanding the context you gave I can get it. Salar knows about Sitara's family and he has an impression about them because he was with them personally, even though Taya was caring towards Sitara before but later he was also the one who agreed to get her married to a middle aged man with children(if I am not wrong). I can understand the Twitter people regarding not calling out Salar for disrespecting Taya.

On the other hand, Sitara knows nothing about Saba and Junaid personally and if she was rude to them because they were defending Salar, it's not done.

That's what I am exactly saying. It is not done. I can understand even why Salar was rude to Taya but it is still not done. As I said, Salar should have been assertive but not insulting. Yes, definitely Sitara's family deserves it. But at the same time, it leaves a very bad impression on Sitara who loves her Taya and her brother and makes her hostile to him. It is one thing that your family is mistreating you but it is another when your partner (or pseudo-partner) is doing so even if it is on your behalf. Also, as of now, we do not know how that interaction between Saba, Junaid and Sitara began and how it reached that point. So I am going to wait for it, but it is still not done. They both need to grow up and seriously so for their marriage to work.

As for twitter, the point is not at all balanced out there. Sitara bashing seems to be the latest sport. Yes, she is being undeniably stupid, mannerless and ungrateful. But Salar is no saint either. He is being whitewashed thanks to his recent grand gestures while his smaller and earlier larger actions which have negative consequences are being ignored.

I am reading different views and understand them. I feel Sitara actually has gone through a lot but from viewers point of view, they mainly focus on the recent past events than the previous past events. So the recent past events are like @roopshas1 mentioned he stopped her marriages 2 times. It is actually like he did good to her. Viewers have that in mind. And regarding them siding with Salar. As per my understanding, most of the viewers are girls so it is like them watching a fantasy guy who is doing things for a girl is like a fantasy so I get why they are siding with him. And for most, drama is like an escape from reality, they are completely in this fantasy world and may be dreaming about a guy like him. So that's why they are on Salar's side.

Originally posted by: Hatimoon

Normally a younger brother does not behave like this with an elder sister and doesn't dictate to his elder sister. He slapped her, and she is like, Ok, you can slap me as I love you, makes no sense. What's the point of sacrificing your life for a brother like this who doesn't respect his elder sister, who's immature and doesn't know what's good for her and what's bad?

She wasn't ok with that slap. She didn't go to her brother when he was bleeding. That was a kind of punishment. Yes , she went later when he was sleeping . But it is like any caring sister.

In families many fights happen between siblings. I had my share of them with my younger brother. But a family is a family. Blood doesn't turn into water. And if your brother is going to commit a suicide because he is ashamed of you, you have to stop him.

Originally posted by: Schrute

But you have got to understand sitara never had feelings for salar, yes she had a soft corner and hamdardi while he was posing to be gareeb, and before her feelings towards him could settle, she was thrown into the circle of vicious things one after another, and also she lost her faith in him when she got to know about his identity. She feels betrayed because she trusted him, and he was responsible for insulting her as after his insult in walima, she was thrown towards any mard just to save face to the point that she lost her will to live, and she is dejected by life, salar, and her family to the point that she doesn't really cares about living, let alone wanting anything good for herself. She is scared and untrusting of salar as although he had made loud proclamations of saving her but never tried understanding her haalat. So to gain her confidence salar should atleast try talking to her, instead of imposing himself on him. She is broken now, and first thing he should work on is to make her believe that despite of whatever decisions she'll take, he will stand by her. She needs support and trust of people more than love right now, to become the old sitara that she was, as for a women worst thing can happen is people questioning her character, because unfortunately that's the society we are living in, and we aee indoctrinated the same from childhood. That's why i don't find sitara berating saba and junaid, becaise they don't know the extent of tribulations sitara has gone through after comkng back from Hyderabad and walima event, in which salar although misguided, but was kind of part of . The only person who was innocent in whole ordeal was her and she has faced the brunt of it the most. Not even indulged in naming nimmi and kiran, and going through it all alone. Her babasi is real and i understand her

So well said. This is what I have been trying to say as well.

Salman went to Sitara's house to make sure after he backwards from marrying her , she won't get married to Salar. For this he felt happy when Zuhaib threatened to kill his own self.

Originally posted by: awida

Salman went to Sitara's house to make sure after he backwards from marrying her , she won't get married to Salar. For this he felt happy when Zuhaib threatened to kill his own self.

Salman is the toxic friend one had whom you believed that he/she was a friend because you guys hung out together for so many years, only to realise once you start becoming an adult that their values do not match with yours at all.

I can understand Sitara being helpless. Her chirpy attitude was a compensation for her loneliness. With her only defense gone (Taya and brother), she has become weak. She is truly orphaned with no support now. She is only 19. She doesn’t know anything about the real world.

She wants to get married (to any one) to get out of her current misery. In her mind being in a less than ideal marriage is a problem to be dealt with another time and the only one at stake in a bad marriage would be her. Right now her Taya’s and brother’s izzat is at stake and she wants to fix it. And Salar keeps disrupting her path to peace. Happiness is not her goal right now

Originally posted by: awida

Salman went to Sitara's house to make sure after he backwards from marrying her , she won't get married to Salar. For this he felt happy when Zuhaib threatened to kill his own self.

salman is an idiot. He should know Salar better. Salar will never let him get his share of the deal if he leaves Sitara in a worse off situation

Originally posted by: roopshas1

Salman is the toxic friend one had whom you believed that he/she was a friend because you guys hung out together for so many years, only to realise once you start becoming an adult that their values do not match with yours at all.

Yes. That's right. I was wondering how Salar and Salman remained friends even after Salar grew up and could see Salman's greed, and rest of his bad qualities.. only to remember that he kept Salman a friend as his parents weren't ok with it.

Because of Salar, Sitara has been through the following:

- direct humiliation by Salar. If I were Sitara, this would make Salar an impossibility for me. Nothing would redeem a guy for me after being insulted in THAT manner. In addition, random men at the party insulted her by saying message us too.

- multiple slaps

- education being stopped

- being called a whore pretty much (Qasim called her used goods, Salman too I think, Taya called her a kabab with flies on it, Tayi called her many nasty things)

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