Originally posted by: Ohgod!
As someone who was in a long relationship before getting married, I think I can safely say that every relationship is a two way traffic and needs open communication from both ends for absolutely everything life changing atleast! If I'm telling my partner I want to stay close to my family in one vulnerable moment and then turn around tomorrow and say let's run away in another, I expect my partner to also be eloquent with his thoughts as they flow...not think for me and decide on my behalf what I want or how I want it! That's just basic 101 of every relationship . The moment we start deciding for the other, we open up the relationship to miscommunication and misinterpretation!! So I have to atleast allow the other half basic decency to first run my thoughts by him and see what they have to say before jumping to unfounded assumptions on what may or may not happen tomorrow. This just means there is lack of trust in the relationship! And that's okay too because trust is ongoing and builds stronger over time but what is non-negotiable is transparency!
So while Abhira may not be wrong in wanting to be that person who gives Armaan what she thinks he wants, she needs to start being more open about her emotions with him! As and when she feels them! If she thinks them being married is important then tell him that.. if she thinks they or even just she needs to leave the house because her tolerance is dipping, then she needs to tell him that too.. she needs to ask him how long they would wait for KP's blessing and discuss what would happen if KP didn't bless them in the near future! Now don't tell me these are not basic questions any girl would have in such a scenario! Priority mein ho na ho but surely these questions must bother her everyday.. why not just ask Armaan then? Maybe it'll make him also think and decide on something more concrete than walking between his house and outhouse! I'd honestly respect her far more if she actually had one real conversation with Armaan rather than having useless ones with Manish or Rohit!
And the onus should be on her to have these questions and thoughts because she's the one currently coming across as a freeloader without any self respect! And also the one who unilaterally decided sorting his family issues comes before their seeking approval for their marriage..
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