Disclaimer : This is very long post and sabke bas nahi hai lamba post read karna so wohi comment kare jo entire post read kar paaye
My post is ONLY for their life as husband and wife. Poddars kitne toxic kamine hai, immoral ruhi blah blah ke liye bhi maine itna post nahi likkha kyun ki yeh sab ache se dekha samja hai.
Daughter in law, sister in law, mother in law, grand mother in law, sautan , brother in law inn sab ke sath abhira ke equation ka yeh post nahi hai ya phir har tisre insaan ke liye abhira ne kya kiya kitne ehsaan kiya woh bhi mere post ka point nahi hai. Point is only HUSBAND-WIFE AGAINST SITUATIONS but abhira made it like SHE vs HUSBAND.
Armaan chahe acha pati bane ya bura pati bane usko daily ragad-ragad kar dhoya jata hai so mere post mai muje armaan ko dhone ka mood nahi hai. Ek baat toh clear hai ki abhira bahot he bekar WIFE hai since day 1.
Ek toh jab shaddi kari tab clearly shaddi ka matlab tak pata nahi tha 21-22 saal ki ladki ko! Isiliye shaddi ko saal bhar ki bana diya.
Uske baad sasural mai shaddi kar ke ayi toh husband par har baat par aisa dabav ki mai meri suno, meri baat mano, mere hisab se chalo type ka behave husband ke sath kiya and agar husband uske hisab se chalne se mana kare toh mera sansaar mai koi nahi ka rona ro lo wardrobe mai baith kar.
Har baat mai husband ke against khadi rehti hai kabhi kaveri poddar case toh kabhi krish case toh kabhi charu case toh kabhi ruhi case , inn sab ke case mai hamesha abhira ne aisa behave kiya like she vs armaan. Kabhi toh meri baat suno, meri baat maano, main sahi se uper uth kar dekho abhira! Shaddi kari hai tum ne uss admi se!
Kaisa tha husband wife ka equation jab kaveri poddar ke against case fight kar rahi thi abhira?
Usne apne husband se bola ki tum juth ke sath khade ho, family-family khel rahe ho, galat ka sath de rahe ho!!! Abhira ke husband ko lagta tha ki uski dadi ne gareebo ka ghar nahi jalaya toh abhira ne apne husband ko totally dho dala sab ke samne kyunki uske paas koi dekhe dikhaye 4 proof the. Kaun aise behave karta hai apne husband ke sath kisi bhi case ke liye!!! Abhira ne itna dhoya uss admi ko tab ja kar uss admi ko gussa aya tha apni biwi par.
Kaisa tha husband wife ka equation jab charu dev love life bahar aya?
Agar nanad ka boss se affair chal raha toh kaun si wife ghar ja kar bedroom mai apne husband ko nahi batayegi ki dekho humari office mai tumhari behen ka boss ke sath affair hai. Kaun biwi aise react karti hai ki nanad ne mana kiya toh husband se baat chupaya,nanad ko time diye etc? Uske baad jab husband ko pata lagta hai and usko apni biwi ki bewkoofi par gussa ata hai woh kai baar biwi ko sister ke uss problematic matter se dur rehne ki iccha batata lekin wife uske picche padd jati hai ki meri baat suno, meri baat samjo, meri baat maano! Kyun! Agar husband ko apni sister ki shaddi baal baccha vale se karane mai interest na ho toh meri baat sunno kar ke usko pressure kyun karna!!! Kya tum nanad ka love life side mai rakh kar husband ki iccha mai sath dogi toh tumhara independence khatam ho jayega ya tumhara feminism khatam ho jayega?
Simple si baat hai kisi bhi shaddi mai ki agar biwi ke bhai/behen ki baat ho tab biwi ka opinion zyada matter karta hai and jab husband ke bhai/behen ki baat ho toh husband ka opinion zyada matter karta hai kyunki har koi apne bhai-behen ko bachpan se jaanta hota hai woh kya hai kaisa hai kya capacity hai. Agar humare devar yah nanand ka matter ho toh itna basic sense hai ki husband ke against ja kar ,apni shaddi mai aag laga kar uske bhai behen yah mere bhai behen ko kisi bhi matter mai support nahi dena hai kyunki uske bhai-behen yah mere bhai-behen se zyada I respect more my husband and my marriage.
Abhira ke liye toh koi bhi tisra, tisre ke liye uski fight uske husband se zyada important ho aisa lagta hai kyunki uske liye shaddi matlab har haal mai husband ko he wife ki baat sunni hai, samajni hai and manni hai otherwise husband ki chahe jo marzi ho, mai apne hisab se he chalugi, agar shaddi mai shanti chahiye toh husband ko mere hisab se chalna padega.
It was abhira jo aise matter mai bhi husband ke khilaf khadi ho gayi. Jab woh wardrobe mai baithi, uske husband ne usko wardrobe se bahar nikala tabhi husband ka bahar aate he pressure de kar bheja fry kar rahi thi ki tumhari behen ki love life ko support karo. Biwi ke pressure ko jhelne ke baad uss admi ka itna bheja fry hua ki uske baad usko mooh khola ki jaldi se divorce do kyunki ab yeh bahot ho raha hai, uske baad misunderstanding hua ki biwi sister ko ghar se bhaga rahi hai kyunki biwi ne khud he 500 baar bheja fry kar ke bataya tha ki she is against her husband in dev charu love story.
Kaisa tha husband wife ka equation jab saas-sasur ka fight hua?
Jab saas-sasur ka solid fight hua tab saas-bahu mai already problems chal rahi thi toh husband ne bola ki meri mother ko tumahara uski shaddi ke matter mai bolna pasand nahi aa raha hai so please tum usko kuch matt samjao. Kitna sahi baat kaha husband ne apni wife se lekin iss baat mai bhi wife ne pehle toh husband ko dho daala ki main kyun na bolu, it's family matter, saas ka hath pakad kar usko marriage life samjane ki try kari, saas double gussa hui and usk baad saas sasur ke marriage problem ko family matter bol kar usme forcefully ghusti rahi. Husband ke piche itna padi ki bichare ko tang aa kar bolna pada ki behen waise bhi kitne din se divorce-divorce chal he raha so chalo papers sign kar he lete hai. Iss matter ko bhi abhira ko main vs armaan banane ki zarurat nahi thi. Agar tumahri maa hoti toh you are the best judge to decide the things kyunki bachpan se tum uske sath rahi ho waise he yaha armaan ki maa ki baat thi toh armaan was the best judge jab usne kaha ki saas-bahu mai already problems hai toh uski maa ki marital life problems se durr raho.
Husband's guilt
I don't know kitne log married hai yaha, lekin agar spouse guilt mai ho kisi bhi rreason se toh ek wife ka kya hota hai first instinct!! Normally toh yehi hota hai ki husband ke guilt ko hum mil kar kum karne ki koshish karege. Aisa nahi hota ki husband ke guilt se mera kya lena dena! Jaise husband ki problems se hum sath mai fight karte hai waise he apne spouse ke guilt ke liye usko support dena hota hai.
Agar husband yeh bole ki mera yeh action meri guilt ki wajah se hai toh kaun aise bolta hai ki tumhara iske sath guilt ka rishta khatam he nahi hota! sautan parayi hai but husband to apna hai na! Biwi aise guilt ridden husband ko yeh bolti hai ki tumhare guilt ko kum karne ke liye tumhe jo bhi karna pade tum karo, I am with you bas hamesha ek boundary bana kar chalna chahe ex ho ya koi dusra.
Yaha husband ke guilt ko kum karne mai sath dena toh chodo , yeh toh husband ko he dhoye ja rahi thi bhai tumhara guilt uske sath khatam he nahi hona. Guilt ek baar agar kisi ke mann mai aa jaye toh kisi ke bhi bolne se guilt hawa mai gayab nahi ho jata.
Abhira ka husband already bachpan se ek nahi toh dusre guilt mai jiya hai and bade hone ke baad bhi kabhi abhira ki maa ka guilt to kabhi apni lover ki bhai se shaddi karane ka guilt toh kabhi kisi ladki ko mandap mai chodne ka guilt , itne sare guilt sath le kar daily chalta hai. Jo hai woh yehi hai, husband with full of guilts. Ab aise mai yah toh husband ko chod ko ya toh husband ko uske number of guilts ke sath accept kar ke support do, aye din husband ko ragad-ragad kar dhote rehne se kuch nahi hona.
Seriously abhira, you are absolutely terrible wife, tum chahe kitno ke liye justice ke jhande utha lo, dusro ke liye uthye hue justice ke jhande mai pisna toh tumhare husband ko he hai and it makes you terrible wife .
Tumne kabhi kisi ka shaddi bachaya toh kabhi kisi ka career bachaya but yeh sab tumne kisi tisre ke liye kiya hamesha, tumhare husband ke liye inn mai kuch nahi tha, tha to sirf main vs armaan.
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