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Originally posted by: Anu234

Yeh sach hei abhimanyu is leaving because he does not agree with that decision but inko esmei b ak ko lana hei.

This is like how my teenager boy tells every time anything goes wrong, "it's because of you", even if I was not in picture. He gives justification that you were not here, that's why this happened. I used to get irritated earlier, now I accepted that even the earth rotates is also because of me So I am not bothered about his reactions.

I think now Akshara also has reached that saturation level

Originally posted by: Lethamukund

One thing I did not understand today. Mahima told Abhi is leaving everything for one person. His mother, home and now hospital. I thought Dr Birla is leaving hospital because he does not agree for new VIP hospital built on charity funds. What does Akshara has to do with that? And Akshara also said that he is loosing everything for her. How does his quitting BH is related to her? It's because his morals and ethics don't allow him to stand with this un ethical thing, right?

Or did I miss something in between?

Everything that's called story development and consistency which was always non existent So technically you didn't miss anything.

Originally posted by: Lethamukund

Good, bad, better and happiness are relative terms. And the person himself has to decide what is good and bad for him and what gives him happiness. If Abhimanyu feels being with Akshara and Abhir and baby makes him happy and that's good for him, that only will make him happy, right?

It is like in our lives, many occasions parents and friends suggest what to study, what profession to choose, where to go vacation, whom to marry, whether to quit a high paid job to follow your passion etc., but ultimately you have to decide what makes you happy and what is good for you. After all it is your own life. And you have every right to choose what is good and makes you happy.

Same as that Abhimanyu can decide and why others have a problem with that.

The real issue with Manjari (and fans) is not that Abhi will not be happy, real issue is that Abhi-Akshara-Abhir family with Abhinav baby is something Manjari (and fans) will not be happy to see. So ultimately, Manjari (and fans) are choosing their happiness over Abhi's happiness. That's the sad part of Abhi's life that his own mother is choosing her happiness over his happiness, even after he is a fully grown adult she is not letting him choose his own happiness.

Abhi doesn't exist. It is a played by Harshad Chopda, he is quitting the show for his happiness and fans are supporting him in whatever makes him happy. Abhi as he is not real, fans know is being written by a team who has never done justice to the character, team believes in belittling him and making him miserable, they won't write anything good for him, fans know he will die so fans prefer that the character dies before marrying Ak and being a father to that girl. We don't want him to be Ak's husband and father to An's daughter. In all this mess, Abhi dying before marrying Ak is the silver linings for fans. Manju is not wrong as a character because anyone with a brain would understand that marrying a woman who loves another man is foolish. My parents wanted me to be a doctor, they paid for my bills now I am supporting them. There's none more important than my parents for me and that's they why I doubt expect my partner to leave his parents for me. Anyone who can leave their parents for a few years old relationship has no value in my eyes. They have always been there so I don't support this idea of ruining your life and running after something which will destroy you forgetting that people made sacrifices to give you everything. I know people like to put their happiness above their parent's but I don't. I owe them everything I have. Manju has always been there for Abhi, when Ak put him behind bars to be hanged till death, it was his mother who had unwavering faith in him, it has always been his mother who loved him and Ruhi is close 2nd. What has Ak ever done for Abhi? What happiness did he get by marrying Ak? He is miserable because he could never move on. If he was real, I would have sent him to a rehabilitation center because Ak is bad news

Originally posted by: SwatiSingh79

Abhi doesn't exist. It is a played by Harshad Chopda, he is quitting the show for his happiness and fans are supporting him in whatever makes him happy. Abhi as he is not real, fans know is being written by a team who has never done justice to the character, team believes in belittling him and making him miserable, they won't write anything good for him, fans know he will die so fans prefer that the character dies before marrying Ak and being a father to that girl. We don't want him to be Ak's husband and father to An's daughter. In all this mess, Abhi dying before marrying Ak is the silver linings for fans. Manju is not wrong as a character because anyone with a brain would understand that marrying a woman who loves another man is foolish. My parents wanted me to be a doctor, they paid for my bills now I am supporting them. There's none more important than my parents for me and that's they why I doubt expect my partner to leave his parents for me. Anyone who can leave their parents for a few years old relationship has no value in my eyes. They have always been there so I don't support this idea of ruining your life and running after something which will destroy you forgetting that people made sacrifices to give you everything. I know people like to put their happiness above their parent's but I don't. I owe them everything I have. Manju has always been there for Abhi, when Ak put him behind bars to be hanged till death, it was his mother who had unwavering faith in him, it has always been his mother who loved him and Ruhi is close 2nd. What has Ak ever done for Abhi? What happiness did he get by marrying Ak? He is miserable because he could never move on. If he was real, I would have sent him to a rehabilitation center because Ak is bad news

It's good to hear that you love and value your parents the most. And one must always.

It's quite normal to love a fictional character and you get attached to them as you read or watch a story.

Why I watch and read stories is that those characters give you a lot of life lessons, which you may be able to imbibe and apply in real life. I don't watch shows for any actor, and even if I like an actor, I don't agree with all the characters that they play. What I learned from this show, especially S3 is don't be angry and impulsive like Abhimanyu, don't be a controlling parent like Manjari, don't be sacrificial and don't run away from problems like Akshara. Any decision taken out of anger will lead to life long regret, sometimes leads to a loss which you can never recover.

Let me narrate my own experience of a similar tragic event in my life. I was staying alone in a far away state for work, while pregnant and I had a bit of complications. My doctor suggested to take almost care and my husband was almost another part of the country. I decided to continue to stay at my place even after my family asked me otherwise. I had to travel for some urgent work and I fell from train (fainted due to not eating) and had a bad MC. I was devastated, and started feeling guilty for not being careful. My husband and parents, in-laws all rushed from different parts of country and they all stayed with me for 3 months till I recovered. They never made me feel that I made a mistake, but I knew I was wrong. I could sail through the toughest days of my life just because my family stood with me. Having a MC is really really bad, it drains you mentally and physically. And if at that point you are left alone, you may end up in depression and even end yourself. While I watched WD sequence, all those deep down memories triggered and I was so disturbed. Whatever Akshara did thereafter I will not say those will not be as bad and cruel as what Abhimanyu did on WD and immediately after.

Similarly, my. brothers' infant died on the very next day of birth because my SIL slept off while feeding (she was totally exhausted), and no one was around her as her mother and my brother went to pay some bills. Can you imagine the mental stress that mother went through? Both of them were depressed and it took our family a year to bring them to normalcy. In both our cases, families stood with us, and we together sailed through. That's what relations are for.

And each time in the show, Akshara was left alone and she was never made to feel a part of family. That's why I feel and connect to her more. Its very easy to see the story as an outsider, but if you have ever experienced a similar situation, you feel that she should have been held tight by someone (and Abhimanyu claimed he loved her madly). That's when she found Abhinav and he was her last straw of her sinking state and she held on to him. I don't see Akshara as bad in that sense.

Please feel free to disagree

Originally posted by: SwatiSingh79

s. Manju is not wrong as a character because anyone with a brain would understand that marrying a woman who loves another man is foolish. My parents wanted me to be a doctor, they paid for my bills now I am supporting them. There's none more important than my parents for me and that's they why I doubt expect my partner to leave his parents for me. Anyone who can leave their parents for a few years old relationship has no value in my eyes. They have always been there so I don't support this idea of ruining your life and running after something which will destroy you forgetting that people made sacrifices to give you everything. I know people like to put their happiness above their parent's but I don't. I owe them everything I have. Manju has always been there for Abhi, when Ak put him behind bars to be hanged till death, it was his mother who had unwavering faith in him, it has always been his mother who loved him and Ruhi is close 2nd. What has Ak ever done for Abhi? What happiness did he get by marrying Ak? He is miserable because he could never move on. If he was real, I would have sent him to a rehabilitation center because Ak is bad news

A child when he/she grows into an adult has their own ideologies , idea of happiness , thoughts , beliefs and emotions and they're entitled to it....i respect your ideas and beliefs about your parents but forcing them on others and judging them with the same mindset is exactly the root cause of this whole issue.... manjari needs a psychiatrist coz her mamta has turned into an obsession...children Def come through their parents but theyre not puppets to be moulded or controlled for life.... they are an independent life ..that's why the family system in India is breaking apart because within a family too there are boundaries but since they're living the same way for centuries , they refuse to acknowledge.

Manjari can suggest , make her son understand but never impose her beliefs on him ..this is why he's miserable since he got married...not because of akshara...it wasn't Neil's death or his babies death which tipped him off. It was his mother. Every time it has been her .

Edited out personal attack on member

Originally posted by: Lethamukund

It's good to hear that you love and value your parents the most. And one must always.

It's quite normal to love a fictional character and you get attached to them as you read or watch a story.

Why I watch and read stories is that those characters give you a lot of life lessons, which you may be able to imbibe and apply in real life. I don't watch shows for any actor, and even if I like an actor, I don't agree with all the characters that they play. What I learned from this show, especially S3 is don't be angry and impulsive like Abhimanyu, don't be a controlling parent like Manjari, don't be sacrificial and don't run away from problems like Akshara. Any decision taken out of anger will lead to life long regret, sometimes leads to a loss which you can never recover.

Let me narrate my own experience of a similar tragic event in my life. I was staying alone in a far away state for work, while pregnant and I had a bit of complications. My doctor suggested to take almost care and my husband was almost another part of the country. I decided to continue to stay at my place even after my family asked me otherwise. I had to travel for some urgent work and I fell from train (fainted due to not eating) and had a bad MC. I was devastated, and started feeling guilty for not being careful. My husband and parents, in-laws all rushed from different parts of country and they all stayed with me for 3 months till I recovered. They never made me feel that I made a mistake, but I knew I was wrong. I could sail through the toughest days of my life just because my family stood with me. Having a MC is really really bad, it drains you mentally and physically. And if at that point you are left alone, you may end up in depression and even end yourself. While I watched WD sequence, all those deep down memories triggered and I was so disturbed. Whatever Akshara did thereafter I will not say those will not be as bad and cruel as what Abhimanyu did on WD and immediately after.

Similarly, my. brothers' infant died on the very next day of birth because my SIL slept off while feeding (she was totally exhausted), and no one was around her as her mother and my brother went to pay some bills. Can you imagine the mental stress that mother went through? Both of them were depressed and it took our family a year to bring them to normalcy. In both our cases, families stood with us, and we together sailed through. That's what relations are for.

And each time in the show, Akshara was left alone and she was never made to feel a part of family. That's why I feel and connect to her more. Its very easy to see the story as an outsider, but if you have ever experienced a similar situation, you feel that she should have been held tight by someone (and Abhimanyu claimed he loved her madly). That's when she found Abhinav and he was her last straw of her sinking state and she held on to him. I don't see Akshara as bad in that sense.

Please feel free to disagree

A similar thing happened with me.There is a tragedy happened in my life and it's because of my own mistake.When I realized it I thought I will be left alone and will never be able to wake up from that tragedy.Because I have seen similar situation happened to other girls got abandoned by their family or else live with whole life listening to all blames.But it's not happened with me.My family stood with me not just my parents but my uncle aunts Cousins grandparents .Till today they never blamed me for that thing.Its from family I learnt that Family should be the one which hold you and embrace you with their warmth at your lowest.

Like you said,when I saw that white day episode,it took me to that memories of lowest phase of my life.

After that I was afraid to take my own decisions.I used to ask my parents before anything.And they say we can give you suggestions but decision should be taken by the opinion formed by yourself.But if you ever fail ,we will be there to hold you.

Thatswhy I can't connect with characters like Abhimanyu and Manjari.According to my life love and sacrifice are not what they did in thos show.The things I learnt from my Surroundings is don't be with a partner who even just talk about divorce for every thing.But here ,Akshara got divorce paper signed by her husband himself and also blame she killed his brother and her own babies.The people who say a mother can't accept her son marrying a woman pregnant with her ex husband child.I have seen in my real life mothers who considers her daughter in-laws children from their former marriage consider them as their own and treat equal with their other grandchildren .

Originally posted by: elizamerin

A similar thing happened with me.There is a tragedy happened in my life and it's because of my own mistake.When I realized it I thought I will be left alone and will never be able to wake up from that tragedy.Because I have seen similar situation happened to other girls got abandoned by their family or else live with whole life listening to all blames.But it's not happened with me.My family stood with me not just my parents but my uncle aunts Cousins grandparents .Till today they never blamed me for that thing.Its from family I learnt that Family should be the one which hold you and embrace you with their warmth at your lowest.

Like you said,when I saw that white day episode,it took me to that memories of lowest phase of my life.

After that I was afraid to take my own decisions.I used to ask my parents before anything.And they say we can give you suggestions but decision should be taken by the opinion formed by yourself.But if you ever fail ,we will be there to hold you.

Thatswhy I can't connect with characters like Abhimanyu and Manjari.According to my life love and sacrifice are not what they did in thos show.The things I learnt from my Surroundings is don't be with a partner who even just talk about divorce for every thing.But here ,Akshara got divorce paper signed by her husband himself and also blame she killed his brother and her own babies.The people who say a mother can't accept her son marrying a woman pregnant with her ex husband child.I have seen in my real life mothers who considers her daughter in-laws children from their former marriage consider them as their own and treat equal with their other grandchildren .

Really good to hear that you have such a lovely family.

I still feel grateful to my husband and family who never ever thought that I was at fault. And stood with me to bring me back to my life. SO I can very well connect to why Akshara feel gratitude towards Abhinav. He saved her and son not only once, but twice. She can never forget what he did for them. While my painful incident happened almost 18 years ago, I still feel pain. All the while we watched WD sequence and I was telling how much it is painful when I think of our experience, my teenager boy who was well aware our incident told his dad, thanks for not behaving like Abhimanyu Birla at that time, that's why we are together now. And his dad replied, why will I behave like him, I love my wife very much.

You see, different people take the same story and plot differently, those who have gone through similar events can connect more with that. That's what I said, all are free to agree or disagree as per their perspectives.

Originally posted by: Lethamukund

Really good to hear that you have such a lovely family.

I still feel grateful to my husband and family who never ever thought that I was at fault. And stood with me to bring me back to my life. SO I can very well connect to why Akshara feel gratitude towards Abhinav. He saved her and son not only once, but twice. She can never forget what he did for them. While my painful incident happened almost 18 years ago, I still feel pain. All the while we watched WD sequence and I was telling how much it is painful when I think of our experience, my teenager boy who was well aware our incident told his dad, thanks for not behaving like Abhimanyu Birla at that time, that's why we are together now. And his dad replied, why will I behave like him, I love my wife very much.

You see, different people take the same story and plot differently, those who have gone through similar events can connect more with that. That's what I said, all are free to agree or disagree as per their perspectives.

I just happened to read this by random click and though very sad with what happened to you and sister in law in past, I am very happy to hear your family supported you. This positivity in relationships and support is rare to find. It made be feel very good that we still have families who stand with each other in tough times especially when it came from your in laws and husband. God bless you and your family!

Originally posted by: Lethamukund

Really good to hear that you have such a lovely family.

I still feel grateful to my husband and family who never ever thought that I was at fault. And stood with me to bring me back to my life. SO I can very well connect to why Akshara feel gratitude towards Abhinav. He saved her and son not only once, but twice. She can never forget what he did for them. While my painful incident happened almost 18 years ago, I still feel pain. All the while we watched WD sequence and I was telling how much it is painful when I think of our experience, my teenager boy who was well aware our incident told his dad, thanks for not behaving like Abhimanyu Birla at that time, that's why we are together now. And his dad replied, why will I behave like him, I love my wife very much.

You see, different people take the same story and plot differently, those who have gone through similar events can connect more with that. That's what I said, all are free to agree or disagree as per their perspectives.

It gives me goosebumps thinking whT all you went through

For sure , the wd events and their execution created a solid base for akshara & abhinav ..more than that , permanent dent in abhimanyus character..also it's a lesson to the makers that they can't mess up the story & expect the audience to lap it up like they did with abhinavs death and ak going bk to the same man.

No matter how wrong akshara may be on the wd , or Dr and his mummy's grief which they said was unimaginable, if she found support in any one of them , there would be no abhinav chapter in her life ..people do commit blunders but then what's the family for if they can't support in the toughest times ? Akshara supposed to be waiting for them to calm down, & take her back is even more cruel.....for sure , she's not a perfect woman or someone to look upto but she is also a human being n not a piece of trash...

Family system has always been the soul of yrkkh but in s3 they killed the soul...bec neither her family was there for her , nor her in laws...upar se , she's still into the perfect family Jaap with whoever as her husband n they expect it to work

Manjiri remembers Akshara and Abhinav's grand love story way more than Akshara remembers Abhinav Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai?