Originally posted by: Arilip
Yes he promised, but you see he needed assurances and khushi also failed to provide that. They both stopped proper communication. Started guessing and acting according to their guesses. In chapter 4 khushi clearly told him why she is happy with him , but when the baby thing came though she decided but failed to communicate the same. I know I must have posted hundred times, she didn’t stop the pill but didn’t tell him. That makes him believe that she will never be happy without a child. He tried to give her what she wanted to his best abilities, imagine how much stress he would have gone though in those four months not a day or week , they were trying for the baby!!! Even the thought of which gives him panic attack!!! No one can love her as much as this man does!! They both love each other but somewhere communication lines were cut . Everyone is blaming Arnav alone!!! But what stopped khushi to tell him when he left the bedroom after the attempts to get pregnant failed . They both misunderstood each other he thought she is unhappy because of baby, she knew he is withdrawing because of it but still didn’t try to assure him. I am not saying she shouldn’t want children but that’s not the point here!! Point is she had decided that Arnav is more important but still put him through the agony of trying for a baby and not tell him that he is more important. The didn’t just assume they had fought for it whole year and he relented, they tried for it genuinely (in Arnav’s eyes) and that put him through enormous stress that he decided to break it!!! Had khushi got pregnant he would have taken care and done everything that he needed to…
I don’t know why the responsibility of keeping the relationship and holding the communication is only his. Khushi was his wife, she started skirting around the problems but she still remains the righteous one!! We are talking about his promises , so khushi didn’t have any responsibilities towards the relationship ?It was only his marriage?
No no I get it. I don’t blame Arnav alone at all.
but I think in the last few chapters more light has been shed on it.
When Arnav decided to try for a baby, till then Khushi also wanted a child. It was only after the Nov-Dec’15 behaviour of Arnav that she steps back and decides that she doesn’t want a child.
When they were trying, she didn’t tell him she doesn’t want a child because she wanted one back then. She just wanted to wait till things were a little better between them and Arnav can finally be onboard one day.
Yeah she does want a child and saw Arnav being half heartedly ready. But why are we expecting her to immediately give up her dream of being a mother. Why was it wrong on her part to assume she can make things better because till now she has always done that.
Plus, Arnav mentioned that he never wanted to discuss with her why this sudden change of heart because he would lose the will and the courage.
Arnav was the one to put a stop to this discussion after dumping his acceptance for a child on her head and expected Khushi to agree because that’s what she wanted. Pill was a wise decision by her.
And Arnav clearly mentioned why he went away from Khushi this time. It was because he felt relieved everytime she told him she wasn’t pregnant yet. She was trying to talk to him and spend time with him but that time just made him realise that he absolutely does want a child even though he tried. Plus she was also afraid that the smallest of disagreements and he was abandoning her.
It wasn’t because of these 4 months he became convicted that Khushi wanted a child more than him. On the contrary she was trying to get things back to normal between them. He got concerned because he saw her with leher twice.
I have always maintained my stand that Arnav loves Khushi a lot. More than it shows in the FF and probably more than we know. I don’t find him guilty on any other count.
But communication stonewalling is his doing. Probably his only mistake. She repeatedly asked him what was wrong and even when she stopped talking about the baby altogether. Kept asking him to come back and he kept sending her away. At the end of the day she is also a human. She also has her limits. I can’t fault her for not immediately giving up her dream of a baby for a husband who wouldn’t even talk and hoping that he might change his mind someday. This is exactly how Arnav also saw her decision and situation and I think the author clarified, had the pill thing not happened, Arnav would have thought that she lied in her anniversary letter about not wanting a child since she could do anything to save the marriage.
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